.....with the experiences/lessons of your past relationships, whether failed or successful, what do you want now more than ever to be the cornerstone of your future relationship with your newly appointed, God sent life partner?
Your questions are interesting my sister, wish you were here earlier, though glad that you're here now.
I don't really have much of experiences in relationship, my last boyfriend was around 2004, which is about 9years now. Was surely more younger & na�ve than the woman I turned out to be now. So there's really nothing much to take from my previous relationship, since can't even recall what we broke up over anyway. Instead my current being was more molded by my relationship with family.... Hense I say that I wish you were here earlier, I opened up a lot about my experiences with family in my early days with this site, guees I was bottled up like a boloon waithing to bast at anytime. I didn't know I needed to offload until I interacted with LTM who was selflesley open about he's past experiences of abuse from he's family, couldn't help myself but to talk of my experiences too.
Inshort my answer to your question dear is not at all based on my previous experiences in relationship with boyfriends, but rather with family. Therefore there's a little deviation from the asked question.
The list of my requirements is a little longer yet practical & realistic, which I won't dwell in right now since its not part of the question. I'll only select relevent answers that seem in-line with the asked question.
I desire that my life time relationship with my husband (if i'll have one in future) would be rooted first on God's principles, instructions, values & word about He's idea of marriage. Since Christ is the only true example of marriege. He's the head while we are the body,
The head (christ) does everything to protect he's body (us the church)
He gave the same instruction in He's word to the husbands'
That they should love their wives like He loved the church. Another version says that "they should love their wives like they love their bodies"
You won't abuse your body in anyway-i grew up abused in family to a point of being sexually abused by my older brother (40year old now) i'm done talking about this, i'm only highlighting cause i'm answeing your question.
You won't reject your body cause you're stuk with your self-i was rejected by my father & the rest of the family when I reported this matter & involved authority..... I shamed the family's name apparently and therefore deserved homelessness. Was homeless this year for few weeks until I was sorted out with accommodation, thank God for employment.
You won't starve your body-i grew up lacking food before going to school, therefore failing cause I couldn't consantrate, with my mind disturbed cause an abused child who grew up in a hostile home differs from other kids.
I can go on & on dear.... though I won't cause i'm done talking about it, I have moved on now. And please lady dear don't hurt as reading this, i'm getting over the hurt myself its only a question of time.
So for these above reasons & more other requirements i'd really prefere & appreciate a secure man. Security & acceptance is what I need most.... Which are very rare in my life right now cause even in my current church (since i've changed resident, had to find a new church)
I'm not really loved, its only about 3or4 people I get along with for small talks after church, they grown ups not people my age. Supose with grown ups there's less issues of being threatened that i'll maybe take away their boyfriends... Young ladies only see that in me in my new church, I ended up deciding to embrace that & walk talk as the one whose there to fish for a mate, cause self pit was never in my nature, i'm the kind who accepts the challenge... I now do like wise.
Unconditional acceptance & security are my corner stone in the relationship, provided we are rooted on Christ's idea of a marriege.
