Author	Thread: Question about "guy friends"
Admin	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 28 Aug, 2012 02:57 PM Ok, so this is something that I've been dwelling on for the past few weeks. One thing I've noticed about women (or atleast the women I have known), and I'm not trying to be negative about this, but it always seems like once they start dating a guy, they just throw their guy friends out the window. For example, I worked with this one woman, we were in a group of friends and we all got along and hung out. She used to text me alot and ask how things were going and actually seemed like she cared about what was going on in my life (which I liked and thought that was cool, there are not many people like that anymore). Well, she recently started dating a guy a month ago and I haven't heard from her since. I sent her a message asking how she has been and she won't text me back. It just seems like once women start dating a guy, they just forget about their guy friends. Is there a unwritten rule to dating that says women can't have guy friends while dating? Or is it just me? Post Reply
INHIMALONEISTAND View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 29 Aug, 2012 06:43 AM Well, while there is no rule she probably is doing it out of respect for her boyfriend. I believe that there is still room to be friends but she should incorporate her boyfriend into the mix. Some men and women get a little jelous if their other half has a friend of the opposite sex, but if they are all friends it is works a out a lot better. I hope I made some sense and helped you a little!! God Bless! :glow: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 29 Aug, 2012 08:06 AM It's not just us girls who throw our guy friends out the window...guys throw their girl friends out the window when they start dating someone too! I have a good friend who is a guy, and yes, it's a purely platonic friendship. Even though we've both dated other people, only once has our friendship suffered because of those relationships. In that case, the girl he was dating did not like for him to talk to other girls, and he gave in to her jealousy. He later apologized to me. Granted, when one of us is in a relationship, we don't talk as much as when we are both very single...we just don't have as much time! The guy I'm currently getting to know has friends who are girls. He knows that I have a good friend who is a guy. I don't think it's an issue for either of us; however, if I started spending LOTS of time with my guy friend, he might feel a bit differently about it, and I'd probably have some concerns if he wanted to spend WAY more time with his girl friends than with me! Post Reply
ppeng View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 11:30 AM Those are people that don't understand what they are doing plus they are most likely going to be the lonely and over-possessive kind. If a relationship curtails that you have to cut everyone off, then one shouldn't venture that route. It is a relationship based on self and possession. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 31 Aug, 2012 02:46 PM I never understood why someone would want someone he/she loves to get rid of their friends. Relationships should also be built on trust. Sure Ive been hurt before, but Im not going to let the acts of a few bad apples cause me to hurt someone I love. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 1 Sep, 2012 06:44 AM I just don't understand why someone would ditch their friends just to be with someone (I mean, I do understand, I just can't believe it). What if they had been lifelong friends, whould they stop talking to them too? Post Reply
thewanderer View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 6 Sep, 2012 06:01 PM You can't really blame them, as that has been the ways they "THOUGHT" they can have a most fulfilling relationship with other person. It's their BELIEF in that matter. You have to respect that. The best thing you can do is be there when times they will reach for you. That's what friends are for.. In good times and bad times..relationship is what we choose. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 8 Sep, 2012 12:22 PM Most women dont like their man having his old lady friends around when they are in a relationship with that Man. So out of respect for her new boyfriend she should have her old guy friends around. Especially if she is building a true relationship with this new guy. Post Reply
View Profile History	Question about "guy friends" Posted : 8 Sep, 2012 12:25 PM So out of respect for her new boyfriend she should NOT have her old guy friends around. Especially if she is building a true relationship with this new guy. JMO Post Reply