Author	Thread: How would you approach?
jmae View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 16 Aug, 2011 10:23 PM There happens to be a guy at my fav coffee shop that I am very interested in. Question is how do I let him know? I'm a traditional romantic so of course I'd love for him to make the first move and sweep me away...lol... but I only ever see him when he's working - which causes constraints. I would prefer options that do not include stalking and cliches....lol... but if you must have fun with your comment go ahead. Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 01:20 AM There happens to be a guy at my fav coffee shop that I am very interested in. Question is how do I let him know? I'm a traditional romantic so of course I'd love for him to make the first move and sweep me away...lol... but I only ever see him when he's working - which causes constraints. I would prefer options that do not include stalking and cliches....lol... but if you must have fun with your comment go ahead. Thanks! ******************** Here's an idea.... Why not try.....................the direct approach? Go to your nearest Wal*Mart and purchase an inexpensive broom...and a huge red bow. Take a marker....and write your phone number and name down the side of the broom...attach the bow. Next time you're in the coffee shop to oogle this fella...Go up to him and hand him the broom. When he quizzically looks at you and asks what it's for...just SMILE your most disarming, dazzling smile, with direct gaze and say..."For sweeping me off my feet, of course! Name and number on that handle." :ROFL: Whilst it's a bit corny....lo, I betcha three things will happen. He's going to smile....if for no other reason because it's kinda funny, silly and playful and you've taken him off guard. Secondly, it's a totally unique and direct approach. If nothing else...he'll never EVER forget You...whether he calls or not and lastly....If you do this correctly...with the right amount of sweet-playfulness...that lad is going to call you...or at the very least think about doing so. And the bonus here is...he's not going to lose a broom with your name and number on it...as he might with a little ole' piece of paper....:rocknroll: Should you decide to do this Jmae...do let me know who swept whom off their feet...:laugh: ~O'Shea~ Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 03:20 AM I hate to interject, (and I really do) but isnt this question in the wrong forum....seems like asking women about how to catch a mans attention is...idk...best ansewered by a man..I could be wrong lol :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 06:02 AM Just go up to him and say, Hi ! I see you come here often and So do I. I'm forward, why put it off if you are interested in him. At this point the man maybe involved someone else. Find out fast save time. LOL Post Reply
View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 06:54 AM ahhhh.... Rabbit32....How ironic you respond to her with WHAT she should have done rather than HOW she should do it...:ROFL: Perhaps that's why she asked other women. :) Post Reply
jmae View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 09:19 AM Thanks lovely ladies =) I do love the broom idea... Now if I could find my guts that would be great ;) lol. Oh and Rabbit --- I was going to post in the guys section - just haven't done so yet - had to see what the gals would say first. Post Reply
View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 09:19 AM You know rabbit, there is nothing stopping you from giving your two cents worth, even though she didn't ask a guy. Post Reply
jmae View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 09:43 AM There men, you may now give your own answers in your forum ... lol Post Reply
View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 09:57 AM Why are you interested in this guy? If you better understand your motives then you may better develop the motivation and angle of approach or realize it may not even be your hearts desire. Whenever I am attracted to a woman yet nervous I realize its almost always if not always because she stimulates my mind yet conflicts with my faith,heart(lust based) yet the women who appeal to my heart because they are true christians well then I have no fear yet excitement in introducing myself and becoming friends. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 17 Aug, 2011 08:55 PM I used "how" and not "what" :nahnah: lol Post Reply
View Profile History	How would you approach? Posted : 18 Aug, 2011 04:01 AM I too like OShea�s idea. There�s always an element of risk, when you find that you have to be the one to instigate a friendship or admit attraction. I personally would not admit attraction to someone who is not attracted to me� I�d get to know the man first and find out if its neutral� I�ve only ever told a man that I did have feelings for him, when the feelings were not there on his part, when we were good friends already. This wasn�t to pressure him, but was just honesty. It didn�t ruin our friendship, and we remained friends. I don�t know if you�ve talked with him already a bit, if you feel comfortable around him, and if you feel there�s some mutual interest? If you have to go the direct approach, my suggestion is, keep it comical. But if you want to go the nondirective approach you can add more probes, prompts and nonverbal challenges, to kind of see where his interests are. Its pretty easy to find out if someone is not into you, and vise versa. Post Reply