Author	Thread: HJMP
sisygirl View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 30 Sep, 2013 01:43 PM Taking from my current chatt with Teach about the existence of the Holly Spirit, in one of her replies she touched God's protocol of a man being inchange in he's household, of the house itself, money and the rest of aquared things. My question to you dear is: Now that majority of weman these days are indipendent, To a point of rather having a guy moving into her place for whatever her reasons may be Instead of her keeping to herself until the brother provides them a place (weither she has it or not) That surely has an effect of somekind in relationships' How do you think this affect them? (relationships') Just speak your mind dear, Let's have a conversation. Post Reply
View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 30 Sep, 2013 05:49 PM You mean if they're living together, but not married? Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 30 Sep, 2013 07:09 PM I think this may be a cultural difference, I�m not sure but I will tell you this even here in America if a woman tries to impress with money well we have problems. No. 1 impressing with money only attracts a leach (male or female). Maybe some women do have a lot of money but I know very few in real life, including myself. In America our parents kick us out at 18, when we become legal adults� and its skin or swim. Usually we just tread water�;) The majority of women I know live pay check to paycheck. If a guy wants to move in he better have a ring for my finger and we already said those marriage vows. Not to mention if a man wants to move in and has not asked me to marry him, something is wrong!!!! Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 30 Sep, 2013 07:14 PM Well Sisygirl, as R8E8 asked about whether the coupled is already married(which I would certainly hope), I don't think there should be a problem in the husband moving in with his wife in her place, until they decide on other arrangements. On the other hand until marriage, there should be no question as to whether a sister should allow a brother to cohabitate with her.......UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! I hope I'm understanding your question and if not please let me know(smile)! Post Reply
View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 30 Sep, 2013 07:37 PM Yeah, like if they're married and decided they'd move into her place I don't see why it would be a problem. A lot of us do take pride in and enjoy giving the girl we love nice things though, so if it can't be a house, then we'll just find something else. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 1 Oct, 2013 12:41 AM Mcubed I like the idea..... Being tought responsibility as early as 18years And yes dear cultures are different in a way. What if tough You're being married for home security? (taking from your reply dear) HJMP You're making perfect sense dear lady. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 1 Oct, 2013 01:48 AM Renov How's it with you my brother? Yes I meant married dear Post Reply
View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 1 Oct, 2013 10:14 AM Oh still a slave to the grind (working fulltime and cramming for school with no days off), and fantasizing about how to get more hours in a day so I can accomplish everything I need to. How about you, sisigirl? Still on vacation? Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 2 Oct, 2013 08:21 AM Renov ".... And fantasizing about how to get more hours in a day so I can accomplish everything I need to" I understand you friend on that note At times it feels like 24hours is too little looking at commitments we have daily. Glad though that your hecticness involves school, i'd do about anything to go back to school. Pity that financially, i'm not allowed to. Big decisions were made this year when least expected, with more decisions still pending for many reasons So yah.... I envy you when coming to school. Make most of that opportunity while still have it. It will pay out big time in the near future. "How about you, sisigirl? Still on vocation? Yes dear my leave started yesterday on the 1 October, though was home from Monday (was my day off) Then today had to rush to a meeting (my day will be replaced with an extra day as leave before going back to work) that has been pending for a long time now, due to revemp & many other reasons. Just got home now feeling tired hey Thank you so much dear for checking on me, You're a sweet someone there, aren't you? Are you winning with your profile changes? The last time I checked you seemed discouraged a bit. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 03:44 PM Hey Sis, Good question as always. And it has to be a topic of discussion as a relationship progresses. Several factors must go into the decision...especially if it has been a long distnce relationship. Obviously, once you're married, you would want to live in the same home...if not, why get married? First, where are the job opportunities? The discussion will have to happen on job opportunities and careers. Part of that discussion would include of/when children may come into the picture. It's obviously harder on a woman career wise when children are born. Sometimes companies will transfer one to another city, so that should be considered. If you're both in the same area, then the discussion would be which home is better suited for their future together as it relates to work, schools (kids consideration), church, etc. The discussion would have to occur on long term goals for each and together. If/when children come, will mom work or stay home. She might have the larger income but once children arrive, it may be she stays home for several years. Financial planning is important either way. All of these discussions should occur before marriage and readdressed throughout the marriage. The marriage can work if the communications and agreed upon expectations are there. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	HJMP Posted : 5 Oct, 2013 06:24 AM Teach I only saw your reply now dear And certainly glad that you've shared your thought on this, As always you considered important things to be kept in mind before the couple can move in together. You're right dear, This is a subject for onother day, where we can maybe look at the depth of things, While putting on the table solutions of the 'after effects' for decisions taken now. Somethings can be prevented early as the couple is putting sober minds together in deciding what's best not only for them now, but for the possibilities of kids in the near future. Thank you sis' for writting back, only saw your reply now. I learn so much from you hey You're so useful to me. This is what I was hoping for when posting this... The depth and broadness of this. Post Reply