Author	Thread: Winks? Cheezy, though to the point?
Admin	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 01:28 PM I ask this question because, personally I think a "wink" can be efficient/useful, it lets the person know that I'd be interested in talking with them, without wasting my time writing a personalized "catchy" note that won't get responded back(if they aren't interested to begin with, which I could understand and would respect, it's hard to answer back to everyone if you get a lot of messages). So with winks, you just click it to let them know...but nothing more, if there is no message/response back, then you know that's that. I also ask because I'm assuming/afraid that most women would disregard/ignore winks altogether automatically thinking it's cheezy or that the "winker" will imply too much interest(for me it's opposite, I "wink" to lightly let them know, but I'm not attached to it...whereas a note I feel bad since I made the effort to write something, when it wouldn't have mattered to begin with). What do you all think about Winks? (speaking of the button to notify the user, not a real wink in public, lol) Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 01:56 PM If a guy winks at me and I like his profile, I will wink back to see what he does next. If he ignores the wink or just winks back, then I see it as he was not interested enough to initiate an actual conversation even though he was the one to "initiate" interest. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 02:34 PM That's a logical and fair approach, good to know. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 07:03 PM Many on here use "Wink" to just flirt. I will usually send a message to a Wink and if he does not write a message back then I move on, don't take him serious. I also do that with Favorites. Men make me a favorite then I write a message and never get a reply, now that is really Cheezy. :laugh: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 11 Oct, 2011 09:15 PM I would guess that 99.9% of all the winks I get are from people that I have no interest in (ie. they are WAY too old, WAY too young, live overseas, have some obvious dealbreakers, etc.). I just ignore them. If I actually get a wink from someone who DOES interest me, I either wink back or send a short "Thanks for the wink" sort of message. A message still works better, though, if a guy really wants to get my attention. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 09:53 AM That's so refreshing to hear. You ladies are logical and rational and reasonable, at least in my opinion.. haha...I of course am a fellow Christian... but I've heard from friends(perhaps somewhat Christian) have a sort of..."snobbery" in that they will automatically reject/ignore all winks as if it's cheezy and not good enough. I guess I was worried that winks are vastly ineffective(which is why I've refrained from using them). Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 12 Oct, 2011 07:38 PM For me, a wink with no follow up is just a man trolling profiles and clicking "Wink" on a bunch of ladies. However, a wink followed by a note - whatever length - gets my attention. And I reply. Post Reply
DanielleJoy1228 View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 17 Oct, 2011 10:53 PM How about the reverse? If a girl winks at a guy is she being considered too forward, brash, loose etc.? Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 18 Oct, 2011 12:22 PM A wink or whatever - it's good as far as I am concerned. It takes a little of the work out of the communication - and I assume she probably knows we have some things in common or she would not have sent it to me. And unless she is just someone I would not be interested in (and sometimes even then) I consider it a big compliment if a woman sends me a wink or contacts me first. And besides that it also tells me that she probably is not the fearful type. Nothing more attractive to me than a positive and faith-filled lady. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 21 Oct, 2011 08:32 PM I agree, I don't think it is too straight forward. I don't believe in games or brushing someone off because they did or did not wink, either way I would check out the profile and give a fair judgement before contemplating the next action.. if you ask me that's mature and fair enough... I suppose there people out there who are too good for winks, or automatically might not respond because you winked instead of messaged(as I've read some profiles stating). Winks let me know...as I've put in my profile... that if I messaged her..she might actually want to talk back. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks? Cheezy, though to the point? Posted : 9 Nov, 2011 09:29 AM I don't know how to react to a wink, mainly because Im here to look for friends and fellowship, so a wink from a stranger(someone not active in the forums such as this) only confuses me. I would rather receive a message from a stranger stating what's on their mind, than to be left guessing..? But I guess the right thing to do would be to send them a "thank you for the wink" message or something along those lines? I'll pray about it. God is good, Ken Post Reply

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