Author	Thread: accept you as you are?
FocusIsEverything View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 27 Jan, 2012 11:48 AM accept you as you are? accept me as i am? arent we (both sexes) being unreasonable if we expect the opposite sex to accept us as we are and the way that we are is not in agreement with how God wants us to be as a potential spouse? God requires certains things of each spouse in a marriage.If we are looking for a potential spouse then wouldnt it make sense to look for a potential spouse who agrees with those requirements and put them at the top of our list? any ladies care to respond? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 27 Jan, 2012 03:03 PM I don't know about the rest of the folks here, but if I say that I want someone to "accept me as I am," I am referring to far more insignificant things than Biblical spousal requirements. Some areas of triviality that I can see falling under the "accept me as I am" category would be things like 1) sense of humor, 2) style preferences, 3) food preferences, 4) car preferences, 5) music preferences, 6) hobbies and interests, 7) athletic ability or lack thereof, 8) basic personality type (ie. introvert vs. extrovert), etc... pretty much anything that does not violate God's word. Naturally, we all have the option to NOT accept someone for what they are. There are some things that would hinder compatibility even though all the Biblical requirements might be in place. Does that make sense? I'm sure that there are guys and girls alike who are definitely wanting someone to "accept them as they are" and are ignoring major character flaws, spiritual issues, and Biblical guidelines. And yes, I've come across some people online just like that. But for the most part, that's not what comes to my mind when I read that a guy wants me to accept him as he is...or when I say that I want a guy to accept me as I am. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 27 Jan, 2012 07:29 PM I agree. The thing is that no one should enter marriage with the intent to change the other person. God changes people, not us. Post Reply
View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 29 Jan, 2012 03:02 PM I agree also with bcpianogal. I remember coming up I was heavily criticized by family members, friends etc ad I felt so sad that I hated myself, was there anything in me worth loving. My heart grew hard and I decided if no one could accept me as I am well tough! Then I got saved and I carried that attitude unknowingly and foolishly into my relationship with Christ, I would go so far as to think I was resentful to the fact that there was still things that needed changing. Couldn't God love me for me? I"m good right? Wrong! I was soooo wrong, there was nothing good in me that is why needed Jesus. When I came out of that ignorance I realized that this is a trick of he enemy, wanted to be accepted for who you are and believing you do not need to to be changed. But unless you have adopted the ways of Christ and follow His word well yeah there are things that needs to be changed and although God loves us He will never accept our sin. Yes these things we want to be accepted (personality, hobbies etc) for by other people may hurt us if we're not but if we follow Christ He will send someone who loves us the right way. Hope that made sense lol Post Reply
View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 29 Jan, 2012 09:34 PM I think that it really depends on what people expect you to accept. I have Asperger�s Syndrome, and I can�t change that. I need someone to accept me as I am. That being said, I don�t expect someone to just put up with my inability to see that they may be hurting, or not doing things with them simply because I am not interested in doing things that they like. I expect them to understand that they will need to tell me how they feel, since I can�t always pick up on it, and I know that I need to learn to do things with them so that we can enjoy our time together. I need someone who will understand that I can do most things that �normal� people do, but I need a lot of help learning how to do it. But, I have also met plenty of people who are very selfish in their attitudes, and expect others simply to put up with it. I worked with one woman who told me that until a guy is willing to allow her to do whatever she wants when she wants it, she will never get married. That�s not something that someone should expect to accept just as they are. There are some things that we should be willing to change. Post Reply
View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 30 Jan, 2012 06:02 PM @OP this is very true what you are saying, however, that is not realistic especially on a Christian date site or any site for that matter. JMHO Post Reply
View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 30 Jan, 2012 06:03 PM @OP this is very true what you are saying, however, that is not realistic especially on a Christian date site or any site for that matter. JMHO Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	accept you as you are? Posted : 8 Feb, 2012 04:24 PM arent we (both sexes) being unreasonable if we expect the opposite sex to accept us as we are and the way that we are is not in agreement with how God wants us to be as a potential spouse? No!!! I have my non-negotiable and I have I can accept just as they are. First off my potential mate better have a walk after Y-shua like I do or no deal� I believe in Torah my mate doesn�t have to but he better respect that in me�. Or no deal� My son is autistic so I plan to leave an adherence and if he lives to keep up with the Jones and can�t save money�no deal�. I can live with underwear on the floor... Or if he has quite times and does not feel like talking� I can live with that�. There is what you can live with and what you can not, these are just the things to talk about!!!!!!!!!!!! Post Reply