What an interesting question you've asked Joy. My answer to this question takes us back to the book of Genesis where and how man (humans) were created. Hope i'll be relevant.
When God created man He said, "Let us make man in our own image and our likeness" What is God's likeness? His a loving Father, Who does things in unity and intimacy. This alone makes us humans have a deep need of intimacy, connection and belonging. God was in perfect harmony and agreement with His Trinity when creating man. To top up, we are constantly prayed for by our Lord Jesus Christ desiring that we should be just as 'ONE' as He is with His Trinity through intimacy. This is where and how we were created sis.
The fall of men compromised us through Adam and Eve the total intimacy that was experienced in satisfaction when God came down for fellowship in Eden. Thank God for Jesus Christ who came to restore what was lost in the garden of Eden. Though an altinative plan will always have compromises from the actual original plan. The difference here is that, God doesn't come down anymore like He did in Eden, we instead must reach out to Him for fellowship and satisfaction of our inner most hunger for connection and the very intimacy that we were created from.
Coming down to your question sis, "Do you find abstaining from premarital sex being more difficult for you as a women than is said to be for the brothers?"
Yes it certainly is... Well for me atleast! Simply coz my nature cries out for connection and intimate, especially if ones partner is deeper spiritually, is there another way of getting through God apart from two or more people reaching to Him as one is agreement. Now your entire being becomes vulnerable and can't help it but to will to give inn altogether coz one was created from this nature of love and agreement in intimacy.
In goes down to how well one connects with God when with your partner. I doubt there's any sense in this, can't say it right in writing.
Amstel.....please feel free to participate here on this thread(smile)! Having a males' input regarding this subject, can only bring additional insight! Thank you.
As for the response of my friend........wow!!(smile) In your consistent way Sisy, you have again given food for thought....spiritually and in the natural!
The only thing that I'd like to share in addition to your note is that as the body of Christ, we will always be held to a higher standard for The Kingdom! As God's creation, we were made (men and women) with attributes that are different and unique to each of us, but when fused together as one, fitting together wonderfully as a square peg in a square hole(smile)!!!
To that end, "society" wants to tell us how we should play our proverbial roles in a relationship......men be the aggressor, the pursuer.....women be docile and unchallenged! But I digress........as you said Sisy, the innate, sexual desires both genders have been created with from God, like every other character trait we possess, will have to ultimately be given back to Him......placed in His mighty hands! Knowing that's the only way upon this journey in Him we can walk boldly, continuously and victoriously through temptation and sin! Praise The Lord!
I wanted to send you a message privately, for some discussions with you and sissygirl, but I can't because of barriers. I would like to know if you can send a private message to me, and if yes, kindly do so. I have already asked sissygirl to help relay the message to you, in case she can get to you.
In my little mind I have always thought it hard for the men to abstain more than the ladies.
As an individual i don't find it hard at all,it just depends on what I fix in my mind.
All the same I think both men and women need to earnestly ask for self control.It all depends on how self controlled one is.Though sometimes it fails coz we are only human.Thus we need to be in prayer all the time.
Jesus told His disciples that they need to pray so that they don't fall into temptations.
"We can do all things in Christ Jesus who strengthens us".
