She says "I am a woman who loves God and is passionate about Him. I would like to have a Godly man who is the spiritual leader of the home." :prayingm: or, "I'm a born again woman that fears God and I am looking for a man puts God first and his wife second." :angel: She likes food, going out, movies, walks in the park and picnics, drives in the country and Christian music. It really doesn't matter who she is because she is nearly every woman who's profile I see here.
When I was in the music business I learned that Country music is written for Debbie. Debbie is a 30 something mom with three kids, drives a mini van or SUV, goes to bars on Friday night and church on Sunday. She might be married, but is likely separated or divorced, angry about either and wants a better life with a better man. There's more but you should have the point by now. Debbie represents the Country Music demographic and Country Music makes millions of dollars off of her. And just so you know, Contemporary Christian music has almost the same demographic. Because Debbie buys music more than any one.
When I see profiles with statement like "I'm a God fearing" or "loves God" etc. and want a "Godly man" I cringe just a little. These statements are on many of the profiles here and this is the demographic men have to "market" themselves to. I really don't know what this means to these women. Does it mean a man that isn't a drunken wife beater or couch potato pot head :devil: that has a good job and will attend church on Sundays and pray with me? :prayingf: Or does it mean a man that is a leader in his church, maybe a pastor, elder or deacon, a Sunday school teacher or camp counselor? Maybe he has to be a graduate of Seminary, is able to walk on water and heal the sick and raise the dead. :bow: Who knows?
Maybe he has to have short hair, looks good in a suit, doesn't drink or smoke, is in amazing physical condition, is in touch with his feminine side, gets a manicure regularly, loves children, cats, dogs and horses and never, ever swears.
And what about her can make me believe she loves God and is passionate about Him? If you're a real believer, why wouldn't you be? And why wouldn't you want a Godly man?
I realize that some people just come here to check out the site and don't want to go to the trouble of filling out the profile. They are "just looking". Sometimes it's a one line profile. "I love God and I want a Godly man." Sometimes there is more information but it is often not very helpful in determining whether or not she loves God and what she means by Godly man.
So just for the record and in the language of CDFF's Debbie, "I'm a Godly man that would be a spiritual leader in the home and I want a woman that loves God and is passionate about Him." You found me!!! :angel: I'm waiting for your email Debbie. And please include a picture that is in focus, doesn't need rotating, doesn't have another man or your dog or cat in it and above all be smiling!!
:laugh: Great post. Funny thing... I have heard that whole, " I want a Godly man" thing so many times. In reality, it's almost never true. Then, of course, there is this question, "define Godly?". I had a woman look me straight in the eye one time and tell me that I wasn't "Godly enough for her". What she meant by it is that I wouldn't "pray in tongues and roll around on the floor in church". She ended up marrying a guy that was "more Godly" than I was. He beat her routinely until she finally left him.
Ok, Ok, Ok......fellows stop! Whewwww.....I read this post and it's one response and all I could say first is, thank God that's not me(read my post)(smile)lol!!! Second, it's very, very, very important to be careful how you generalize what women want in a Godly relationship!!! If men and women are really honest with themselves, they really don't no what they want, until it literally finds them!! The literally "finding them" part is more than likely who God puts in your path.......
The question is, were both your levels of discernment up high enough to recognize that it was The Lord, or was our menu list of wants so long and the print so big, that we couldn't see over or around it:eat:lol!! We unfortunately, are ALL guilty of this, but it's a part of the human experience! Taking the good with the bad, realistically, will always be a part of this process of finding our "soul mates"......get over it and enjoy the journey(smile)!! God bless you, my brothers in Christ.
HJMP, I like your response. The menu part reminds me of some lyrics in a song I wrote called "Broken Heart Cafe" the lyric relates to having looked at the menu and placed our order. The lines are , "our love doesn't look like the picture, so we let it get cold on our plate".
My point is simply that it doesn't make sense to make vague or ambiguous statements and then expect to find anything specific. Men aren't good at reading between the lines sometimes and we like all the cards on the table so we can look the whole thing over. When it comes to something as serious as choosing a woman, whether it is just to date or to marry, we like to know what we're dealing with. As IWA pointed out so "eloquently", if a woman thinks a Godly man is one thing and the Godly man thinks it's something else then there is room for a conflict of some kind.
Yes God puts them in our path. Yes we have to have our "ears" on and yes we should not have a list of wants and desires so big that it's all we can see. By the way, You know I take my check list on a first date and I pull it out right away and I start checking things off: has hair, check, can see, check, can hear, check , has a nice set of teeth, check, speaks clearly and succinctly, check, knows the difference between dispensationalists and preterists, uh oh!! (actually I think that's on IWA's list :ROFL:) Laughs like Fran Drescher. Good bye!!!
What the man believes, how he practices his beliefs, and how he treats others that may differ from his beliefs is most important to me. I am not as concerned about looks, height, weight, job, education, etc as I am with his walk in life.
If that bugs you, then you are definitely not for me.
But I don't talk about anything like that in my profile. I let you know who I am, what I believe, and where I am at in my life. I would rather continue through life without another spouse than to be unequally yoked with someone.
I agree with you 100% teach ib. But I would take it a step further, a �godly man� has to walk like I do. What I mean is giving (financially), entertainment, and yes, even what they believe; I will not fight for 40 years should we follow the Law�. Let�s break it down even simpler� if I say I think marriage is for life; well his response should not be that never crossed my mind� and no matter what men may think there are men that stupid, who are �Christians� that would answer it that way�
Everytime I come to this site, that is pretty much the question I leave with, well, sort of, its really not that difficult, as with everything else, its man who makes things difficult. A Godly man reflects God, they cannot be separated. So what am I saying: He puts God's word before worldly reports. Instead of spending hrs watching Fox Legs, he gets his morning directions from God, with gloom and doom reports, he knows his help comes from the Lord. He knows that his political affiliation has nothing to do whatsoever with his salvation and his home in Heaven. When the haters gather, ushered by media, he does not participate in bashing the leader of the country, but instead prays for him, he knows God's got his back so he is not concerned about somebody taking something from him. This wise man is the one in the group who doesn't have the sour disposition, unlike the others; his face doesn't reflect the hate that sinners see when we tell them they need to be like us�. No this guy reflects the love and joy he�s been given through the holy spirit, this guy is beautiful, and everyone that sees him, sees God. Has someone heard someone say, that someone might have seen someone who said they heard a great man say that the curse of the world is not his to fix, but he prefers to focus on the souls that need Jesus? That�s the guy, that�s the man, he realizes, no matter how disgusting the report of a situation may be, prophesy will be fulfilled and to say you believe the word and then attempt to correct the world is wasted time. Jesus said He did not come here to condemn, and He most certainly could have fixed the world but that�s just not the plan..is it? I want the man who may not even be aware of his complete purpose, but he knows the plan is God�s and no state of affairs could ever determine his character.
I actually feel so very blessed to have experienced this site. I am much wiser for it, and I know I couldn't possibly spend my life here with a man that falls short of my expectations..
