The bible admonishes us in Ephesians 4:26 "be ye angry and sin not...." it is safe to say that anger is not a sin but what we do as a result of that anger. How as a Christian woman do you honestly deal with anger especially in a relationship?
I can say for myself when I get angry I do not stay that way for long. If I can be given a little time to go through the motions, I have taken to just talking to God and telling him I am angry and talking it out with him. Then with his direction dealing with the situation as he leads or leaving it be (this was not always so, thank God for the stripping of the flesh lol)
Great question. I think the question should also be what is it that causes us to be angry?
We live in an emotionally stunted country. Many parents have caused their children to bottle up their feelings and this usually ends up bad when we do so.
I was never taught how to deal with my emotions and it wasnt until I was a adult and my heavenly daddy helped me to understand the healthy nature of expression my self as a emotional being.
As parents it is critical to teach our children good examples of expression emotion and especially the strong ones such as anger.
I had done this with my daughter and she now is a strong stable young woman who I am so proud of.
I have learned that it is alright to say I am sorry for hurting another even if I am not really guilty of anything. Feelings are most time not neither true or false but they are feelings none the less to that individual.
Since they are real to them, we should treat them as such and seek forgiveness and resolution in a peaceful manner. When we try to live in understanding rather than being right then we will have harmony, peace and forgiveness.
You know what makes me angry? Puppies. Yes, puppies... They're just sitting there with their big soulful eyes... Looking at you.. soulfully (I'm told that's the only way one can look at you with soulful eyes.)
Right, and they think they're so cute... "Ooh look at me, I'm a puppy, my ears are floppy and my soft, fleece-like fur shines in the sun."
And they always want you to play with them, loving companions sheesh, more like ANNOYING companions. And they're always warm, seriously ... who wants to pet something constantly warm and furry? Maybe I want to feel a different texture every now and then. Do puppies fulfill this desire? I think not.
All that being said... I forget what this topic was about. Will one of you buy me a puppy?
@LetThisMind, really great ideals. People need a healthier way to deal with their emotions, and certainly a more godly way.
@truworshiper, I agree with the above, that was a good question to ask. I don't think I've put that much thought into it or reflected on something like that before.
It really depends on WHY I'm angry or with whom. If I'm angry with a particular person that I know, I often leave that situation and come back after I've had some time to vent�usually to my mice, or have done something to cool my head, liek do a little bit of reading.
If it's someone that I don't know, I usually do a modern version of taking it out on my pillow. I pop in a fighting game and go into training mode. On a scale of 1-10 (where 1 is a punching bag and 10 means that I'M the punching bag) I start at 1 and slowly increase the level. By the time I pass my skill level, I'm doing everything that I can just to stay alive. Afterwards, I've usually gotten over it and turn the game off. Through it all, I'm usually passive aggressive.
Our society may frown on it, but it's a safe outlet. It's like the time my "interpersonal relations" teacher in college asked why I'm so passive aggressive. I responded, jokingly, that it was because "murder and assualt are still frowned upon in this state." He actually thought that I was serious. Can you believe that? If I was serious about it, would I admit it?
Things that make me angry, people who are mean and take advantage of others, treat others less than themselves, abuse of all kinds. Arrogance is a pet peeve but it rarely makes me angry. I'm pretty laid back in most regards once you don't cross that line of blaspheming my God... I'll still pray for you :)
I have found that in everything when I take it to God he does exactly what he promised and that is to make me more like him.
I think what we have to understand too that if we have an anger problem or a problem with impatience etc God is going to let you go through somethings, I know this by experience, I used to like to have things my way and it wasn't something I did pridefully if I wanted something done I would do it myself and not accept help and I realized I was hurting my relationships with the members of my church. God brought it to my attention and I asked for help and he brought me into situations where I was in charge of things and he helped me learn to accept help and listen and learn.
So friends just know if how you deal with anger, trust and believe you are going to go through some situations that make you angry but God is able.
Thanks for the responses so far you guys, Ms Marvel it is great to see you here again :)
