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Admin	bad experiences change women... Posted : 16 Jun, 2013 07:27 AM They become skeptical and hard to please. It seems to me that this is only a cultural thing, because women from different cultures think of men differently. My experience has been that women in the USA tend to be very skeptical. A lot of women have been cheated on and lied-to many times. It has a definite tendency to make people cynical and jaded. So, how do I overcome that? I realize that when I start talking to someone, I am just a number. I am boy #79. LOL I also feel that women purposely stand back. They are very afraid of love or liking somebody. How do I overcome that? I guess I should find someone who has never had a boyfriend before or maybe just had one in her lifetime. But those people are really hard to find. Girls like that are also very young--a little bit too young for me. :-/ Post Reply
View Profile History	bad experiences change women... Posted : 16 Jun, 2013 03:39 PM Hi You overcome it with patience and the love of Christ in you towards her. Let her know that you're genuine and can be trusted but remember if she's been hurt in the past this might take a little while. Suggest to her that she prays about everything and encourage her to stay close to God. But the best advice I can give is to be patient with her... and remember that trust is something that grows in time, especially when you've been hurt in the past. Plus remember some people are just initially nervous on dating sites (the reputation of not being all that safe). So that's all it might be.... an initial nervousness of the "online" thing. I'm sure you'll be fine and if you haven't already, will meet someone really special. Just keep going, keep close to God, keep praying and be real :) God bless you brother Jacquie Post Reply
View Profile History	bad experiences change women... Posted : 17 Jun, 2013 05:49 AM Thank you Post Reply
View Profile History	bad experiences change women... Posted : 18 Jun, 2013 04:30 AM My best advice Alive is.....study the life of Christ and His words, actions and attitudes. Pray and listen to God allowing the spirit of God to make you a great man. Great men find great women plain and simple. We find what we are..... Men have it all worng focusing on the whys.....Be a leader and when the rigght women comes along side of you and follows you she will be the one. Its mostly about leading and following as we are lead by Christ and follow Him. Then along the way receiving the love of God for our lives. This dynamic that Christ examples for us is the very dynamic that is to be lived out in christian marriages. It first needs to be lived out and proven in the dating world. Peace and blessings, Post Reply
View Profile History	bad experiences change women... Posted : 26 Jun, 2013 07:45 PM I agree about having patience. A girl who's been hurt pretty much expects to keep being hurt. But if you just be patient, not only will she hugely appreciate the fact that you ARE being patient... she'll also start to think that maybe you're not like the others. Post Reply
zhotik View Profile History	bad experiences change women... Posted : 27 Jul, 2013 01:46 AM Dear alive774, before answer to u I decieded to look at ur profile just to get to know about u more .I saw very long list of what kind ur woman must be... I think Problem is not in girls but in u too...U r very picky... Yes women now is very careful with men...But it is not blame only of women but of men too. There r a lot of people who has a broken heart and it is very pity.Cozz love should create not destroy.Our world is not perfect therefore so much unhappy people.Many people dont know how to love,cozz they have no and dont know real Love.If their resource or jug of love is empty how they can give love to smb?Therefore we need to address to God and ask Him to full our empty jugs of love. When ur jugs will be full u can give people the love adn people who will be near u can feel it.(and girls too). I like what JacquieB wrote.She is right about patient.if u really love smb u can just be patient with her.She appriciate it and then she will give u all her love what she has..Ur patient will be awarded. I wish i patient and find a woman who will fit u for all ur demands what u wrote adn she will be ur queen. Post Reply
View Profile History	bad experiences change women... Posted : 22 Sep, 2013 10:59 AM It was very difficult for me to trust again after my first marriage because he was abusive physically and mentally and even though he gave me 2 beautiful daughters, he made it his mission to hurt me. I truly believe if I had stayed, I would be dead today and my girls would be living the legacy that this kind of treatment was normal. I couldn't have that and thank God they both have good Godly men that cherish them and would never try to harm them. But, after that chapter of my life was finished, I decided to trust my second husband after 4 years of being a single mom, only to have him walk out of our 20 year marriage just last April. So . . . who has advice for me and what I need to look for if I'm blessed to find someone special for the 3rd and final time (I hope)? Thanks and may God bless Kay Post Reply