Author	Thread: How do I move on?
Admin	How do I move on? Posted : 26 Jan, 2009 10:50 PM I dated April when she was 15 and I was 25. Yes the age difference was great but I just liked her so much that I was willing to wait till she was 18. Then her mom at the advice of a ex con moved her away from me. We were brought back together through what I thought was God 6 years later. We dated for a few weeks and everything was great. Then we got engaged and I gave my virginity to her on our b-days which are a day apart. Then she became distant and it was if I had done something all the time other than when she was feeling romantic so to say. I got a dui for pills which was just me not following directions. Then for some reason I got drunk at my cousins wedding. She was willing to forgive me and move on. Then her daughter got sick and was in the hospital for a month. Her daughter gets released and she doesn't contact me for a week. She then breaks up with me through text. She said she didn't want to be tied down yet and worried that I'd be like my dad who is a addict. She feared she would have to go through the same stuff as my mom and didn't think she could do that. April was sexually abused by her father and raised by a mom that was abused as a child as well. I just have all these what ifs. Why did God allow me to go through this if it wasn't going to work out. Why is it that I made poor choices like I wanted to sabatoge my relationship with April? I saved myself for marriage and was weak and gave in once I got engaged. So know what do I do, how do I move on and not bring this junk into my marriage when I do get married? Please Help Thanks Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 27 Jan, 2009 09:04 AM Hi, I think that you said it best in the last line of your post. You made a poor choice. Why did God let you go through this? Because He gave us a free will to make our choices for better or worse. How do you move on? 1John1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. God will forgive you and then you need to forgive yourself to move on. We all make mistakes and the woman that God has for you to marry will have made some too. God bless you, Lydia Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 27 Jan, 2009 10:55 AM I know this is ask a girl, but I thought I might be able to help some. Before you can move on successfully, you have to heal. Right now you are still feeling the anger and frustration from being hurt. Any healing is a process and takes time. The anger you are feeling right now is normal, has anyone told you that? Sometimes people think being a Christian means we don't feel pain anymore, that is not true, it just means we have help to get us through it. We still experience the same emotions everyone else does. There is no set time to recover, it is different for everyone. Once you can forgive her and not want to get back with her, you are ready to move on. In the mean time, you are in the right place. Talk to some good Godly women, open your heart to them. I think you can trust them with it. The companionship will make it easier to get your life back. I know that it was a big deal that she was your first, but we have been making women deal with the same thing in this country for over 200 years. They don't like it any more than you do, but it happens. You can't beat yourself up over it, just learn from your mistake. One thing you might think about, women, or men, who have been sexually abused are very seldom faithful, for many reasons that I would rather not go into on a public forum. The fact is, it is not their fault, and until they have worked through this problem, they will hurt every person that gets close to them. Maybe God was trying to protect you from going through that. Love and grace, Leon Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 27 Jan, 2009 08:08 PM ARod, The First Thing to do is forgive yourself and see "Your Worth Through The Blood Of The Lamb" "Just The Way The Lord Sees You...No of us are prefect so just understand that "You are ok" just The Way You Are..."Just Like "Joyce Meyers Says.... Second Off,Ask The Lord that you will seek " His Values For Your Life" You will want "A Godly Woman That Will Study The Word Of God With You And Will Not Compromise Her Morals For A Good Time...That The Lord Will Give You Insight Into What Kind Of Woman He Has For You..Someone with (His Character&The Fruits Of The Spirits) Start to say "Lord I Thank You This Woman In On The Way..I Thank You that she has "The Fruits Of The Spirit Of Love,Joy And Peace And Patiences And Understanding And Long Suffering...That She Will Be With You In The Good Times And Bad Times...Will Love You Unconditonal No Matter What....(Speak These Things As Those They Are) I Forgot That Is In The Bible Somewhere But Forgot Where It Found And What Verse.... ~Hope I Helped You Aron~:applause: ~May God Richely Bless You And Your Family~:applause::yay: ~Lynda~:peace::angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 29 Jan, 2009 03:28 PM Thanks for your response Lydia. Yes I messed up and I know it was the wrong choice. But I really don't feel bad at all about that, it's just the hurt of giving myself to her and then we don't even end up together. She cut me out of her life completely and I have know idea of how she and Shayla her daughter are doing or where there at. I still love her although I wish I didn't but she was my first love. I wish I could just forget about her and move on. Not sure if this is normal but I just feel like I'm never going to be able to quit thinking about her. Thanks for listening. God Bless You, Aaron Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 29 Jan, 2009 03:32 PM Leon, I agree with all that you said and greatly appreciate it. I don't want to get back together with her anymore. I just still love her and it hurts me that she cut me out of her life and that we can't even be friends because of that. God Bless You, Aaron Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 29 Jan, 2009 03:40 PM Lynda, Thanks for your kind words, I greatly appreciate it. I am actually going to be starting a healing and deliverence class in a few weeks. I am working on myself and know that God is going to bring me my bride very soon. I have received two prophetic words over that last two years that my bride is on her way. Also the Lord showed me a few details about what she would look like in a dream. So I know that I just need to work on getting healing and let God bring her to me in his perfect time. I am kinda in the dumps today as it is 9 years today that my best friend went to be with Jesus. God Bless you, Aaron :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 3 Feb, 2009 11:15 PM Well for starters a good long cry helps. Then think she was young u had ur first from her. She texted u cause she didn't have the guts to say it after this do u still love me. Yes she probly think u just wanted s_x. And she left thinking no way he couldn't love me. Her maw was in her ear stating after math of S_x u wouldn't want her. Did u just leave her alone after the text? u should have banged on her door stating ur love with roses. And that u loved her for her and saying walk beside me I will always need u. Always be by my side right here. I need u that is all I ever wanted do you remeber. I treasured u I know we went through tuff times I care. Don't just let are love slip away. It breaks my heart at what's happening. State it u love her gooo back. Post Reply
Phoenyx View Profile History	How do I move on? Posted : 5 Apr, 2009 06:20 PM The Bible teaches reconciliation (hope I spelled that right). There is no moving on. The two are you are of one flesh, man and woman in God's eyes. Even if it's hard and produces no results, keep trying to make it work. Post Reply