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Admin	What to do if...... Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 03:25 PM Hi, I'm 18 and I have a problem. I might not be able to have kids, because of some past medical problems I had as a young child and I don't know what I should say to guys. Please help me, I don't want to scare them off. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What to do if...... Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 08:46 PM First of all, let me say that at the young age of 18, I'm not sure why you are on a dating site! There are plenty of single guys near your age out there! But that's your business, not mine. To your question about how to tell a guy that you might not be able to have children... Think about it this way: If you met a man who knew he might be unable to biologically father a child, how and when would you want him to tell you? Personally, if I met a man who couldn't father a child, I would want him to tell me that when the subject of children/family came up naturally. It most likely would not change my opinion of him one way or another, unless he was obsessed with his problem, always felt inferior to other men because of it, still wanted his wife to have a baby naturally through the use of a sperm donor, etc. Does that help? Post Reply
happyjer2911 View Profile History	What to do if...... Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 09:04 PM I agree with bcpianogal. If a man is going to stop dating you or talking to you because of something you can not help then that is his problem. As a young lady myself, there have been times that I have had to tell men about my past. True men will either be ok with it or take a breathe and pray about these things. God has the prefect man for you. I would look into doctors that can help you out with that. Nothing looked into, nothing gained. PM me if you want to talk. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	What to do if...... Posted : 26 Feb, 2013 11:23 PM Sorry about whatever happened to you. I think its good to be open and sincere right from the beginning. Let any past that you feel might affect a relationship be known to the other person,coz i believe 'the earlier the better'.If a guy will not go on with you coz of what you cannot change ,then its good he leaves before you start committing yourself to him,or even falling in love.Let him know you cannot have kids,if he continues to love you then you will know that he is for real. Even about other things don't wait until your partner discovers,let him know. Post Reply
View Profile History	What to do if...... Posted : 28 Feb, 2013 01:43 PM Thank you so much, for all of your advice, it really helped. Post Reply
View Profile History	What to do if...... Posted : 1 Mar, 2013 08:38 AM You might also consider that Doctors can make a woman pregnant by medical procedures, and you could have a surrogate to have a baby for you or for the Man, and there is the option of adoption and foster parenting, so there are other ways of having children. Post Reply
View Profile History	What to do if...... Posted : 1 Mar, 2013 10:18 PM The Lord is God of all things. Lord Jesus had and has authority of all sicknesses and afflictions, He proved that throughout scripture. Take heart, the Lord is willing to work a miracle to those who have faith in Him. Post Reply