Author	Thread: Wanting to get Married
natalie9387 View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 26 Jan, 2013 11:43 AM Ever since I was little my mom had told me about marriage and after seeing it in Disney movies and other movies and TV programs that I too wanted to get married and live my happily ever after. But nowadays most guys don't believe in marriage. OR they do but they insist on if they love their partner that they should have sex before getting married. To me I'm not a very religious person but this is my own beliefs and my own choices etc. To me I think saving yourself until after you are married is the right thing to do. But again guys of today say oh I've been brainwashed, and you should test yourself out before getting married, if you love the guy to death you should have sex with him, your 25 your young, thats when you should have sex in your 20s etc etc etc. I really am getting sick and tired of hearing all of this stuff. I want to save myself for after marriage and thats that. And yes I am a Virgin. A lot of people tel me to try religious dating sites but here's the thing a lot of you guys are very religious when it comes to various faiths. I do believe in God and the Devil and yes I do listen to metal, rock, and punk that discuss the Devil and other topics. So a lot of guys turn me away becuz of these things. It's like I can't win. Post Reply
DanielKal View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 27 Jan, 2013 04:26 PM That's great that you are waiting until marriage to have sex. Unfortunately, our world could care less about waiting until marriage, but there are some people who will wait (including myself). Sorry to hear about people "running" away from you because of the music you like. Maybe it could be from their own lack of confidence, like the Apostle Peter who struggled with eating with Christian Gentiles in the presence of Christian Jews. Hope your searching turns out well. Daniel Post Reply
View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 28 Jan, 2013 10:12 AM I say you need to give some slack to people and to marriage today because our society and our laws have changed marriage away from being a religious institution and have legally changed marriage into just a temporary civil union. Most Americans now come from a broken family and multiple marriages and step parents so now most people know that any legal entanglement or legal marriage is a realistic threat to their life and to their future and to their well being. Wanting a religious Christian marriage based on Biblical principles is fine and wonderful, but in order to get there we have to pass through the evil laws of Caesar, and everybody is aware of that danger now a days. There is actually a divorce industry which profits from destroying marriages, and people who adulterate a healthy marriage are praised in our society so the marriage is not safe from adulterer predators (both male and female). And it is not just Men who are threatened or afraid of the civil laws, because Women are threatened too, especially if one has property or a nice career job or have children. Many if not most people today will do a prenuptial agreement as a way of defense against the evil laws, and I myself like the prenups, and even a sincere Christian marriage needs a pre-nup so that both the two marriage prospects will know what to expect and what is expected of them. A Christian prenuptial agreement needs to define that the marriage is intended to be a life long commitment, but the laws will still defy that even if both agree. The ideal of the separation of Church from State has been violated in regard to the institution of marriage because now marriage is reduced to a temporary legal contract instead of a religious institution. It is NOT that Men do not believe in marriage - no, it is that they are afraid of the marriage laws, and it is not a fear of the woman / wife and not afraid of having children, but realistically threatened by the governing laws. Nothing personal here, as this is just my opinion based on my perspective, and I say if you try to approach Men with this view in mind then you will get much more honest and respectful replies from those guys. Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 31 Jan, 2013 12:37 PM I felt the same way when I was your age about women. however, you need to stay true to god. Post Reply
CMae View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 1 Feb, 2013 07:20 AM true. i am a virgin too and waiting for the deserving one to make love to and not just have sex with. there is always a perfect time for things :stop: Post Reply
CMae View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 1 Feb, 2013 07:23 AM and with your choice of songs..well if it's music, play it on:yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 1 Feb, 2013 07:46 PM Lots of people (and mostly women) turn to religious-based dating sites because of the standards their members tend to adhere to, even if they aren't religious themselves. Now whilst that may be fine for them in the short term they often find that the religious part is itself is a stumbling block over time. In short, they want somebody who has 'religious' standards, without the baggage of actually being religious! Could you really be happy with someone who's life revolves around Jesus? There's a biblical warning not to be unequally yoked with someone and that's because, just like yoked oxen, you both need to be pulling in the same direction... Post Reply
View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 2 Feb, 2013 04:21 AM A marriage is sucessful and we do not need to worry about the threat of divorce if we know how to resolve conflict in a relationship. Even though I married my wife twice and we both gave it what we had, we never learned how to relate and resolve conflict. Relating on a emotional level and giving understanding and forgiveness takes effort. Not all are willing to give the effort and time to determine if a relationship works. They just fall in and out of love over and over. When you find a partner that you can laugh, cry listen to and be heard. When you find a partner who will work with you to know what direction your lifes will take and resolve conflict with you. Then you know you have a solid foundation of trust to build upon. Prove out whether a relationship works or not. If it works it works and if it does not it does not. Some here have more growing emotionally to be in a commited relationship. Some here are still damaged from past experiences. These things cause us to be reactive and live in constant fear. No person is going to fix your problems of what you are feeling inside and if you expect them to do this you are looking for dissapointment every time. Only Gods perfect love can. Post Reply
lovehope3 View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 7 Feb, 2013 02:32 PM Cmae, I have a testimony especially for you. Email me :glow: Post Reply
CMae View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 7 Feb, 2013 11:01 PM haha what is this @lovehope:rolleyes: Post Reply
Fuzzybluetoesox View Profile History	Wanting to get Married Posted : 13 Feb, 2013 06:43 AM Don't get discouraged. Be true to yourself and don't let popular culture's attitude toward sex get you down. It is possible to wait even if it seems everyone around you doesn't. I was a virgin when I got married and I was glad I waited. I have been celibate now since my divorce 14 years ago (and if you think you are bombarded with people telling you that you are old fashioned or crazy for waiting until you get married...well, the pressure is every bit as insistent on this side of things too, LOL.) Still, I'm glad I wait. Don't be disheartened. :glow: (Oh, and most importantly, marriage is definitely NOT like a chick flick or a Disney movie. *grin* But it is a wonderful thing.) Post Reply