Author	Thread: What's the most respected way
Admin	What's the most respected way Posted : 8 Dec, 2011 05:53 AM That my dream woman will respond to my honest but straightforward appeal to her hand for a date?:prayingm: Women today are so cunning, us guys who genuinely desire a gofdly woman don't stand a chance.:devil: We have to keep our guard up too.:boxing: Like trying to get her to even respond to an honest email?:prayingm: Not being th emost handsome or "studly" lookin, can't get and hnest chance, nice guys finnish _____! goofball: We end up being treated like trash with our hearts too. just curious..... Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 10 Dec, 2011 09:18 PM This might sound lame and I have no idea if it will help you out with an answer but the problem isn't you. It's all the "used car salesman wannabes" who were in a girl's life before you. I know for me, it's hard to believe a guy is actually a nice guy because there are so many shady guys out there. And it's hard to believe there is a actually a guy out there who doesn't have an agenda. And in this day and age, words don't mean much. The best way to get a girl to respond to a date invitation is to not give up. Show her what kind of guy you are by your actions. Don't be all talk. Have honest eyes. I don't think guys realize that their eyes give them away. We can usually tell what you really want by how you look at us. Choose the girl you want to spend time with wisely. If after this, the girl still doesn't want to go on a date with you then just be her friend. You never know, maybe somewhere down the road she'll have a change of heart. =) Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 11 Dec, 2011 06:06 AM STUpidBOOSter-- A thinking woman will not judge all men by the actions of one --or many. When she is ready and able to, an emotionally healthy female will let go of the angst a former relationship has caused her and chalk that up to experience and move forward. Anything other than that indicates she either doesn't have or hasn't figured out how to utilize the skill set necessary for emotional self-care. :Mug: Cheers! Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 11 Dec, 2011 06:01 PM I've never fully understood why so many messages are ignored. Maybe someone can share some insights? I know the common reason given ... people consider it the most "nice" way to let someone know they aren't interested. But I've just never been able to buy into that. It's not nice to ignore someone, it's rude. Maybe some girls have had bad experiences; maybe there have been guys who have gotten upset with them for turning them down; guys who for some bizarre reason act as though they *expect* a girl to be interested in them, and get angry when she says she isn't. I've heard the stories. But ask yourself a question... Do people who act like that really deserve your sympathy? Should you really be concerned about whether you upset them? I mean they kind of have it coming to them... and it's not fair to those of us who *don't* act that way for people to consequently be reserved about who they'll talk to. I've been rejected by a few girls on this website; I never got upset over it and some of us actually ended up becoming pretty good friends anyway. Never, to my knowledge, have I been anything less than intentionally polite and respectful toward someone when they reject me (because I know it can be a hard thing to do!). But I do find it rude when people don't even reply, especially considering that I like to put a lot of time into my messages, even the short ones. We're not all the same, so we shouldn't be treated with the assumption that we're going to be rude ourselves if you tell us you're not interested (if indeed that is the concern). I would much rather prefer a simple "Thank you for your message but I don't think we would make a good match" than no reply at all. At least that acknowledges the time put into reading your profile and writing to you. And who knows, we may even make good friends anyway, or there even end up being some interest after all that wasn't initially there. It happens. In fact, I know of a couple *marriages* that started that way! Some of us really *don't* have a hidden agenda in mind when messaging you ... we just find your profile interesting and want to be friendly. Just some thoughts. ;) Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 11 Dec, 2011 07:04 PM Stupidbooster, I totally agree with your reply, great advise:glow: Andi. Post Reply
Statie View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 12 Dec, 2011 05:33 PM ScottMorgan--much has been posted on this topic of non-responders. While YOU make take rejection well and remember to be polite in spite of it there are many men and even a number of women that do NOT take rejection well and have been known to retaliate with additional correspondence intent on trying to degrade the person they feel has rejected them. All it takes is one hateful-nasty response to make a person think twice about responding at all much less with a "thanks but no thanks". Many women on here have been subjected to this kind of treatment--for no other reason than they were honest and felt as you do that it would be rude not to reply. Don't take it so personally that you aren't even getting polite rejections. For many woman it's more about protecting their own peace of mind than opening themselves up to attack by a weenie that cannot take rejection--lol. :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 13 Dec, 2011 12:41 PM actions often speak louder than words. How we respond to rejection does matter to a girl, I can tell you from experience that how you handle a rejection or a breakup can show more about your character. If you are the same person towards her that you were before you asked her that will show maturity and in an odd way might make her think about maybe saying yes next time. Post Reply
redeemedrachel View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 13 Dec, 2011 11:17 PM When sending a message of interest, write more than "Hi, how are you?" If I'm not interested, it's really difficult to let you know that when all you've said is "Hi, how are you?" Write one or two short paragraphs (at least) commenting on something in the lady's profile you liked. Also, ask her one or two questions. And it will definitely help you if your writing is free from numerous errors, so clean up those typos! :) Hope this advice helps. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 14 Dec, 2011 06:36 AM Honestly, if she doesn't respond, she's not into you. There was a little book telling girls this about guys, and it's true in reverse. There's no trick or certain way to ask a girl out so as to coerce her into a date with you. If she's interested, she'll respond. If she's not, she won't. And it isn't something to take personally or take offense at. There may be any number of reasons, or there may be none. Maybe there are things you can do to increase your likelihood (interesting messages, a good profile, whatever) but bottom line, she may not be interested in you. AND THAT'S OKAY. You can move on to someone else. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 15 Dec, 2011 11:43 AM All time best response to any rejection is laugh it off. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the most respected way Posted : 15 Dec, 2011 11:44 AM If you can do that, you've got it made. Post Reply

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