No, I think sometimes when one falls in love its actually not about standards or something. I have seen women who went for guys who were not so good looking or not very stable financially and pick out one who was not in better positions than the others.
Do you think a woman if presented with too many options, or a woman that has to many suitors consciously or unknowingly ups the bar (standards etc) --Rabbit32
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What an interesting question you posed Rabbit! Given there are something like 6-7 hundred million people globally that have internet access and with the more accepted practice of using dating websites, people looking for romance have millions of profile possibilities to choose from. Oy vey! Thinking about this on such a large scale boggles the mind.
I don't know that having a large pool of suitors to choose from actually "ups the bar or standards by which we as women do choose". I would offer up that by the time a woman reaches her mid twenty's (being the thinking creatures that we are) like myself they have put in significant time considering what attributes and character traits are important in a life-time mate choice. Additionally, we have learned to adjust our decision-making strategies based upon the number of our available options (men) and can with relative ease whether we have 4 or 40 to choose from, find our hearts desire should God place him in our directional path.
Having said all of that, certainly as an individual preference...there are some women whose choice strategy criteria is more restrictive based on a set of higher standards to which they use in their decision making process. These women then, because of her presumably higher standards would definitely benefit from a large array of options (men) so as to have the greatest number of "Potential Possibles" to choose from given her stringent criteria and the tendency for some options (men) to simply not measure up, lol.
Lastly, you referenced the unconscious mind influencing the standard by which we choose. Again I would say the "standard" was most likely set some time back and does not influence WHY we choose...what does influence the unconscious mind are memories, feelings, thoughts and urges outside of our conscious awareness and definitely impacts HOW we choose.
Can you see? :ROFL::dancingp::dancingp::rocknroll:
Seriously...would it be fair to say that despite all of your criteria...that...Chemistry
TRUMPS everything else?
I mean if a guy has those "dreamy" eyes that just turn you into a pool of "Blub"...wouldn't something like that be difficult to Ignore?
If the guy is McDreamy or McSteamy and he comes up a little "short" on what you are looking for...but...he is TOTALLY into you...would you not go for it?
Seriously...would it be fair to say that despite all of your criteria...that...Chemistry TRUMPS everything else? I mean if a guy has those "dreamy" eyes that just turn you into a pool of Blub"...wouldn't something like that be difficult to Ignore? If the guy is McDreamy or McSteamy and he comes up a little "short" on what you are looking for...but...he is TOTALLY into you...would you not go for it? Answer Truthfully!
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You�re asking a Chemical Engineer if CHEMISTRY does not TRUMP everything else�..REALLY????? You�re really asking me that???? :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL:
And...to answer your question....well DUH....lol, of course it does!
But let me add this caveat. Even before a chemical reaction has a chance to take place...if the male in question does not meet enough of a females acceptable conscious or subconscious attraction criteria�.NO hormonal chemical reaction is going to take place...............EVER.
If that fails to happen...if no chemical reaction takes place�it�s not going to matter how �totally into� me he is because unlike yourself, lol�.I�m not going to find Dreamy McSteamy�s eyes�even remotely attractive ya goober. :nahnah:
(being the thinking creatures that we are) :laugh: wait was ou joking...lol..I jest
@ O Shea if I am hearing you correctly you're saying that its quality over quanity?
Makes you wonder if women's standards (whatever they are) if not realistic, or if not biblical; paint themselves in a corner.
It seems like to me that we (men and women) dont have very good compasses most of the time, even though its avliable.
Consider this..how many women here have ever been around a man who you were not in the least bit attracted to, but in spening time with, and getting to know him you fell for him, (kind of like what that greek fella was sayin lol)
Well apart from coming across as a frustrated intellectual who lives in comic book surrounded by Khumbaya christians who have absolutely no grasp of reality, your chemical soup romantic slosh is uninspired..unproven and unbiblical. It wreaks of the "lust of the eyes" and stinks of Hollywooditis!!
Biblical Love is firstly a Choice and secondly a God given ability which fallen man has perverted to the core.
Your wee Grannies concept of Humanity being inately good is again totally unscriptural and flies in the face of every word written by our creator about his creation. He clearly declares mankind totally depraved and even our "good works as Filthy rags before him". I dont know which emergent purpose driven, best life now "church" you attend or which watered down good news version of scripture you obviously read but dont study but i humbly suggest you listen to ALL the shows at WORLDVIEWWEEKEND.COM and with Gods grace grab hold of some discernment and wisdom for the spiritual apostasy and abuse which is now descended apon the world and will surely increase at an alarming rate as the return of our murdered savior draws Nigh. Robbie....from Scotland. XXX
I do think it is possible that women might "up the bar" if they have a lot of guys to choose from. I've had friends who have guys just lined up waiting to date them; those friends always seem to be hoping to find someone better than the last guy. And because there is always someone else waiting in the dating line, they can usually find someone that they perceive to be "better." When these friends finally settle down with their Mr. Perfect, though, I can't honestly tell that they are much happier than when they were dating Mr. Not-Quite-Good-Enough.
The same is true for guys who have lots of girls to choose from, though.
Personally, if I had TWO guys to pick between, I'd probably faint dead away just from the shock of it. Guys have never exactly found me to be dating material, so I've never had to make a choice...I wouldn't know what to do! :rolleyes:
