Author	Thread: To be or not to be�With Somebody?
Crowned278 View Profile History	To be or not to be�With Somebody? Posted : 3 Mar, 2014 04:32 PM Hi Ladies Just a quick question for discussion. Im a 27 year old young man with faith and currently heavily career minded and not really in a position to develop a relationship but instead rather just a friendship instead. Im a student so I'm not exactly financially ready which makes things more of a challenge as being financially stable is important. Do you think that it would be advisable to step into a relationship while in this stage of life? How would you feel about dating a guy that was not ready for marriage in different ways but would be committed if he had the chance and opportunity? How do you think a young man like myself can work together with somebody to make sure that sexual boundaries are not cross before marriage while in a relationship? Do you think its best to enter a relationship when the couple are both ready to marry rather than entering into a relationship where either one is not ready for marriage e.i financially? Is it possible to have a long term relationship without sex? Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	To be or not to be�With Somebody? Posted : 3 Mar, 2014 11:16 PM Crowned278.......I must first commend you for your honesty! At least you know exactly what you can bring to the table in a "relationship" at this time, allowing any potential mate to make their own prayerful, yet adult decision on whether they really can or want to commit emotions, time and resources in a relationship with you! It's admirable of you(smile)! Many would not be so transparent! But I sense that even with all that you feel your not really ready to contribute now to a life partnership, you'll make up for, as you stated, in being faithful and committed when the chance does comes about.....kudos to you child of God! Now as for a "quick" answer to your slew of questions....well quite frankly there isn't! I just sense that your trying your best to simply go with the flow......whether it be a friendship only or a potential romance, you will have to ultimately make a decision......whichever one emerges from interacting with folks here or on any other site for that matter......are you going to allow The Lord to guide your steps, showing you what HE has for you and what type of relationship He wants you to pursue?! Just my opinion........ Oh and btw, abstinence should be for as long as necessary until you've BOTH become one in The Lord......period! Be blessed and may The Lord truly give you the desires of your heart! Post Reply
Crowned278 View Profile History	To be or not to be�With Somebody? Posted : 5 Mar, 2014 12:24 AM Im big on transparency and honesty. Things don't really work as well without them although some things in life must never be spoken of at times but lets leave it at that will we. I don't think its possible to for me as a christian to engage with a woman if I'm not yet ready to marry and if i think i want to do so it would first have to start out as just being friends first before any relationship ever began. Don't you agree? Friendship is my preference whatever the case, allowing God to be apart of that process is probably one of the most important things in everything including a relationship and i also want to serve God in more ways than one and just having a marriage and family. Following Jesus is all i really want to do in life but i believe I'm really not made to do that by myself and having a companion and partner in life's journey would make it all the more better. Thanks for your reply. Blessings Post Reply
me30u? View Profile History	To be or not to be�With Somebody? Posted : 18 Mar, 2014 08:14 AM I would love to have my 2 cents in here :) Do you think that it would be advisable to step into a relationship while in this stage of life? - yes and no..yes if you both understand..NO if one party does not understand How would you feel about dating a guy that was not ready for marriage in different ways but would be committed if he had the chance and opportunity? -personally i love to date a guy who is ready coz i am ready and im not that young not unless that guy will make me realize that i can wait lil more and that he is committed while i wait How do you think a young man like myself can work together with somebody to make sure that sexual boundaries are not cross before marriage while in a relationship? -this is between you and your partner boundaries can be set and can be cleared just make sure you both agreed :) Do you think its best to enter a relationship when the couple are both ready to marry rather than entering into a relationship where either one is not ready for marriage e.i financially? -best to enter relationship if there is love, understanding and trust Is it possible to have a long term relationship without sex? -YES Post Reply
Gifted2 View Profile History	To be or not to be�With Somebody? Posted : 16 Jun, 2014 05:46 PM Your questions are good ... but I suspect you are long gone from the site and not reading replies by now. Still, I will voice my concerns about dating and commitments. #1 ... I worry about the American emphasis on finances to found a relationship. God says HE supplies all our needs according to HIS riches in Christ Jesus. Why am i concerned? ... Satan may be the author of this American perversion that says a young man MUST be financial secure to marry. ? ready? You cannot know the future. But God does! Satan may well have pulled young men into failing to step forward into the role of husband, head of family and spiritual authority ... #2 ... Nature abhors a vacuum. IF you do not step up and take responsibility for the woman that is intended by God to be your spouse, then you may leave her loose in the world facing adversity ALONE and becoming more and more disillusioned, damaged and eventually thinking she is forsaken. WHY???? #3 ... Money can become an idol that is worshiped rather than an item that is just one of many that we are to be good stewards of in life. #4 ... God declared it was GOOD when Adam had his EVE. Two people working together toward a goal is always better. Most of the longest lasting marriages were begun by youngsters with dreams (and family members to encourage them and help them achieve them). I do not discount the role of older parents to help new couples survive. Think about it. QUESTION: Does God hold a man accountable if the man hesitates to marry and the girl is later injured, raped or killed? Interesting thought? How much does God order the lives of man? Post Reply