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Admin	Question Posted : 6 Nov, 2012 07:41 PM Heres a good question. Why is it so hard to talk to u ladies. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question Posted : 6 Nov, 2012 09:24 PM In what way? Just talking to them is no harder than speaking to your mum - understanding them - now that's something else entirely... Post Reply
reboquioEmz View Profile History	Question Posted : 7 Nov, 2012 05:42 AM I dont know which ways you find us so hard to talk. :glow: But ill share my reasons based in my online perspective,basically,women are not like men or any creature you've ever encountered (lol).Talking to us is a process,sometimes you need to learn a very specific way to handle us. Honestly,if a guy will send me just a plain "hi" i wont bother to reply.This doesnt mean a guy will send me 2 pages of introduction, but with the delightful reason(s) of contacting or talking to me. Please be reminded,that not every woman will be interesting in engaging a conversation for a variety of reasons... Hope this will be helpful.:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Question Posted : 7 Nov, 2012 04:49 PM "sometimes you need to learn a very specific way to handle us. " Amen, but gently Post Reply
View Profile History	Question Posted : 7 Nov, 2012 11:56 PM I wish you were more specific... Some ladies on here might be hard to talk to because of the bad experiences on this dating site. or They dont want to waste their time talking to someone they are not interested in.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Question Posted : 10 Nov, 2012 07:05 PM Why is it so hard to talk to you men? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Question Posted : 10 Nov, 2012 08:16 PM It shouldn't be, and it really isn't. The problem is, we get raised by our mothers and the Church to be passive little nice guys who are controlled by fear. You never had a problem talking to women when you were 4 or 5, so obviously something had to change. Until you unlearn what you've learned and can man up, it will always be difficult. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question Posted : 11 Nov, 2012 04:59 AM I think we tend to read peoples thoughts through a negitive lense. We tend toward imposing negitive motives. Even though my feincee knows I love her she still does this and my response is please do not impose a negitive where I mean a positive to be. As we impose negitivity on eachother this creates a hostile and reactive enviorment in relationships. It causes frustration. My challenge to all of us is slow it down and ask the question and say.........." I am sorry because I received this as a negitive but I know you ment it as a positive please help me see it as such" When we look for the best our mates will become the best, it is not the other way around. We tend toward correction to make people better. Lets show a bit of understanding and faith in those we seek to relate with. It goes along way........ Blessings, Michael Post Reply
View Profile History	Question Posted : 15 Nov, 2012 12:01 PM Good point Tulip and I think that applies across the board. I had to unlearn some things that I learned from my dad and mom in my childhood. Very handsome profile pic. :waving: Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	Question Posted : 2 Dec, 2012 01:59 AM CommittedtoChrist89, should it be hard to talk to a man? No. I don't think so. Post Reply
Philipian View Profile History	Question Posted : 2 Dec, 2012 02:00 AM Tulip89 thanks for your wonderful and refreshing comment. I find it useful. Especially the 4 or 5yrs thing! Post Reply

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