A woman's life is meant to be a gift to be shared and benefit those that are surrounding her, not something to be reserved for selfish reasons and therefore miss the main purpose of its existence. Since we ladies are registered with this dating site, with most of us (you) searching for our life time partners, what better way to unlock our potential gifts and share them with others than starting with our found partners here (hopefully will eventually meet our mates) by submitting our thoughts of how to come about laying a foundation that will sustain a life time relationship?
Does this mean we're too ahead of guys or taking their gender place of leadership in relationships? I'd really like to hear your answer on this one.
My personal answer is 'NO' we're not even attempting to take their place but rather taking our gender place too of submission, as we're submitting our ideas in partnership with them of how to ensure that the efforts invested in building a relationship that should lead to marriage is actually worth the effort.
The bible says that "Two are better than one." (two heads so to speak) My understanding of the above qoated verse it that... Matters are better resolved if two or more are working together as a team, putting ideas on the table of how to go about solving whatever case that may be on their path. At times circumstances may seem beyond us until ideas are shared in how to come about facing what needs to be dealt with. Then the burden that seemed heavier before is now lite since parties involved are working together in achieving the same goal. It's now less about who implemented the idea (gender matters not) but more of the ideas presented to benefit both equally.
This post ladies is inspired by the following passage.
Genesis 11:1-9 about those fellows who intended to build a tower that reaches to God in heaven. God was the first one to be 'intimidated' if I should make use of the word INTIMIDATED to better describe how He seemed to have felt when seeing these ones building the tower. Please don't get me wrong reader, God is not any less MIGHTY, GLORIOUS, POWERFUL and in control of things when reflecting His 'weaknesses'. His actually at His best even when reflecting being 'weak or intimidated'
Don't we then think that He has entrusted us LADIES with the same keys, tools, wisdom and courage to shake Him and intimidate Him once more but rather in a godly way this time, by supporting our partners enough to submit our ideas of a better foundation to lay a relationship on? Didn't Jesus say that anyone building with Him not being the foundation, that fellow is building invain?
He has given us His word today as a foundation of our lives let alone long lusting relationships. Can't we use the same word or even the very passage for that matter (Genesis 11) that intimated Him from the first place, use it to as a foundation of the relationships that we're hoping to find here or in any other dating site? Won't we hold hands with our found partners and present this idea through SUBMISSION as we let them LEAD us to God through this passage when committing the relationship to Him?
Was taken by these words when God said, "6, Indeed the people are one and they all have one language,... Now nothing that they propose to do will be withheld from them." Couldn't help but imagining a marriage relationship rooted on this passage as a foundation. God Himself said, "Nothing these people propose to do will be withheld from them."
I don't see this marriage breaking through out life time.... Maybe shaken, yes. But certainly not breaking!
I miss all of you beloved ladies, and wondered what to post you while thinking of you in my absence from the site. What are other bible verses that you're thinking of that can be used as a foundation of a marriage relationship if we were to submit those verses to our partners when comfortable enough to let them lead us to God presenting and committing the relationship to Him?
My sister.....it's so good to hear from you! It's been awhile(smile). And of course I've missed your invoking posts.....
I have to dive in here, heart first, so my friend please bear with me! Yes, most sisters who've signed onto this site and others like this one, are prayerfully expecting to find that "special someone" whom they could eventually and hopefully become one with......forging forth in doing the work, now as a team, they've been called by God in this earth to do! No question about that! Many, like myself, have been married before. Whether then as unbelievers or Christians, the experiences and lessons learned.....invaluable! Those who've never been married before, are still hopefully bringing to the table experiences that will no doubt be very necessary and important to the success of their marriages!
Our understanding of "submission" to our husbands as the head of our households is crucial, yet subject to our own personal interpretation! Yet as God so lovingly exclaimed, thru the apostle Paul, but inspired by The Holy Spirit:
Ephesians 5:22-24..."Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing"
I myself, will always interpret that as though going into a marriage "partnership"......equal in thought, ideas, wisdom, intuition etc., I will know my place as a wife who in her spirit, will have to be assured that as she's "submitted" under the headship of her husband, he no doubt is fully committed and submitted under the "headship" of The Lord, Christ Jesus! There could be no compromise in that! I however would never want to put the full burden on my spouse to make all important decisions.....that should be done together, prayerfully, equally and wisely!
Now as for your post being long and whether it made sense....of course it did(smile)! The only thing I have to give my thought about is your interpretation of Genesis 11:4-9. The Lord was disappointed, jealous, angered and saddened by the gross disobedience and sin of the people of the land of Shinar(later renamed Babylon). His Person will never be denied and because of their sin, He then had to find someone who would obediently help fulfill His redemptive plan.....Abraham! Could that example be used as a type and shadow of a "foundation" a marriage can be built upon......I'm not sure! But I think I do understand what you meant!
Their disobedience unfortunately bought God's raft upon them by eventually not allowing them to continue to all speak the same language! Not being able to communicate with someone who you don't speak the same language with........well you know how frustrating and almost impossible that can be(smile)! When it's all said and done my friend, I thank God for Jesus and thank Jesus for The Holy Spirit.....who speaks to those who believe with a "heavenly" language that we can understand! Praise be to God! Be blessed my friend and it's great to have you back, even if it's only temporary(smile)!
I really understand where you're coming from, in actual fact these fellows grieved God beyond description and yes there's nothing much to take from them especially in a sense of laying a marriage foundation.
I've often viewed this passage with a narrow mind until now when helped by the Holly Spirit in taking only what's beneficiary concerning power in unity and speaking the same language. When referring to 'language' i'm not referring to our physical spoken languages example, me speaking an African Zulu language while you speaking English and someone speaking a language from his/her country that we won't understand. I'm more about flowing on the same pace with your chosen partner in a way that he embraces the ideas that you submit to him, understanding that you on the same page with him moving towards the same goal of being approved 'one' by God himself. Then when coming up with ideas of sustaining this for longer, you're not talking a strange language that he doesn't understand or coming across as 'forceful' on him, though I really understand what you mean about what's happening in this passage. Hence I said dear we can use the same passage in a way that glorifies God this time around, not necessarily making him angry again.
God saw people who were gonna make it to heaven if He didn't frustrate them through different languages. Nothing was gonna be withheld from them only for their attitude of unity. This is exactly what i've taken from being united.
Thank you darling sis for sharing another verse that can be used in laying a foundation of marriage and for partaking on this as always. Hearing from you means a great deal to me!
Can I ask you this please,... Were you reading Henry. H. Halley's book? (It's a bible school book that explains and clarifies the bible for those who are studying it as some sort of a couse)
Reason i'm asking dear is coz I come across a sentance that took me back to your above reply. Its written as you've qoated it and you're now making more sense as I combine this passage with your reply.
