Author	Thread: What do i do?
Admin	What do i do? Posted : 14 Jul, 2012 09:37 AM Recently, We were given an assignment in my discipleship class to go and witness to someone/share the good news with at least two people. Well, i prayed for God's direction before i witnessed to anyone. Then i decided to randomly choose some people i could talk to and among them was this guy who gave his life to Jesus Christ, we prayed together and then of course the discipleship course requires that i 'counsel' him and also keep in touch so as to pray and help him grow spiritually at least for the initial stages. So we set a time to do bible study and pray together. But the problem is that this guy is attracted to me and I do not feel the same about him... I am having a big problem helping him because i do not want to hurt him and at the same time i don't want him to backslide because he is a very new convert i would say. Also, he opened up and told me a lot of things concerning his life and because he trusted me with this information, i do not want to betray him by getting some other person to help him and I am also fearing that he may just give up his salvation. Honestly I am in a dilemma! thought? Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	What do i do? Posted : 14 Jul, 2012 11:32 AM I would suggest you first flip it around; what an awesome dilema, you introduced someone to God, and he received Him. That is number one most important!! :applause: Look at it like this (perhaps), anything else, is small potatoes baby!! If you want to continue working with him, maybe you could spend the time on the phone with restrictions on what you talk about.(don't have to annouce the restrictions, talk to God about it and don't respond, change the subject, etc to the things that you feel would guide the conversation in the direction you don't want). Maybe he could visit your church and meet others there, expecailly guys. Maybe you could tell him that the best thing for him right now is to get to know Jesus. Definately be honest with him. I don't see how you're responsible for his Salvation though, pray about it and trust God to work it out, He will show you what to do next. God wants the best for you both, and aparantly, God called the brother :applause: He can handle this... Post Reply
View Profile History	What do i do? Posted : 14 Jul, 2012 11:41 AM This is a tough situation and one that happened to my friend a while back. You need to pray and seek direction which I believe you are doing. If you have men's ministry at your church you can have some of the men invite him or issue the invitation yourself. Let him know that while you care about his SPIRIT you think it's in his best interests to get hooked up to a group like this as you feel there are things that he may have shared that you may not be adequately able to counsel him. You may very well be able and qualified but things like this happen I have found when men counsel women and vice versa there's a term for it but it escapes me at the moment. Try not to do one on one meetings with him and be in group settings if there are church related functions and what not. If he come right out and professes his feeling you need to let him know you don't feel the same. If then his decision to turn to Christ was not genuine... well that's a whole other kettle of fish but try your best to show him godly love but let him be aware of the boundaries. This is just my opinion but still pray and even seek the counsel of those in charge of your discipleship class as these things do happen from time to time. Hope it works out, I'm praying it does. Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	What do i do? Posted : 14 Jul, 2012 05:13 PM My church encourages us to go out in groups of 2 or 3. Definitely have someone else available in the meetings. If his problems are that serious, he may need more in depth counseling than what discipleship would provide. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do i do? Posted : 14 Jul, 2012 05:50 PM It is very important not to witness or council with a member of the opposite sex alone, for this and other reasons. The assignment should have addressed this issue before you went out, and certainly should help you in this situation. As to him backsliding, we know from the parable Jesus gave that some will receive the Truth with gladness and then back off when the 'world' chokes it out. Having another male step in to council him will encourage his growth, but we both know there is no way of knowing at this point whether the ground the soil was laid in was good soil, or emotionally motivated. It wont get less messy as time passes. I would address the issue with your teacher now. Hallelujah for taking the steps to witness, though sister! :yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	What do i do? Posted : 15 Jul, 2012 06:11 AM Sounds like you need to consult with your Pastor and let him take it over. Women counseling single men it not really a good thing. Even though you are trying to witness and help and councel, He is still a man and you a woman. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do i do? Posted : 17 Jul, 2012 02:44 PM Thank you all for your advice and prayer. I finally sorted out everything with my discipleship leader. Also, I became honest with the guy and though he is not cool about it, He is still hanging in there-working out his faith. To God be the Glory! Post Reply