Author	Thread: Flabbergasted
pilot27407 View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 28 Mar, 2013 12:49 PM Flabbergasted, that�s how I feel. Could any of the smart ladies on this site please shade some light on what�s going on�so I won�t feel so stupid? Most ladies here state their interest in long term relationships and some even mention marriage. Well, that�s fine and I can understand�Christian ladies have serious things on their mind, and are not in the mood to date for fun. Yet, and let me use some example which pops up again and again, let�s say the lady�s 50 but the pictures are 20 years old�what�s she trying to achieve? Or the lady mentioning a few extra pounds (but conveniently forgets to say that there�re a few over 250. And then there is the 50 years old lady who prefers to be contacted by males 35 to 49. Strange I would say. While a 49 male would be close enough to her age she won�t want anything to do with someone a few years older than herself, but encourages someone 15 years younger to contact her. What kind of steady relationship/marriage is she hoping to get from that? Can�t she figure out that by the time she�d be 60 (and show the passage of time), her companion/mate will only be 45 (still young) and probably more interested in chasing after someone younger than himself? Are these ladies really interested in much less than what they stated�and maybe only in a few more years of living in the fast lane with someone much younger? I actually find this behavior somewhat un-Christian like. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 28 Mar, 2013 02:19 PM Would it be "un-Christian" if a 60 year old man was interested in a woman who is 45? Is there perhaps a double standard at work here??? Post Reply
pilot27407 View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 28 Mar, 2013 02:44 PM LOL No double standard. Conveniently you miss the point. I�m not faking my age to attract younger women, nor am I posting a 15-20 year old photo (though I�m told repeatedly that I don�t look my age). Were I to do so, that would be lying and un-Christian. I was talking about women of 55, stating they are 45, and posting pictures of 35�.or those of 250 lb mentioning that they are a �few� ponds overweight. Waiting for your comment. Post Reply
NRSV1953 View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 28 Mar, 2013 03:27 PM You said, "LOL No double standard.". . . Yet you are 60 seeking a female 45-55. How is that different than a woman who is 60 seeking a man 45-55?? You said, "Conveniently you miss the point." . . . What is that supposed to mean??? You said, "I�m not faking my age to attract younger women, nor am I posting a 15-20 year old photo (though I�m told repeatedly that I don�t look my age). Were I to do so, that would be lying and un-Christian." . . . . How do you know these women are faking their age? Or posting 15-20 year old pics? Since I am truthful on both counts, I can't answer for anyone who isn't. You said, "I was talking about women of 55, stating they are 45, and posting pictures of 35" . . . . Again, what makes you think this? Besides, if a woman wants a younger husband, isn't that her prerogative? You said, "�.or those of 250 lb mentioning that they are a �few� ponds overweight." . . . . The choice on here for body type leave women with only a few options. How would you prefer her to"classify" yourself?? Methinks the pot is calling the kettle black. Post Reply
pilot27407 View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 28 Mar, 2013 04:10 PM You�re right on one account, but only one. I, and anyone for that matter, are free to chose. But lying to get something isn�t right. And this is the point you �conveniently� dance around. How do I know they�re faking their age? Simple�take a look for yourself and if you can�t see that some pictures don�t represent a 50 yr old�maybe you need glasses. How do I know that a 66 claimed to be 45 and posted a 20 year old picture? Simple, I met her, and asked for her license. Same with the weight deception�and you can mention in the description, if you want to be honest. Buyer beware, small print disclaimer. LOL Regarding the right of a woman (anyone for that matter) to hook up with someone younger�their business. I personally doubt that a 55 has marriage on her mind with a 35. Statistics show that there are more overweight women than man, that after 50 a woman will age faster than a male. And yes, there are exceptions to the rule, yet I�m talking about the rule not the exception. I watched some of your other comments. Regularly you pick at someone for an insignificant statement and defend the liberal rights of women. Notable initiative but grossly unfair�not to mention tunnelvision and misinterpretation. Post Reply
CuriousGeorge View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 28 Mar, 2013 05:37 PM "but encourages someone 15 years younger to contact her. What kind of steady relationship/marriage is she hoping to get from that? Can�t she figure out that by the time she�d be 60 (and show the passage of time), her companion/mate will only be 45 (still young) and probably more interested in chasing after someone younger than himself?" You may as well delete this part of your post and stick to your other point. oh wait you cant. *shrugs* pot meet kettle Post Reply
View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 30 Mar, 2013 10:10 AM Here's what I have learned about internet dating. Lying happens on both sides men just as frequently as women. Because there is no real way to prevent anyone from being on any dating site all of them attract all kinds of people. Statistics show that 90 % of people on web dating sites lie or exagerate large parts of their profile to attract someone. The hope is that once that person gets to know them the lies or misrepresentations won't matter. A point about your women over 50 age faster than men. Not sure what that means in light of the fact that men do not live as long as women. Average age that men live - 74. Average life span of women - 77. I have not lied in my profile but I find that the large portion of men who contact me do not even bother to read what I have written so that conveys a lack of serious intent on their part. I do not bother with them. I seek a gentleman between 45 and 62 and over 60 poses another set of issues because many of those men are retired and I am not. I also see a lot of men over 50 choosing at this point to become fathers and date women 25-40 and while I think it in poor taste no one judges them for their desire to procreate at such a late stage of life. The last thing I will say is people on this site like to deal in generalities and refuse to acknowledge that there is no such thing as always, ever, and never. Shalom. Post Reply
kuria View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 31 Mar, 2013 05:28 PM I will honestly answer the weight issue since I fall into that category. I think the phrase "a few extra pounds" can be misconstrued and is often dependent on what the reader defines as "overweight". Culture to culture weight is valued in different ways. I don't see myself as being a whale or a hippo and I think, if I did, it would not be a healthy emotion as I would be degrading myself. I see myself as being "a few extra pounds" so that is what I put. I cannot help it if I happen to meet a guy who sees me as being "curvy" or whatever the next category is. It is a opinionated guage. If you want an accurate reading of a literal weight, you might need to petition them to change it to weight categories rather than self-perception categories? Or, you know, you could always ask for an actual weight if that's a true issue. Post Reply
kuria View Profile History	Flabbergasted Posted : 31 Mar, 2013 05:32 PM editing...I don't fall into that "exact" category, but the answer is still the same either way. Also, if I'm going by the "Christian" guage...I'd have to say I'm the daughter of a king, knit together in my mother's womb with his own hands and should be judged by my heart rather than my external appearence anyway right? Just a thought. I do see your point about any outright lies that may be occurring, but, be careful to make those judgements. Post Reply