Author	Thread: Just 'friends'?
Admin	Just 'friends'? Posted : 28 Feb, 2012 02:30 AM There are great a many number of guys who say that they are close friends with a girl and even a girl is their best friend. This type of relationship does create misconceptions and misunderstandings especially towards the guy. I guess my question is: is a close friendship with a girl different than it is with a guy - guy friendship? I have a friend girl; a very close friend whom people immediately think I'm taking this as an opportunity to advance on her, but they wouldn't have suggested that I was a homosexual off I had treated my guy friends the same way. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 28 Feb, 2012 09:37 AM Most people's best friends are of the same sex - they understand you better. Yes I know husband and wife understand each other better than any friend, but as they spend their whole lives living under the same roof they should! I 'get along' with several women, but they're not friends per se like the guys I know and I don't think I'd ever feel comfortable treating them as such. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 28 Feb, 2012 10:02 AM It's a different kind of friendship, at least for me. I have close girl friends, and my "best" friend is a girl. I also have one very close guy friend, but he's not my "best" friend. There are some things that I talk about with my girl friends that I don't discuss with my guy friend. He just doesn't understand about PMS, hormones, fashion, makeup, and he REALLY doesn't want to talk about which guy is cuter! But he IS a good sounding board for some of my crazier ideas, we talk about spiritual stuff, we laugh at each others jokes, and we get along great. Guy/girl friendships do have their dangers, though. Friendships like that often result in one person being attracted to the other, but the feeling is not usually mutual. That can make a strictly platonic friendship really tough. Not impossible, but tough. Believe me, I know. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 28 Feb, 2012 03:33 PM I totally agree. In fact it's freaky how you've verbalised exactly what I was thinking! :bow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 29 Feb, 2012 02:46 AM hello Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 29 Feb, 2012 08:19 AM I think people will often call a relationship a friendship cuz they don't know what else to call it. If it really is the plutonic love/friendship you mentioned everything is understood and accepted as it surfaces without fear of losing anything. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 29 Feb, 2012 08:22 AM Also it takes time for relationships to develop and you don't really know beforehand how they will turn out. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 29 Feb, 2012 11:43 AM It's pretty much the same friendship you would have with a guy except of the opposite sex. I do so many things for my mates like paying for their meals, topping up their car with petrol/gas, etc. But, if I pay for my friendgirl, everyone immediately assumes that I'm making my move on her. This is something I find annoying. They would never have suggested me being gay for doing all these things for my guy friends. Don't get me wrong my friendgirl is cool, that's why I'm friends with her, but I just don't see ourselves together in the future and neither does she. Post Reply
View Profile History	Just 'friends'? Posted : 5 Mar, 2012 10:27 AM In my mind, friendship should only be friendship. But all too often, friendship is a fine line, sometimes only dotted. I've heard of people playing the friendship card to try and make an uninterested person fall in love with them. But isn't that trickery? If there really is no attraction, admiration, deep respect, or compatibility, is it wise to decline such a friendship? I think if a man or woman is attracted to someone who does not return their feelings, they should not try and become friends with that person, in hopes of their friendship blossoming into something deeper. In a boyfriend/girlfriend experience you are in relationship with one man or woman, but with friendship its a sort of free for all, where rules of friendship are vague, and somewhat undefined. Generally, people know what to expect from an exclusive partner, but the rules of friendship are not so clear. I think that's probably why females may choose female friendships more readily; and men with men. And of course, like all forms of interaction with people, they involve time, patience, wisdom, etc Post Reply