Author	Thread: The Importance of Age
Admin	The Importance of Age Posted : 3 Dec, 2011 05:50 PM Ladies, how important is age to you? I find that 99% of the women under 25 seem really immature. I find that I enjoy the company of those from the ages of 25-28 the most. Would most women be alright with dating someone a few years younger than themselves, or am I just going to have to wait(or hope for an exception)? Post Reply
Vivere View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 04:09 AM Interesting question, Sama. I won't answer it, but I'll just say I found that age is not really an indicator of maturity. maturity is relative anyway in this day and age with all this situational ethics flying around. the interpretation of maturity is defined by the reader and not by the author in this day and age of hermeneutics. Age is really not an indicator of maturity. And also, no matter how mature someone is... take myself for example :excited: I'm still interested in Justin Bieber's new haircut. no matter how smart someone is, there'll be stuff they just don't know, no matter how mature someone is, they'll always be missing a thing or two, or have the maturity of a hula hoop in regards to one aspect of their lives. So possibly one way to look at "maturity" is just to define clearly in your mind what you need or hope for in a healthy relationship, and keep an eye out for that. Instead of trying to judge how mature an individual is, and by whose standards. Just a thought. Post Reply
View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 09:16 AM When it is just a couple years, I don't think it matters at all... in either direction. The span changes a little as you get older so that 5 years makes little difference. Though, there is still a double standard ; a woman 5 years older than a man (or more) still seems frowned upon, though it is seen in celebraties. 15-20 years difference is problematic, perhaps not so much immediately, but as they both age it will make a BIG difference (energy level, health issues, free time, etc). I agree with the previous poster... it has more to do with skill set and stability than maturity. By your standards, I would be considered old, but I still dance in the kitchen when I'm doing the dishes! :yay: Post Reply
View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 06:36 PM Thanks for the advise. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not discounting anyone automatically based on age, but in my experience I get along better than women slightly older than myself. Perhaps mature wasn't the word to use, and you are correct, it is relative and open to interpretation. I was curious if my age would be a problem, since typically women date men older than themselves. I apologize if the original post sounded offensive or condescending to anyone, it was not my intention. Post Reply
View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 07:48 PM The only thing I notice really in age gaps that can cause a clash is just the general focus and life problems that the two people will face. Take a 22 year old college guy and a 30 year old woman. The college guy is looking to graduate, try to get his first real job, and worries about student loans and paying rent on time. The 30 year old woman is focused on the pressure of settling down, the lack of time left until she can't have kids, and whether or not to buy a house. Two totally different focuses on what's important on life and so they may have a clash because guy turns 24 and woman turns 32, suddenly she wants kids, and he's looking into a sports car. Or possibly, she wants to take a long vacation and travel the world, and he's trying to score the next big promotion. Ya know? They face different life issues and problems and that can cause small clashes on what they value as important. Maturity is relative anyway. Just seek God's counsel on the matter, and He'll show you the right things to look for, for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 4 Dec, 2011 10:57 PM Mostly, age is only really important for two reasons: 1.) Legal issues and 2.) Commonality Generally, I have a "my age +10 or -5 years" rule, but the level of maturity is more important to me. You can be 7 years older than me, but be as mature as a 15-year old and it won't matter to me. I'll walk the other direction, thank you. I also would rather date an older guy, if he's mature enough. In the end, the choice is up to you. What do you value in a person? Age or maturity? If it's maturity, take a look at an older girl or wait to find a girl closer to your age. Being the age you are, you should have to worry if the girl is only a couple of years older, maybe as much as 5 years older. Also, the girls that are your age should be maturing soon, as hormones start to settle to "normal." Post Reply
View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 7 Dec, 2011 05:00 PM I prefer someone closer to my age just for the sake of having more in common. I like both younger and older guys, but really not more than 10 years older. It just really depends on the person, where they are in life, and if we get along. Post Reply
redeemedrachel View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 13 Dec, 2011 11:24 PM I'm sure there are several women who wouldn't mind being with a younger man, but I personally strongly prefer someone older. While age isn't a perfect indicator of maturity, I feel like I can more easily respect someone who is older than I am. I get criticized for this, but it's just my personal preference. It would be more difficult for me to respect my husband if he were younger. Post Reply
ambershereflowers View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 22 Dec, 2011 10:45 AM its not about the age at least for me..its about maturity and that comes within any age..so when u find the one who has the maturity u seek... she will of the proper age regardless of the number associated with her age.. Post Reply
View Profile History	The Importance of Age Posted : 23 Dec, 2011 03:32 PM I find age important. I get annoyed when men who are old enough to be my FATHER look at my photo...Sorry but this isn't biblical times where a man could marry a young woman and still live hundreds of years. For example, let's say life goes to plan and we die of old age. Now if someone 20 years older than me marries me, most likely they will die 20 years or so before I do, leaving me alone in this life for 20 years. Really? That doesn't sound pleasant. Now on a different side, I'm not sure where but I think somewhere in the bible it speaks of age, and how younger people are to look at their elders as a father and mother, and the older generation are to look at the youth as a son or daughter. So why are you looking at me with interest when I'm young enough to be your daughter?! Can I say EWW!!!, without looking immature? In short, I think people should stick closer to their age. A 6 year difference isn't so bad, but 10...20? Noooooo way! Post Reply