Yes God hates divorce, and divorce is terrible in so many ways, but doesn't marriage take commitment from two. What if one is commited and the other decides to give it up and be with other people instead and live a different life. The one leaves and there is nothing the other can do to keep the covenant. I read many profiles where people won't even consider getting to know someone if they've been divorced. Overall I feel like you can't always make general judgements on people unless you know them.
"Overall I feel like you can't always make general judgements on people unless you know them. "
There are some judgments that we can make, since the Bible is clear on the reasons for divorce. It is not the person that we need to get to know, but the reason behind the divorce.
I am not interested in someone who has been divorced simply because I do not want to have to deal with all the minutia of why they got divorced in the first place. But then again I have never been married.
I also believe that marriage is for life. There are only two Biblical reasons for divorce. The first if your non-Christian spouse requested a divorce, as in 1 Corinthians 12-16. The second is because of adultery. If you divorce for any other reason and then remarry, you are committing adultery.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 (NASB)
10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband
11 (but if she does leave, she must remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.
Matthew 19:8-10 (NASB)
8 He said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way.
9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery."
10 The disciples said to Him, "If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry."
We all make choice about the person we choose to meet online or off.
There are Biblical reasons for a Divorce, if you are a Christian divorce is allowed if the spouse is an Adulter or has deserted you for someone else or something else.
Most people that are not Christian do not care why they get a divorce they just get a divorce. Which is Sad.
Divorce is allowed in Scripture. Even God divorced Israel.
Paul, in order to be a Pharisee had to be married at one time and divorced or widowed. One thing is for sure though, once a couple has been divorced they cannot get back together according to Deut. 24.
Yes, G-d hates divorce. If a human took His name in vane G-d hates that too. I could keep going but I�m sure you get the point already. What does it matter what people think. I do and repent all before G-d; He judges me. People will come, go, stay out of, and/or just stay in my life� all within His will. As long as I live within that is His will and then live in His grace and mercy when I don�t all will be well!!!!
Yes divorce is wrong unless one commits adultry. But in Matthew it even states that if someone so much as looks at another with lust they are commiting adultry. So techniquely if one is fully committed, and the other is not and leaves, as soon as that person who left starts to seek another, or even date and kiss another after being separated, they are committing adultry. The way I see it, if someone who was committed to the relationship just waits a little bit, the one who was not will surely seek another, thus committing adultry, and thus making it legal in God's eyes for the one who was committed to divorce.
I think it is wrong to get a divorce, but there are two reasons it is ok to get a divorce. 1. Cheating, and 2. Abuse.
But if you truely are a christian and have a relationship with God. You won't be cheating or abusing. These days there are alot of people that have secret sexual sins. They think when I get married, it will disappear. I will be able to have all I want from my wife/husband. That I won't need this or that. The truth is. Those temptations, do not go away when you get married. They can even be bigger when you get married. If someone is married and thier wife/husband is abusing or cheating on them. They need to realize that most likely it is not all thier fault. It is something broken in that person. The spouse being cheated on, can forgive and try to get the person help for thier problems. But if a person is not willing to change. Then I think a divorce is necessary. I was married for seven years, and my husband abused me, and I ended up cheating on him. No I'm not proud of that. But I had my selfish reasons. My reasoning behind it, was I couldn't get out of the marriage. Even after I started cheating on him, he wouldn't leave me. It was a horrible mess, and my daughter had to see us fighting all the time. I don't care what anyone says they can quote scriptures or whatever, but if you have two people, one abusive, and one cheating, and the abusive one doesn't want to seek help, and they are fighting everyday. God will understand a divorce. But after you get a divorce, I advise not to date for a year. It will help you heal, after a divorce, you are usually very hurt, and your emotions are raw. You will tend to project anger and pain from your ex, onto your new partner. Not good.
I divorced because of domestic violence and adultery committed by my ex-husband. I feel sorry for him. At least in the "Christian World" I was justified and not look down upon, but he does not deserve forgiveness or as second chance to some. I came to the understanding long ago all things are under the blood....
Those who were wronged but even more those who wronged!!!!!
such a touchy issue for a lot of people, both male and female. I believe in some instances divorse is a good thing. The main reasons of abuse and cheating are the best reason and i dont think anyone should stand for such a thing.
each couple is different and need to be considered in different ways. to reject a person just because they are divorces is a form of judging and is not a good thing. keeping an open mind is key.
