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jaybirdz View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 12 Aug, 2012 09:46 PM So, I am definitely no stranger to online dating websites; however, I do have a question for the ladies. Whenever I send mail to women that I'm interested in, I usually keep it short, to the point, and very casual. I don't send really long messages because I'll let my profile do the talking...if you don't like my profile, a long message isn't going to do any good! I try not to use generic title lines or anything like that...I want to show that I actually read their profile. I will see that someone has read my message, but doesn't even bother to respond to me. What are the possible reasons that you all have had when you do this kind of thing? Is it that you don't want to lead a guy on by merely responding at all? Sometimes, I'll ask a question just because I'm curious, and I may not even be romantically interested in that person. Or perhaps you don't talk to people a long distance away from you? I'm not mad or anything like that....just very curious. I always try to respond to everyone who sends me mail, so that courtesy will be given back to me. Post Reply
View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 04:00 AM It means they find us boring :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 07:05 AM AllOfGrace nailed it... Just keep fishing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 12:02 PM I usually respond to all messages and winks. And, I maynot be interested but I feel that is somethink that I would like a man to do for me on this Christian date site. Just being Polite even if I am not interest. Post Reply
View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 01:24 PM But what can be politeness from you can turn into another man's obsession. I have been polite and have gotten several emails after responding. Have nothing against being friends with people, but when they start threatening to pick you up after work and demanding attention, it gets to where you are more hesitant on responding to every wink or email. Not to say that every guy on here is a creeper. Because we all know that's the case. lol. But don't get so easily offended when someone doesn't respond. It's a free Christian dating site afterall... emphasis on the free. When you start paying for services then you can get offended. lol. Just kidding. It's not the end of the world. Just give it to God, and know that He will always take care of you. Post Reply
jaybirdz View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 08:29 PM I see what you mean by that. Culture today tells the men to do all the initiating, and that just makes it really easy for women to pick and choose who they want to talk to. And, I know this really well....some guys can just be straight up creepers and they don't even know it. Girls probably think, "Oh yay....6 messages, lets see if there's anyone normal to talk to today." But anyway...I will keep doing my thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 15 Aug, 2012 09:22 AM HolderOfTruth Men just move on when I state that something is not a match with me. Most live far away so stalking doesnt happen unless it is on the Forums and they soon get banned if they persist in that area. Post Reply
okiekansas777 View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 03:55 AM I've had wondered the very same thing. I try to do the same thing with only one saying we did fit well together. I do try to respond to each conversation and wink. Post Reply
Apostelle View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 05:49 AM Until fairly recently, men have always had to do the initiating, jaybirdz. Post Reply
View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 18 Aug, 2012 09:32 PM There are multiple things that will keep me from leaving any response at all. One thing for me is if the guy drinks. I know that this is not the ultimate sin or anything, but ti is just something I do not want to be around. Also, age will always factor in. If it is someone like 35 trying to message me as a 20 year old I usually will not respond. There are a lot of things that factor in, but just try not to take it too personally. We all have our own standards and likes when it comes to the person we want to date so just because a few people do not respond it does not mean that there isn't anyone out there for you. God will make all things work out at the proper time! Post Reply
Moichepit View Profile History	Private messages Posted : 20 Aug, 2012 02:57 AM I agree with Alexandria663 completely. There are factors. Also I would like to state what I had before: If there is one thing I've learned about others is that tomatoes tomatas and potatoes are papas. o_0 Some don't answer because they feel like it would: Lead you on Offend you Don't care Not interested Or clicked at your profile by mistake Which in turn happens to every single one of us (believe it or not). I personally believe that winks are ok but there should be another link that says: "hey, I want to know you more as a person/ a possible friend maybe, no pressure" We are use to winks being a sign of something more serious (yes... I've been on many websites, meh!) It's hard for us Christians because we know what the word of God says about partnership and want to make the right decision/move on the right person without hurting others feelings along the way. I will try from now on to answer all my messages in the best way I know how WITH encouraging words for that person if in fact I don't believe we're compatible, from now on because I am called to do on to others what I would like to be done to me. Lastly (and I mean lastly) Read Mathew 6 and genesis 24:7 because our God is a God of love,order, promise and pacts. Apply it to your life/search. God bless you (phew!!) Post Reply

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