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fiferic View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 2 Apr, 2012 09:31 PM Is it possible for a guy to be too sensitive? And if so what would you classify as too sensitive? I told this girl how I felt about her and she told me that one of the reasons she wouldnt date me was because of this. Any import would be nice. Post Reply
View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 2 Apr, 2012 10:09 PM Could it be more about the girl? If someone I knew as a friend or acquaintance came up to me and said something like "I like you and would like to get to know you better. Would you meet me for coffee", that would be okay with me. It is not threatening or over sensitive. I don't know what you said or how you said it. Perhaps it was sharing too much too soon that she thought was over sensitive? Post Reply
View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 03:03 AM Or it could just be an excuse she made up Post Reply
View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 03:33 AM That is also a possibility. Maybe she does not know how to reject guys and makes up an excuse to do so. Post Reply
View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 04:40 AM Urm im not sure that you actually did anything out of the ordinary, you just shared your feelings for her. I would be more inclined to agree with the others that its more the girls problem here. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 06:30 AM Normally, I wouldn't think that being "sensitive" would be a bad thing. It's great if a guy is sensitive toward others. That shows maturity. However, if a guy can't make it through a conversation without getting his feelings hurt, or if he is constantly misinterpreting what I (or others) said, or if he needs constant affirmation for every little thing, etc., it might get pretty old pretty fast...that's being too sensitive toward himself. (Not saying a guy should have super thick skin and never let anything get to him, but there has to be a balance!) Post Reply
Veggie View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 3 Apr, 2012 07:00 AM Hi I don't know if this girl was right about you but there is a way than a man can be too sensitive. It is similiar to wearing your feelings on your shoulder. We all grow up in different homesettings which actually is a type of culture. In our family, we grew up speaking freely and honestly. We laugh about things, and it is just no big deal. However, this attitude in a relationship can cause problems for people, especially until they get to know us. This could be the sense that she means. I have met men who, because I am the strong independent type, I have found to be sensitive also. That being said, one of my best friends is the most sensitive men I know. What women don't realize is that a sensitve man will always be in tune to her feelings and needs. He knows just when she needs a hug and some words of encouragement. Don't let her fool you and string you along when you could be dating someone who appreciates you for who you are. A sensitve man can be a blessing in disguise. It is quite possible that she knows this and will want to keep you around because you are perfect emotionally for her. This is a hard thing to find in a man. That "I am 100% man", Tarzan-of-the-Apes, :MrT:mentality can get old really fast in a long-term relationship. So, if you are not "overly" sensitive, it is not a bad thing. You are not the one with the issue, she is. Post Reply
View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 11 Apr, 2012 10:08 PM how long have you known her?sometimes coming on strong too fast scares some of them wierd i think if its comeing from the heart and you being true it shouldent matter ha Post Reply
hopeforyou View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 22 Apr, 2012 08:44 AM I'll answer the best I can. Guys say it's easy to talk to me about their feelings. Sometimes they ask "Do you think I'm too soft?" Or after doing something really kind-hearted, they say something like, "It's not a reflection of my manhood." As the conversation progresses, turns out there have been women who made them feel if they're too nice or so "out there" with their feelings, then they're not as manly. This is CRAZY-MAKING. I'm very feminine; therefore, am attracted to someone who is very masculine. There is NOTHING about kindness, tears, etc. that's unmanly. Both people must feel so free with each other that they can TOTALLY be themselves (like dancing as though no one is watching, like being completely transparent with the deepest feelings, like knowing beyond a doubt that there's 100% acceptance between you). Otherwise, you're not truly getting to know each other clearly. One last thought, personality, spiritual condition and upbringing have an affect upon how sensitive a person is. As a young child, the super sensitive person will get their feelings hurt easily. But with maturity and the Lord Jesus shaping the heart, the person turns that sensitivity toward the needs of others instead of self. Go find yourself a woman who understands men a little better and the way they tick. Maybe one of the questions you want to ask is "Are you attracted to the BAD BOY type of guy?" Then, listen VERY carefully to the next words out of her mouth. Blessings and honor, Hope Post Reply
sngresak View Profile History	Weird Question Posted : 22 Apr, 2012 08:08 PM In all honesty, I've dumped guys in the past for being "too sensitive." This isn't to say that it would bother me if a heartfelt movie made him tear up or that he feels passionately about certain things. With me being a girly emotional roller coaster I need a man who can be my "rock" and if I see him getting butt hurt with some playful banter (eg. minimal teasing if I've won a round of mini golf)- I worry about how he would handle himself under pressure. Post Reply