Author	Thread: fear of growing old alone
Admin	fear of growing old alone Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 09:23 PM Im 59 and was married 25 years.She died from cancer.Now Im by my self yet no woman seems to want me and Ive been depressed due to this.Many woman say Im attractive but thats as far as it goes.Im too shy to start a convesation with any and dont know what to say for an icebreaker.Sometimes when I do manage to talk I get shot down (rejected)Im loseing hope in all this.Im not getting any younger I need help. Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 31 Oct, 2013 11:56 PM Puppy51657, Think back to how you romanced the woman who became your wife, and do that again with someone new. When considering someone, read their profile carefully, to find out what they want. Quite often men and women have different goals on dating sites. And, try to fish in your own age range; that may lower your rejection rate. Give yourself some time to get used to being on your own; being alone is not so bad, once you get used to it. I've done it over 19 years now, and I'm prepared to finish out the remaining 30-40 alone, if I must. Feeling desperate is not going to get you anywhere on a dating site. So, calm down. Start enjoying your life as it is; go out, do things. Hang out with friends. Whatever you have to do to feel happy on your own. Happy people are attractive to the opposite sex. Desperate people, not so much. Oh, and prayer works, too. So, asking God to bring you His choice of someone special is important. Hope those tips help you, brother. I pray the Lord brings you happiness, with someone or not. Ask for His Will in your life. God bless, --Cat Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 1 Nov, 2013 08:04 AM Sorry about that brother.Take heart don't loose hope.Pray for joy and happiness from the Lord that surpasses human understanding. When you seek God first He will grant your heart's desire. Choose to be happy regardless of the situation you are in and you will see things getting easier.But you have to really pray about it. Its not easy but God makes it easy. My best wishes to you bro. Post Reply
misdiane View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 1 Nov, 2013 08:25 AM Just be patient brother. If God gave you the desire, he will also grant it..in His time. It;s always best to wait on God. Post Reply
View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 1 Nov, 2013 11:12 AM thank you for your advice.I did have much luck with the woman as far back as I can remember so Im just preparing myself to remain alone.Yah I get depressed sometimes but Im embracing solow .I was a litle depressed when I wrote the first letter but Im good now.Again thanks for the advice :) Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 2 Nov, 2013 01:59 PM I love this question, because this is where Y-shua becomes real�. Real to me�. To be honest that was my biggest fear!!!! I love having a human man (husband) for many reasons � head of the household, financially, decisions, companionship�. The Lord is our help mate but I had to get that out of my head into real everyday life�. when I come home I had to go from a human to tell about my day to Him, when I am facing a challenging decision I had to go from a human to Him to ask what to do, when I am lonely I had to find wholeness in Him�. In theory it sounds good but I actually had to do it�. I had to work at a marriage with Y-shua just like a flesh and blood husband�. Not just a simple god I fit into my life� He for real deal had to become my best-friend, my soul mate, and my spouse as well as my G-d� He had to become my all in all�. BUT HE DID!!!! HE IS!!!!! He is what no human can ever be and more� do I want a human touch? Yes. When He sees fit it will happen or it won�t but either way He has become enough. Lord, please show puppy51657 all of your majesty, you fill us and you fulfill us, in the name of Y-shua puppy51657 be filled with His spirit!!!! May the Lord bless you and keep yopu, may the Lord make His face shine upon you and give you His peace. In the name of Y-shua�. Amen! Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 2 Nov, 2013 06:35 PM puppy What mcubed wrote. She nailed it. Sincerely sorry to hear about the death of your wife. In my marriage, I was lonely when we were laying in bed together. When I fast I use hunger pains to remind me to pray. When I start to feel loneliness to infringe on my life, I know that it is a sign that I need to draw closer to Jesus. Whatever your case I trust that Jesus is near to you, a friend closer then a brother and I pray that He manifests His presence in your life. r Post Reply
View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 4 Nov, 2013 01:43 PM Make friends at church, do social things like take a college course or learn how to play golf or go to a local football game...then you won't be thinking of being alone. It helps me. Post Reply
beulah707 View Profile History	fear of growing old alone Posted : 13 Dec, 2013 06:50 AM hello brother, we are sorry to hear about your loss. there's nothing more painful than losing a partner in life. i completely understand why you do not seem to have any "luck" on finding a new partner. it's normal. as you have said, you were married to her for 25 years. imagine the comfort of being with a person who understands you even if you don't talk, and a BFF who cannot be replaced. what is strange about being in long term relationships is it changes our ability to communicate, i.e. when you meet a woman, your tendency is to act as if she is your wife -- your communication patterns, your thoughts, your assumptions. it's normal. so i pray brother that you find comfort in the Lord. that He opens your heart to start over, not necessarily with another woman, but to let people into your life. To invest again, to build relationships again, to have deep friendships. may our Lord Yeshua heal your heart. God bless you! Post Reply