Author	Thread: Saving Yourself
fiferic View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 08:13 PM What do you feel about a guy that had sex before He got saved? What if He now is committed to saving himself for marriage now that he is saved? I made mistakes in my past that I am now not proud of. I feel like if I start dating someone and they have saved themselves that this mistake(before I was saved) might scare them away. What are you thoughts about this? Thanks and God Bless Post Reply
View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 08:28 PM I'm not girl, but who are we to not forgive what God has forgiven people of? That is making the sacrifice on the cross of no importance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 4 Apr, 2012 03:36 AM That was before you new Christ. It is because of Christ that you are now consciously making the choice to remain celibate until marriage. Not all "Christians" save themselves for marriage. For whatever reason, some are virgins and some are re-virginized (non-virgins that are committed to celibacy until marriage). I agree with the earlier post. What God has already forgiven, who am I to judge. Another thought is that we look for patterns in dating. That is a version of you that is in the past. You are different today. If I am dating someone, I look for patterns of behavior to see it I can trust him. So, given that you are celibate and striving to remain one until marriage, that is a new pattern of behavior that would offset your past. Instead of your past being the issue, I would have to look at the present with more weight. If you say and act the same way, then it should not be an issue. Post Reply
View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 4 Apr, 2012 06:35 AM I also agree with the above posts. If you are now remaining pure until marriage then it would not be a problem for me. I remember one divorced lady at my church, who started up a group for divorced people, talking about being a virgin and calling it a new virginity. That sounds like what you are doing. Post Reply
MyCrownIsGod View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 4 Apr, 2012 10:14 PM If there is a girl out there who would hold your past against you like that, or make you feel in any way guilty, ashamed or condemned for it, then she isn't the one for you. We all have a past, and things we did we aren't proud of. You can't change that. No one can. So find yourself a woman who understands that we all make mistakes and look past them to who you are today. Christ is all about grace and forgiveness. So if she can't forgive you for something you did before you were a Christian, find someone who can. :) Good Luck Post Reply
View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 12 Apr, 2012 09:31 AM I think you should remember that Christ is a restorer and a re-newer. If you have made a vow to keep yourself now and have been honoring it God will honor you with a wife that will appreciate the vow you made. When you came to Christ He made you new, rest in that promise and do not let anyone tell you differently. Those who may reject you because of your past are not meant to be in your life, but pray that the love of God will change their hearts because we were all born in sin and shaped in iniquity and shouldn't hold someone's past against them or think sexual sin is the greatest sin, unforgivable, all sin is sin. If you were a liar or a thief before Christ should I then not have anything to do with you? I think not. Be encouraged the right woman will love all of you and past your "mistakes". Post Reply
View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 06:59 AM If he can't get over it, then thats his issue, hes not for you. Sometimes I worry about this, because I have a tainted past. But I am no longer that person. I have been single and abstinent for eight months. God has been blessing me with forgiveness and love. And now he is giving me a ministry to be able to speak to abused women and prostitutes. Women that are living sinful lifestyles, but do not realize how much love and worth and forgiveness they have in Jesus. Do not think that anyone is better then you. Because we all have our faults. I hope that helps. Post Reply
GraceAndKindness View Profile History	Saving Yourself Posted : 16 Apr, 2012 12:36 PM You've been forgiven. If you struggle with guilt, perhaps asking God to help you with that in this issue will help you. I know it's been said, but sometimes the support helps. God's word is true. In Christ you are a new Creation, you have a new start. When the dude's wife looked back (what's it in Genesis-Abraham's cousin's wife or something)..lol. She turned to stone. There's something there man. We get stuck in the past when we should be looking ahead. You have a brand new life man, get to it :yay: Post Reply