On our previous chatt on the guys' section about the fall of men in Eden, I learned that we ladies are suppose to be a true description of what God expects from the church... Submission and heart filled services to our chosen husbands, as Teach mentioned some of the services we ladies are to excel in performing, those were: Constantly praying for him, being courageous and supportive, at times going as far as leaving your profession so you mother he's kids (especially new borns) until they grown enough for you to cope with motherhood, being a wife and coperate industry. Not sure if this one went down very well as I red about it. Must be the most crucial and demanding decision to make, secrifizing your income and being dependent... He must really be loyal with money for one to trust him with such a risk. I've seen weman returning to work sooner than we expect them from metenity leave, that speaks volumes about the relationship she's involved in. Though that's not what I wanna dwell in right now
My question to you dear sis is: What would be your service to your husband that will be communicating 'him being your lord' without saying in words but rather through a practical act that will be more pleasing to God watching you doing it, and maybe him (the husband) misunderstanding you.... Which I hope he won't, while you will be carrying on ministering to him confidently even when misunderstood, knowing God delights in you doing that?
My question to you is inspired by what Jesus did when serving by washing He's Disciples' feet. Remember He came to show us what submission and service to one anothe is?
Will you share dear sis what your remarkable service is gonna be for the glory of the Lord even when misunderstood, keeping in mind he's interests and the kind of a person that he is ofcause. :nahnah:
Sisygirl, what a provocative question! I read your post earlier but I wanted to earnestly meditate and think upon some things before I responded! So forgive me for my tardiness in answering(smile)!
To make a long story short......after what I've experienced here at CDFF( the bantering back and forth with brothers, who if we were honest with one another, are BOTH coming to mutual conclusions that we may not find, here, what were really looking for), and asking myself if this avenue was the right one for me to seek my life partner......well I've still come to the same conclusion no matter where we'll find one another: I intend to be that "virtuous" women that God created me to be for my spouse! I intend to intercede in prayer for my life partner without hesitation! I intend to make whatever sacrifices necessary to strengthen the success and long life of our marriage, yet still try and be a blessing to others! Most importantly, I intend to seek The Lord's guidance and direction, for myself, on how to accomplish this "bucket list" of standards that only He can help me to succeed in(smile)lol!!
Reality check my friend: My spouse and I will have to BOTH, by the power of The Holy Spirit, submit ourselves under His leading and direction.....period! We can go toe to toe on this till the cows come home, it won't change a thing! Our obedience to the will of God, together, will be the true test for our success! I hope this answers your question my sister. If not, I know you'll let me know(smile)lol!! Be blessed woman of God!
Yes dear i'm answered and thank you for replying back. There seems to be less hope of finding a mate for those who are fishing in this site. After the previous chats when people spoke their concerns of not getting replies when sending massages to fellows here, I tried sending few massages initiating friendship, not a single one wrote back instead they viewed my profile over and over which kinda amazed me cause there's nothing really interesting written in my profile. I recall didn't even know what to say about my self.
So yeah I hear what you saying about not being sure if you'll find what you're searching fore in this site. When saying "My spouse and I will have to BOTH, by the power of The Holly Spirit, submit our selves under His leading direction..." that is so well said darling sis though raising another question.
Let's say that you do find a partner either here or on another dating site or even meeting him inperson for that matter, and your partner has kids from the previous marriage relationship (looking at the reality of your age, you're most likely to meet someone with kids and maybe divorced.)
You being the lady of the house weither living with the kids or not, how will you ensure that you influence a fair healthy relationship between your husband and he's kids in a sense that they all receive the same blessings, even if you may feel one doesn't really deserve the father's blessing. In short Joy... How will you prevent your step kids from growing up bitter towords one another cause one of them may have missed the father's blessing for whatever reason, and therefore hating the other one who maybe well deserving cause he/she's the blessing to both you and your spouse.
What will you do in avoiding what Rebekah did, Isaac's wife when taking sides among her biological children?
Sisygirl.....I have to say one thing, I am so grateful for Jesus Christ! Just think in earlier biblical times, God brought condemnation and judgment to His children(the Israelites) without a blink. The example you bought up regarding Rebekah and Jacob....imagine that in all their blatant disobedience, God stayed focused! The Messiah was destined to come thru that lineage!
Now fast forwarding to your additional question regarding how I would handle a hypothetical scenario of having a spouse with children and being able to help keep the peace in our home. Well to be honest, I'm aware that we are ALL on a learning curve with each new change in our lives! I would pray that for me personally, I would be a blessing not a hindrance to the relationship between my husband and his children. Aware always that these are not my biological children, I would try and just be a positive influence, interceding when needed.
I would always let them know that though I've married their father, I could never replace the relationship they have with their mother! But I'm there for them if they need me. Frankly that's all I should do, outside of praying for them and encouraging them! Stay blessed my sister in Christ!
Hi Sisygirl, jumping in on the stepchildren question...I was a stepmom for several years. I had to encourage my husband to stay in touch with his daughters even when it was challenging...they lived in another state.
I ensured they got Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, and other tangible tokens of love. When they spent time with us, I included them in whatever activities possible...took them with us on a 3 week vacation to meet extended family on both sides.
Even after we divorced, I helped them with homework over the phone and stayed in ouch with them for many years.
Was the business mission accomplished that you traveled for?
You don't have to answer those here... I'll inbox you later.
Being one of your either step or biological child, would have been the most great blessing in the word. You so warm and kind, any child would love to have you around.
On our previous chatt on the guys' section about the fall of men in Eden, I learned that we ladies are supposed to be a true description of what God expects from the church... Submission and heart filled services to our chosen husbands, as Teach mentioned some of the services we ladies are to excel in performing, those were: Constantly praying for him, being courageous and supportive, at times going as far as leaving your profession so you mother he's kids (especially new borns) until they grown enough for you to cope with motherhood, being a wife and coperate industry.
Not sure about all of that� the curse was women will long for our husbands� and have pain in childbirth�.
I have found this curse�s both to be true� man�s attention is so easily drawn away (this is where we have to be creative but that�s why G-d gave us our women skills men don�t have�.lol and, well ever have a child of natural birth and you�ll find out� the church is male and female all of the human race is His bride.
Now submitting�. Not so bad when I have someone who does love me like Messiah loves the church, who understands prayers go unanswered because of how he treats his wife�. If he is a walker after Y-shua, and loves me like that, then yes I want to submit� even if he misses the mark on occasion� like I have said before the problem with women (me) we don�t want to wait for this type of man�.
I think the greatest service is giving up the right to be right!!!! There are times when men are stupid, especially with money, and you just see it plain as day he is WRONG!!!!!! But you pray, he still doesn�t get it� but if he is all the things G-d created him to be and he is serving G-d, trust G-d to make it all just be ok�. Sometimes giving up the right to be right and giving it to G-d is the greatest act of selfless love I have found (not just with a man by the way)�. But what can be so hard about that is not trusting the man because you know he is wrong but trusting G-d to have you covered for being obedient!!!!! Esteeming other higher than yourself like His Word says to.
