Author	Thread: Hrm. Question ladies:
Admin	Hrm. Question ladies: Posted : 3 Jan, 2012 08:07 AM So, I'm pretty sure I'm starting to having some serious affection for my best friend. Her name is Ashley. She actually just broke up with her last boyfriend probably 3 weeks ago now or so. We hang out a lot, before, during, and post this recent relationship. The reason why I'm writing this is because we had made plans a week ago to cook dinner together today and just hang out/catch up, do the usual best friends hanging out thing ya know? Last night though I got text from her saying, "I don't want to sound like a weirdo, but do you mind we not do the whole 'cook dinner together' thing? I need to rewrite some personal rules, what with breaking up with my ex boyfriend and everything. I'd still like to hang out though." My question is, does that imply she might have an attraction to me too? I mean I have no complaints about not making dinner together and whatnot-she's my best friend; I understand completely and definitely wouldn't want to make her uncomfortable in any situation. I just have a hesitance to go after women or relationships, I second guess everyone's motives, even my own. Makes it rather hard to understand emotions and whatnot sometimes. Thank you for your responses in advance! Post Reply
View Profile History	Hrm. Question ladies: Posted : 3 Jan, 2012 08:56 AM It sounds to me like she may be going through a lot right. My guess is that either she likes you and doesn't want to admit it or she is not interested in you in that way and is trying not to lead you on. Either way, I think she just needs sometime to grieve her past relationship before she can enter anything new. It's better for her to go in with a clear mind than a hazy one. Post Reply
View Profile History	Hrm. Question ladies: Posted : 3 Jan, 2012 09:07 AM And with that I totally agree. It has taken me almost 3 years to finally deal with everything about my last relationship. The girl and I were engaged, she got tempted- cheated on me during the engagement. I figured it was the fore than the latter actually, because hanging out just the two of us has never been an awkward situation or problem. I didn't even realize how much we did hang out alone until that text hehe Post Reply
View Profile History	Hrm. Question ladies: Posted : 3 Jan, 2012 09:16 AM It could be a number of things. It could be a boundary she's trying to set in general, it could be one specifically with you. It could be a fear that you could easily become a rebound guy since you two already have a strong relationship. It could be that she is attracted to you and knows you deserve better than to be her rebound guy, or that she isn't and doesn't want to lead you on. But with any of those, if she just broke up with this guy, she's not in a place to seek another relationship immediately - and it sounds like she knows that. I think the best thing you could do is continue to be a stable friend for her and let her work through it without worrying too much about the future or what it does or doesn't mean - just enjoy spending time together like you always have, and not jump ahead to what could happen in the future. Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Hrm. Question ladies: Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 04:48 PM The one thing I truly believe and most likely for both sexes is there is a rebound relationship and it does not work (usually)! I will never go out with a man who has never had the rebound relationship after someone they truly loved�. That is for someone else� not me to go through the break up�. actually if I meet a divorced man that is one of my first questions have you had the rebound relationship?? Now it could be different with a person going from relationship to relationship. They don�t need rebounds they just don�t commit to begin with. Only you know what kind of person she is. Communication is a lost art� there are many questions to ask. I would ask them because dinner could mean you are the one but in all honesty it could mean �you are a guy and than in and of its self makes me feel better.� I would say ask her where she is at right now and where she wants to go and what she wants. Everything else will fall into place. But I would go to dinner and ask her these things. Post Reply