Author	Thread: Who gets the couch?
ephesians522 View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 09:14 PM Honesty is suppose to be the best policy, guys can be honest with guys, gals can be honest with gals(with some of the gals I knew that's not always the case, check to make sure that pain in your back is just a pulled muscle). But things change between a guy and a gal. Sure you say you want a best friend but should he walk on pins and needles? Woman have the knack of coming up with "loaded" questions, maybe it's just some of you like to see a man biting his lower lip and break a sweat. You can see the terror in his eyes when he knows an argument is going to occur. So on the days you would like a truthful and honest answer from him, should he immediately grab a blanket and the extra pillow to show you he's going to give you an honest answer, or does, "Can we talk about somethng else?", give you the answer you're looking for? Either way, who's turn is it on the couch? Post Reply
View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 1 Feb, 2009 10:41 PM Honesty always should be the best policy. But that is not always the case in the dating arena. Usually , it is half-honesty and half-overexaggeration that lands a date with someone. Why not be totally honest and upfront? Because 2 months or 12 months down the line and your in a relationship you can't just up and say"Sorry honey, I forgot there was something that I really was'nt upfront with you about". Because a real strong relationship should'nt be all about making a first impression, it should be based on a person being able to be themselves 100% with the person that they are with. Not because they had to perform some kind of 3 ring circus act just to gain a man or womans attention. Have a blessed night and Godbless, Arlena Post Reply
duchess_sarah View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 06:59 PM That is hilarious...I had to reply to this one. Yes, honesty is important...if you're honest from the beginning with a girl, well, as long as she doesn't have major issues (everyone has something they're struggling w/but u know what I mean, I think) - she will appreciate it. Also, it depends on what you're talking about. You of course have to use tact & be gentle in how you respond to a girl...like, the whole "do I look fat in this" ~ she's asking you this because she needs encouragement from you, like...tell her how beautiful she is...often. THe more mature the girl is in Christ, probably, not always, but most likely, the less loaded questions you'll get from her, but noone's perfect. If both of you are close to the Lord, then your primary goal would be to seek after Him & get your fulfillment from Him, so it won't be so tough. I say...nobody should sleep on the couch..I'm sure there will be times that it happens, but I just think it's important to resolve your issues, make sure each person feels validated by the other..no matter how irrational their feelings are... Sorry, I know I"m not a counselor, hope this helps in some way!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 08:39 PM I say pick your battles or topics.....lol...Seriously, though, I feel it depends on the topic and the way you approach it! I feel you should be able to communicate just about anything if it is approached in the right manner. If you have a "tact" problem you might need to run some interference before you are "at 'tacked"...Know your gift areas and if this isn't one of them ask God to put a watch on your lips and ask Him to work it out..! :))) Robin Post Reply
View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 08:39 PM I say pick your battles or topics.....lol...Seriously, though, I feel it depends on the topic and the way you approach it! I feel you should be able to communicate just about anything if it is approached in the right manner. If you have a "tact" problem you might need to run some interference before you are "at 'tacked"...Know your gift areas and if this isn't one of them ask God to put a watch on your lips and ask Him to work it out..! :))) Robin Post Reply
View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 8 Feb, 2009 01:27 PM With all honesty is concerned then I would rather start the fight so I can sleep on the couch to get the remote and watch t.v. lol I think that it can be healthy in (MY) marriage to have some good disagreements to me. I dont mind as long as we love each others crazy attitudes and keep it under control. I like ALOT OF SALT in my chicken sometimes. lol call me a woman of choice but I dont mind sharing the couch....as long as you will leave me alone and let me watch what I want to watch....jk Post Reply
Phoenyx View Profile History	Who gets the couch? Posted : 5 Apr, 2009 06:00 PM Honesty is the best, but there is such a thing as round-about honesty. If a woman looks horrible in a hat and asks you if you like it on her, my dad's suggestion is to say, "I don't think that fits you probably, but I do this this"-- He brings up another hat that he truly thinks looks good on her. "--really is complimented by you." Even if she doesn't look good in any hats, tell her that it distracts from a beautiful feature or accessory on her. If you think she looks better in a hat, suggest one. It doesn't have to be so awkward. Be polite, be true, that's all to ask of you. As far as the couch, I think such a thing should be used to show that you don't want a fight, not that you don't want to be around the other person. It also should be up to the spouse who is intent on this to maybe whisper this reason to their spouse before walking of and possibly that alone will have the other person chasing after to sleep with you on the couch because they too don't want to have another fight. Post Reply