God hates divorce. Yes. But I do believe that there are instances where it is best. I struggled with whether or not to leave my husband for a long time. I prayed about it and was in tears for months. In the end I know God approved.
Me and my husband got married too quickly. He pretended to be a Christian and I later after marriage found out that he was in fact NOT. That he has a very volatile relationship with the Lord, even going so far as to say he HATES God, and that it is GODS fault satan fell. He quoted the satanic bible and says the Christian bible is not true. Now that to me is enough in and of itself. I will not raise my children in a home where their eternal spiritual life is at risk because they are taught these things from birth by thier father. But there was more than that. My husband quickly, one week after our marriage, began sleeping on the couch. Sex stopped, all affection stopped, and I found out he was in online chat sessions with other women on live cam and chat for pornographic purposes. Do you really think this isn't adultery? It is the same to me. Only this was not one time, and it was blatantly in my face. I was sexually REPLACED, literally, in my marriage by other women on an internet connection. He is face to face with these women via web cam, talking live with them, and being in a sexual way while ignoring his WIFE for months.
Not long after this came verbal, mental and emotional abuse. He would scream at me, throw objects, break things, put me down even in front of his friends. It was daily. And it ended up not only affecting me but also my relationship with the Lord. When I got pregnant he told me he did not care if I stayed or went, or what I did with the baby, and that the baby was not real until it was born. He also confessed that in a previous relationship he "gave his ex's child a bloody nose and left a hand print on anothers back". This coupled with an incident with my cat made me fear greatly for my child's well being.
The cat got caught clawing the couch and he ripped it up off the floor, dropped it when it scrated him because he was screaming at it and it was afraid. The cat tried to get under the couch and he grabbed it by the tail, and ripped it out, now while this was happening the cat was fighting to get away and literally SCREAMING in terror and agony. He gets the cat out, picks it up, mashes it with all his strength into the couch, punches it in the head, screaming at it, then threw it into the wall 2 feet away as hard as he could. If he would do this to a cat over clawing the couch, what will he do to a toddler? Put that with what he had already told me about his exes children and that is enough for me to know that I can not stay married to this man.
We separated 3 times. I suggested marriage counseling. He refused to go. He refuses to get help at all. He suggested divorce first. Not me. Even so, even after the abuse, the adultery, the violence, the hatred of God, I tried to make my marriage work. Over time though that did not help and he abandoned me mentally, physically, emotionally, in every way. The only thing he did not do was move out of the house, but he had the house first and he is on the lease and I am not.
Through all this I know that I have done everything I can to work things out. I also know that God saw it all. I took this into prayer many times and the Lord finally made it clear that my husband would not change, and to leave. Have I been judged on this site by other Christians for leaving my husband? Yes. Apparently some conform to such a legalistic view that says he did not leave the house and he did not actually PHYSICALLY have sex with another woman and that is the only reason for divorce period so I should have stayed.
But the God I know would not want me to stay being abused, abandoned, cheated on, my children raised to hate Him, and my kids learning that this is how you treat women / this is how women are supposed to be treated by their husbands. It is proven that children often repeat the cycles they see in their homes. Abused women often come from abuse home backgrounds, and abusers often come from abusive homes. I will not repeat the cycle with my child. Me and my baby's mental, emotional, and spiritual well being are at stake here. I think God understands this. This was not my fault. I know that.
I did not see this coming. My husband was a completely different person before we married. He always spoke kindly to me, never screamed or yelled, was supportive even through my fears of taking such a huge step, encouraged my relationship with the Lord, never showed violence, and when there were problems HE was most of the time the one to calmly tell me to come sit down and talk about things. One week after marriage I saw a COMPLETELY different person all together. This was NOT the man I had married at all.
Long story short, if you think your God would approve of this, then I don't think you are following Christ. These are things only the enemy would support. And I don't care how you cut it, no loving God would keep a woman in this hell just because of a legal agreement. Any man who behaved like this in Christ's time, it wouldn't have lasted long as his wife's family would have killed him and thrown him down a well somewhere. I don't wish ill on my husband, but I won't be staying, either.
