Author	Thread: Winks/Messages
Admin	Winks/Messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 03:44 PM Okay, so I want to know, what your initial thoughts are, when you receive a wink... I will explain mine: My reason to send a wink is this: 1. To break the ice/express interest. 2. Basically a "hey, I liked your profile, you seem amazing, I'd love to know you more, here is a wink to break the ice, and express to you that I am interested... the ball is in your court now." And another question... I send thoughtful, genuine, respectful messages to people, and they look at my profile, and don't respond. That kind of upsets me a little, because if I am not interested, I usually have the courtesy to say "Thank you for the great message, however I am not sure we are very compatible..." Why do people not say that? It would make it so much easier. Ladies, I'd love to hear your thoughts and ideas and views on these things... Thank you! Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 06:24 PM I don't want to sound rude but this has been brought you few times on this site. Why people do not respond to winks or messages. Different people have different reasons why they do not respond. Just move on, keep trying someone will probably respond sooner or later. lol Post Reply
share1033 View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 07:13 PM I agree with you Gordy. If I wink at someone it means I'm interested and would like him to respond. Whether it be a wink back or a message, just to know if he would also be interested. I have voiced this in the past but it bears saying again. It's just comon courtesy to answer in some fasion. Even if a person responds I'm sorry but I feel we aren't a good match, at least we know they received it and are alive. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 09:23 PM I have never been a huge fan of the wink feature on this site, I just feel like it is not very personal. I always respect a guy way more when he is willing to message me to break the ice. I feel like often times commenting on something on their profile that you found interesting and asking a follow up question is a great way to break the ice. One reason people may not respond to messages is because they are just not that serious about actually getting to know people on here. Another reason sometimes I do not respond to people is if I see something that I am not a fan of. I know that it may be nice to send a response saying that I just don't see it working out, but that is not always easy to do. Don't worry God will send someone in His timing :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 19 Aug, 2012 09:36 AM I agree with Alexandra, it's not always that easy, especially if the gentleman does seem really nice and kind, you don't want to hurt or discourage them. Personally I'm not a huge fan of winks, I see them as a bit cheesy and lazy if I'm honest. I did take on board your reasons for sending a wink Gordy, and it's opened my understanding as to why people might send a wink instead of a message. I'll probably be much more tolerant of them now... lol so thank you for sharing that brother. Another idea may be to follow up a wink with a message, or even pop a bit into your profile of why you send winks (just like you explained in the opening post), just because if it's someone who sees winks the way I do then you might have a better chance of getting a response if they know why you're sending them. It's slightly more difficult online to work out intentions etc... so I feel it's always best to explain as much as you can in your profile otherwise people can make assumptions etc that may not be accurate. Hope I came across ok. and all that makes sense... :laugh: God bless Jacquie Post Reply
Wild_erness View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 19 Aug, 2012 12:55 PM I agree Alexandria and Jacquie!! I don't like winks, and say so in my profile . . . in the second paragraph, so if I do get a wink, I know that that particular guy has not even read my profile . . . lazy! I also give my reasons and ask the guys who are reading my profile to send a random question instead of a wink . . . because I do not respond to a wink. Hope this helps . . . I lay it out very clearly for anyone who actually takes the time to read my profile, and have gotten quite a few messages with random questions that I totally respond to :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 19 Aug, 2012 06:13 PM I really mean no disrespect when I send a wink... and I ALWAYS read profiles. If the profile says not to send a wink, I usually just move on, or send a message. But I am not being lazy when I send a wink. I really do put thought into it, and like what I read. It kind of makes me sad to think that people assume we are lazy by doing that... maybe some are, but not everyone. I wish people didn't jump to conclusions so fast. Post Reply
Moichepit View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 19 Aug, 2012 11:40 PM Look Gordo... If there is one thing I've learned about others is that tomatoes tomatas and potatoes are papas. o_0 Some don't answer because they feel like it would: Lead you on Offend you Don't care Not interested Or clicked at your profile by mistake Which in turn happens to every single one of us (believe it or not). I personally believe that winks are ok but there should be another link that says: "hey, I want to know you more as a person/ a possible friend maybe, no pressure" We are use to winks being a sign of something more serious (yes... I've been on many websites, meh!) It's hard for us Christians because we know what the word of God says about partnership and want to make the right decision/move on the right person without hurting others feelings along the way. I will try from now on to answer all my messages in the best way I know how WITH encouraging words for that person if in fact I don't believe we're compatible, from no on because I am called to do on to others what I would like to he done to myself. Lastly (and I mean lastly) Read Mathew 6 and genesis 24:7 because our God is a God of love,order, promise and pacts. Apply it to your life/search. God bless you (phew!!) Post Reply
Moichepit View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 19 Aug, 2012 11:41 PM Look Gordo... If there is one thing I've learned about others is that tomatoes tomatas and potatoes are papas. o_0 Some don't answer because they feel like it would: Lead you on Offend you Don't care Not interested Or clicked at your profile by mistake Which in turn happens to every single one of us (believe it or not). I personally believe that winks are ok but there should be another link that says: "hey, I want to know you more as a person/ a possible friend maybe, no pressure" We are use to winks being a sign of something more serious (yes... I've been on many websites, meh!) It's hard for us Christians because we know what the word of God says about partnership and want to make the right decision/move on the right person without hurting others feelings along the way. I will try from now on to answer all my messages in the best way I know how WITH encouraging words for that person if in fact I don't believe we're compatible, from no on because I am called to do on to others what I would like to he done to myself. Lastly (and I mean lastly) Read Mathew 6 and genesis 24:7 because our God is a God of love,order, promise and pacts. Apply it to your life/search. God bless you (phew!!) Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 28 Aug, 2012 05:22 PM I don't like winks,makes me feel less than who I know I am in Jesus Christ. For I am not on here to be charmed or picked up. If someone sees something in my pic/profile to write me I will try to respond back, even if it's with a message we are not a match. But, winks I do NOT respond back at all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks/Messages Posted : 8 Oct, 2012 06:46 PM I do not respond to winks, unless the person winking messages me; there is a difference, for me, between pressing a button and taking the time to write me a message...even if it is just a short one. :) I love hearing from people; I've made many friends from messages. Winks, however, and silence...I feel uncomfortable, because I do not know how to properly respond. Post Reply