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sisygirl

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Just out of interest sake Renov..?
Posted : 3 Oct, 2013 11:23 AM

What if friend you are somehow destined to reconcile with one of your former exe's?



Will you be willing to take that change dear?



Say maybe the timing was wrong when you met, it only happened for whatever reason that only God would know.

He's not at fault that you guys broked up Though He's working on both of you separately, through your current experiences as separated to bring out the best in both of you, in a sense that complements each other as the altimate match.



Just out of interest sake friend

Will you be willing to reconcile with her?

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Posted : 3 Oct, 2013 07:37 PM

Listen; in my head I married my ex-husband for life. We divorced because he is an addict, got drunk on liqueur and liked to beat me, and then on top of that when he �found� AA found a woman who was hotter than me. If he really stayed sober longer than 1 mo. And just wasn�t who people are as addicts I would ask G-d if He wanted me to get back with him.

He is a Christian (always was I just didn�t know all what he was),



If he got, I man really saved like G-d radically saved then yes. But, that has not happened in 10 years, and I�m not hoping for it, or even looking for it.



People are ex-husbands, ex-boyfriends for a reason� usually pretty good reasons. My opinion is G-d will either change you (the woman) or him very dramatically to be His perfect fit. If not, if it didn�t work than it�s not going to work now� working on things doesn�t get it for me�.

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Posted : 3 Oct, 2013 08:33 PM

I think it does depend on the circumstances for the break up and how much time had passed. Time heals or lessens the pain...as we mature in life we will often see things differently or realize things weren't as bad as we thought.

As Mccubed pointed out, an abusive or alcoholic/drug addict spouse or one who's cheated on the spouse, much much harder.

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Posted : 3 Oct, 2013 08:56 PM

Suppose it depends hey



Cause as we grow and mature

We surely see things differently



Thanks ladies!!

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 04:01 AM

I agree with teach ib,it depends on why it happened.

Our understanding changes with time,whatever we said or did 10 years ago,we may find it was not right doing that.This happens for both women and men.

And if the two of you see where things went wrong and are ready to rectify then i think its ok.

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 04:57 AM

Since when does circumstances determine our obedience to God? Thats right it does in the modern day church.



The area of marriage is the one place where in the last days this verse is proven out.....men will be lovers of self more than lovers of God.



Paul goes out of his way to tell us what command from the Lord is concerning husbands and wives yet it is ignored and rationalised away.



Why is this?

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 07:58 AM

Hello my friendship!

How's it going there?



I'm kinda missing your comment OR question how is it related dear to what I asked Renov.



My question to Renov (which he hasn't answered yet.... when i'm sooooooo interested in he's answer) was inspired by he's below post hense I asked just after he's question to ladies about 'boring lines' that we often get when inbox'ed by guys in dating sites.



What you're saying dear carries a lot of wait now that it concerns God's idea of what marriege is,

Though i'm not understanding what you mean in relevance to what I asked Renov.



Explain please friend...?

Good hearing from you in the forum!!

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 10:11 AM

Hehehe late to my own party.

That's an interesting question. Some ex's would be tougher than others to reconcile with, but if it's what God wanted I'd do my best. Most of the reasons we would break up was because of uncertainty on my part anyway. One totally cheated on me though so that would be tougher, but like I said I'd re-open that box.

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 10:25 AM

Your opening sentence got me big big time hey,



Its almost like I could just hear your voice as saying that...



You always make me laugh,

I appreciate that about you.



Thank you for writing back dear one!!

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 07:36 PM

LTM wrote: "Since when does circumstances determine our obedience to God? Thats right it does in the modern day church."

Circumstances always affect our obedience to God.

The OP question did not say anything about an ex-spouse but the responses can apply to an ex-spouse. I could break up with someone before a marriage and reconsider reconciling with him based on changes either of us made. Absolutely nothing unbiblical about that.

I could even be married and separate or divorce for biblical reasons...adultery or abusivenss on the part of the spouse. Then I could comsider reconiling. Or I could decide to remain unmarried or I could find another person to marry. The Bible provides grounds for a marriage to end other than death.

Once we're married we should strive to keep a healthy, enduring marriage. Unfortunately, Satan has his way in too many of them and sometimes some really good Christians find themselves involved in a divorce for a variety of reasons. It doesn't mean they were disobedient to God because the marriage failed. It could be the spouse was disobedient

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Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 09:18 PM

Teach



I maybe wouldn't have said that right



You really understood what I meant to ask LTM.

Thanks dear!!

Renov was never married

My question to him applied to he's ex ladies that he's been with previously, if maybe one of them was meant to be he's wife though the timing was wrong when they met and therefore broked up for whatever reasons, only for God to work in perfecting them so they better suit each other.



But then He'd rather work in them while separated in prevention of a lot of things that could compromise them of their experience together in the near future. It was actually for their own good to meet and separete, so the relationship is 'pending' when they both think its done with.



Teach understood my question to you dear

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