Does it ever bother you that you know the guy who is writing to you may be writing to 100 other women at the same time? How do you feel about this?
I have tried to do before, by the way. LOL But when you're talking with more than one individual, your conversations tend to be short and shallow. When a person is busy, people can usually tell that they're only getting a small amount of the person's attention. It shows.
So, my second question is this: How would you feel if you knew that the guy you're talking to is only talking to you. He is not communicating with hundreds of other women. You're the only one. Wouldn't this be scary? :P
It did bother me initially. I realized however that this is online-dating and that rules here could be different. Any guy on this site, in my opinion, deserves to find the best woman for him and I don't think I am in any position to deprive him on that one.=P
Of course, my answer will be entirely different if we are already on the level of dating each other exclusively ( in person, lol. )
If the guy is talking only to me, that would make me feel very special. I don't think that's scary at all. It's never scary to feel special, unless maybe if I don't like him at all. But of course that's another story. lol.:peace:
"Does it ever bother you that you know the guy who is writing to you may be writing to 100 other women at the same time?" How do you feel about this?"
That wouldn't bother me, it�s looks like a dating site. Yes, I agree about the small amount of a persons attention or lack of communication, these interactions don�t usually last very long, at least not with me. Besides, if a guy is truly interested, I think he�d come up with something to say. I wasn't afraid when a guy communicated with only me, I communicated only with him , but as far as I was concerned we were both uncommitted and free to talk to anyone we wanted. We spoke on the phone every couple of days, and got to a point where it was obvious that we were not a match, which is a good thing. His team beat mine a couple of Superbowls ago, sent a congrats, he responded, life goes on.
This depends entirely on where our relationship is and what they are talking about.
If we are just friends/starting out. It would be stupid to be bothered coz in case it doesn't work out with you it may work out for them.
If we are engaged or close to marriage and you are talking about commitment to someone else, then there is an issue. If you are talking about other things in life. It's all good!
I don't have a problem with it because we are both looking. I have parallel conversations. I am looking for the best person! But if we have an understanding of exclusivity, I would expect that he'd stop looking.
To the first and second questions, there is (somewhat) the same answer. It is really no different then when NOT on the Internet. You can get these types of behaviors from them (male or female) in any given situation. Whether you are 'not' their focus, or you 'are'. If it is a mutually good match (for that time) I would think you would want to be the focus. You can tell when someone is really interested or just playing games. On the Internet they can just do more of it, but you can tell; in the long run they are the loser, but that should not matter to those that chose not to play games. You shake it off, get out of the situation and remember that God is in control; you become a little more Internet savvy, and move on. You won't find what God has planned for you, while wasting time with individuals exhibiting 'childish behaviors' and feeding their egos with shallow activity. And if you 'are' their focus but you do not 'want' to be; then why are you allowing the communications to continue? If you 'are' the focus and that is what you want; great! ...you then keep taking the next healthy Christ Centered step! (:
