Author	Thread: buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why?
gershonmn View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 05:40 PM what ever past girlfriends got me for a present I used it or wore it ( clothing) with no problems, even if I did not like it. i did it for her . The fact that it came from her made it special to me. So why over the years when I buy cloths for them do I get a very cool response. example : I really like women in dresses so a little over 10 years ago i was in the mall and saw a gorgeous after 5 gown sleeveless and near floor length with sequence. I thought she would be fabulous in this. it was about $250 on sale and I was excited. went to get HER and said just come see it , try it on if you don't like it you can get something else. We found the dress. she went in to try it on and came back out with her regular cloths on. short story. nothing I said would convince her to let me see her in the dress . she said it was a little too small but she would not even look for a larger size. i was hurt, angry and wounded all at the same time. I will not buy my lady sleazy or inappropriate dress and if it does not look right on them I have no problem with rejection. a woman I respect once told me give them cash . It is always the right color, size and fit. I now do that but it leaves me with an empty feeling. ok ladies talk to me . why no reciprocity in attitude about gifts? Gershonmn Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 07:16 PM Um, don't buy clothes for your girlfriend. Clothes are a personal choice and the odds of you getting it right are very, very slim. Not to mention the myriad of ways clothes can fit oddly or look wrong, and you'd be better off giving her a gift card or cash to go pick out something she likes. Girls know better anyway what looks good on them and suits them personally. Let her handle the clothes from now on, there, buddy. Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 07:17 PM Also, as for the girl getting you a shirt and you keeping it, she's the girl. She's probably better at determining your size and tastes than you are hers, and you've likely got a lot less weirdness going on when it comes to the fit of your shirt. Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 07:38 PM I have to agree with godsgirl on this one, brother. Women's clothes are much more complex and personal (and emotional) for women then they are for men. Take a look in a man's closet compared to a woman's... man has three colors, three types of shirts or pants. A woman's closet covers the colours of the rainbow (sometimes in the same dress!) and ranges from blouses to shirts, to tanks to dresses, skirts, 8 styles of pants, shorts etc etc... Like the difference between a toggle switch and a cockpit of a 747 :ROFL: Also, before you get hurt by the way someone receives your gifts, you should probably read the book The Five Love Languages. Clearly receiving a gift from someone gives YOU joy and makes you feel like you've been loved. Receiving a gift does not feel that way to all people. Sometimes you working on her car or making her something (for instance) makes her feel more loved than any gift would do! That speaks to me! :rolleyes: Check out the book! Post Reply
gershonmn View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 08:03 PM ok like I said if it don't look good on her I have NO problem with her rejecting it . I want her to look good.but at least give me a chance to see her in it while trying it on .maybe part of the problem is, it is hard to find a woman who wants to go white water rafting and is still comfortable in a coach purse and an after 5 gown :hearts: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 08:24 PM I agree with the advice you've been given...don't try to buy a girl clothes. It won't work! The one and only exception to this rule that I can think of would be a souvenir t-shirt...and even then, it's risky because it's hard to select the right size due to different cuts, styles, fabrics, etc. As for the girl not letting you see the dress ON her, PLEASE don't try to make a girl do that. If she wants to show you the dress, she will; if she doesn't want to, she probably has a good reason. Maybe the dress wasn't just "a little" too tight...maybe she couldn't even get it fastened. Maybe it was far more low-cut on her body type than it appeared on the hanger (that happens to me frequently). Maybe she just doesn't feel comfortable parading around in a dress so that you can look at it (and her). Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 18 Jun, 2012 08:31 PM " it is hard to find a woman who wants to go white water rafting and is still comfortable in a coach purse and an after 5 gown" No, because nothing about those things is contradictory. Why should she let you see it when trying it on if it doesn't fit properly or is otherwise not flattering to her? That would be embarrassing. "Here, see how bad I look in this dress?" That's weird and controlling. She knows how she looks best and feels most comfortable. If she felt she looked good she wouldn't hesitate to show it off. It's her decision to choose whether to wear something or not. Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 20 Jun, 2012 08:49 AM Her: "Do these jeans make me look fat?" Him: "Nope, fastfood does." :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 20 Jun, 2012 02:00 PM When I get a gift such as a dress, suite, formal gown, I want to pick it out myself. I don't mind going with the guy but I want to pick it out myself. :laugh: Some men have bad taste when it comes to dresses for ladies. Post Reply
View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 20 Jun, 2012 04:00 PM I guess most of us women do like to pick out our own clothes. Sorry guys. But then I think that most guys like to pick out their own clothes, also. Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	buying cloths for my girl friend = bad experiance why? Posted : 21 Jun, 2012 07:55 AM Sorry, have to say under the right circumstances,yes, if we're married, he has good taste and he wants to see me in it, where's the harm in that? Post Reply

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