To somehow find this devine solid cornerstone to root the marriage relationship on?
Since we human beings are having issues with our selves often times, and our own weaknesses that can ruin relationships with our loved ones' if matters to be resolved are not dealt with accordingly
How then can we ensure that, the marriage is not threatened/intimidated by our personal issues and weaknesses, in a sense that we find a cornerstone that will keep the marriage sustained even when our issues and weaknesses get the best of us?
Is it possible to find something devine enough to protect beyond our nature with limitations and second thoughts if this agreement through our marriege vows seem to be failing us?
Oh sisygirl......yes we can find that cornerstone in and thru Our Savior Christ Jesus!
Ephesians 2:20---And are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ being the chief corner stone;
1 Peter 2:4-6----4-To whom coming, as unto a living stone, disallowed indeed of men, but chosen of God, and precious, 5-Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ. 6-Wherefore also it is contained in scripture, Behold, I lay in Zion a chief cornerstone, elect, precious: and he that believeth on him shall no be confounded.
As you can see my sister in Christ, when we trust that thru Jesus, we have been made "cornerstones" to build a "spiritual house"(of human significance) in this earth for kingdom glory! When He then couples us with that life partner of same mind in holy matrimony, then we can do nothing but succeed and glorify Him in every and anything we do in this earth! Including having a solid, loving and long lasting relationship! But we have to trust that with our whole hearts no matter the test, trials or tribulations! Praise God!
"When He then couples us with that life time partner of the same mind in holy matrimony, then we can do nothing but succeed...."
Its almost as if you can read my mind Joy, you said just what is in my mind when asking this question. I was thinking of the benefits of success not because maybe anyone is doing well between the two joined together as one, not because one of the two is connected or rubbing shoulders with decent/better people that are therefore impacting he's/her life in a possive way, not because of better education and employment in high class places.... But only because God the creator of marriage honors this agreement so much and has blessings reserved for only those who are in this covenent together with Him.
Having said the above I don't mean that education and decent employment are not necessary. Though I'm more focused on the priceless blessing that can only be received and sustained if only the two remain with each other just as this agreement is supposed to be. Yes Joy one can do well by him/her self should this not work out, though that's besides the point right now... The point is finding something to keep the marriage from harm, divorce and any other sort of separation should one day these two find themselves being failed by their issues and weaknesses.
"...But we have to trust that with our whole hearts no matter the test, trail and tribulation.."
That's a tough one hey, if one should think deep of what pressure does to us at that appointed time. Yes dear sis the end result can bring out great fruits, though how one behaves while going through,
Pressure can make us say things we don't mean, words will wanna take back later when told what we said when we were going through.... I don't think Job's wife meant what she said when saying to Job "Curse your God and die" thank God Job was sober minded even in he's worst period of trail.
Thank you Joy for your feedback. Just gaven me something to read through by your qoated verses.
Sisygirl the great love stories are still true� my father has been married for over 30 years, one of my sisters for over 20, my mom was married for 21 years (until her husband died), my grandma was married for over 65+ years until my grandpa died�.
I am divorced because I didn�t follow the Word of G-d when I married. We were unequally yoked and I know it from the get� no matter what happened to me in the marriage I am responsible for disobeying the Lord. If I would have not married unequally yoked and waited I would either still be married or not have married at all. G-dly marriage is not the problem� we are � we don�t do it!!! Obay G-d�s Word for marriage in the first place� so we devorce!!!
Putting all trust in Christ Jesus and following Him with all our hearts,loving as God would like us to do(though its not easy) can keep a relationship happy for a long time.
When you trust God with all your heart for your relationship,with the fear of God in you,then you have a strong corner stone.
You will never be able to say those things that people say and regret later,coz the fear of the Lord is in you.Instead when you find things not pleasing you kneel down,report and ask God to intervene.And He does.
Remember the bible says "the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom".
And that is all you need(wisdom) to have a successful relationship.
My marriage broke coz i didn't know this.If i knew what i know today i would be a very happily married woman.Without wisdom one can destroy alot of things in life without realizing.
But i thank God for 'everything works for good for those who fear the Lord'.
Best wishes on your seach, may God meet your need.
Though I must warn you friend, your profile pic is a little confusing, I thought you're the lady until I viewed your profile. People are struggling to find partners here when having clear pics. I'm not desiding on your behalf that you should change your pic... Its not my place to do that, was just saying dear...
"When you trust God with all your heart with your relationship, with the fear of God in you then you have a strong corner stone." Well said my sister, if only both parties can have that same mindset so there's balance in the relationship.
Your reply is very profound as I kept reading it. My concern since i've been asking married people what kept the relationship going for so many years? Most of their replies were: "Kids... I don't want my kids growing up in brokenness of family"
Was a little fair though when I gave it more thought, kids were not there when you two decided to commit. In as much as it breaks them when parents divorce, it does them no good again growing up in an unhealthy marriage relationship fore what they're exposed to (could be constance fights) forms who they grow up to be. I then wondered if at all there was something beyond the nature of our being with weaknesses that can sustain a marriage relationship in a healthy manner since "important things as staying for kids sake" turns out to harm the very kids that we're saying we'll remaining married for their sake.
And believe me dear sis you're the better person now from what you were before you've divorced. At times it takes the worst to bring out the best in us. You'll make a great wife in future.
