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Admin	Is it possible... Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 10:12 AM A coworker tells me he and his wife live independently. He does what he wants in life while she does her own thing. My response was, "Then why be married?". Are we in Western society too spoiled to give up interests to fully serve spouse and children as Christ desires...that "I Want" is a middle name we're unwilling to crucify? Post Reply
Mercymay View Profile History	Is it possible... Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 06:09 PM Sad�I believe so true, so possible especially among the public personalities to maintain the appearance of �being married� for so and so years but actually live separate lives Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it possible... Posted : 11 Aug, 2012 08:31 PM Sadly, this is what happens when a society uses the word, "love" as a euphemism for sex and then say that marriage is based on it. At best, "love" is a feeling that comes and goes. If you go back into history, marriage was almost never based on what we rcognize as love. Many marriages were more based on neccessity. Most of it was finacial, but it was also the raise hiers. Love and respect grew over time. Truth be told many people came together out of their own desires for children and finacial security. During the days of the frontier, this is where we understand the idea of the mail-order bride. Many people portray it as a marital version of Stockholm's Syndrome, but it was far from it. Truth be told, this was not as oppressive as we like to portray it. Women wanted a family. Men wanted children for heirs and� well, you know. Because the men paid a lot of money to the service and to transport his new bride, he took care of his "investment." Women volunteered to sign up with these services. Think of it as the dating services of its day. This continued until the 1940's. Afterwards we had more people getting married (for the same reasons) because it was "just something that you do." You dated in high school & college and, once you graduated, you got married to the person that you were dating. Many people continue this tradition, but the modern concept of "love" came into being in the Era of the Hippie. Here's were "love" became synonomus with sex. We as a nation were told the "if it feels good, do it." That's good for an animal, but if we're supposed to be more "evolved" than animals, should that mean that these two words should be kept apart. Feelings are fleeting. Love is a state of mind. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it possible... Posted : 14 Aug, 2012 01:43 PM Mercymay and Megadash...wonderful responses! Post Reply