Author	Thread: The X Factor?
IaoKim View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 9 Aug, 2011 11:56 AM Imagine you found a person of the opposite sex that is completely compatible with you in every way even remotely important and that you are just as compatible to the other person. Basically the two of you are perfect for each other at least on paper. But for some reason the other person just does not feel attracted to you in a romantic way. Not only do they feel nothing for you, but they apparently do not want to feel anything toward you. Imagine the only reason given for not feeling that way toward you is something as trivial as the way you hold a fork. That is pretty much where I am right now. I've accepted her decision, but I still don't completely understand it. I don't see how two people can be completely compatible for each other yet one seems to be unable or unwilling to love the other in that way. I've always believed that while feelings are important, that love is ultimately a choice. It is the choice to love that will keep two people together during the toughest of times not the feelings of love which can come and go with time. So what is that X factor? Chemistry? The obsessive blinding feeling of being "in love"? Free will? What makes one not attracted to another when even compatibility is completely satisfied yet attracted to someone who is not even remotely compatible? Post Reply
View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 9 Aug, 2011 12:19 PM Having Chemistry for someone is very important, if you are courting for marriage. Some people both men/women look for Chemistry in just dating someone. Chemistry is hard to explain, You just have it for someone or you don't. I do believe it is a part of being compatible, I would not want to Marry anyone that I did not have Chemistry for. Chemistry does not always fade after years, it can last! :angel: Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 9 Aug, 2011 02:19 PM well, it's best that you let this one go for now. I've been asked the same thing from a man in the past who said we were perfect for each other...but I just didnt see him in a romantic way. Just friends. I would not ruin our friendship, so today, we are very good friends and we can count on one another...who knows, maybe one day I will see him differently. Post Reply
IaoKim View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 9 Aug, 2011 05:05 PM I've let her go and right now I am just giving myself some space to get used to the idea of just being friends again. The funny thing is that she was the one who said we would be perfect for each other which is why I was pretty confused when she said that she just didn't feel anything romantic toward me We were really close friends before we started exploring our interest in a more romantic relationship so I am sure that we will both continue to be friends in the future. It will be interesting to see the kinda girl God has for me. Based off of my own understanding, it will be pretty hard to find someone as compatible or more compatible than her. Patience is a virtue . . . keep on pressing on! :) Post Reply
View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 9 Aug, 2011 05:16 PM IaoKim I thought the saying was "Patience is a VIRGIN":dancingp: Post Reply
View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 9 Aug, 2011 05:37 PM �So what is that X factor? Chemistry? The obsessive blinding feeling of being "in love"? Free will?� I have heard the saying �Love is of The Will�. I am not sure I understand or agree with this saying. You write �The obsessive blinding feeling of being �in love�?� I don�t see it that way. A Mother does not �Will� herself to Love her Child. There is a Spiritual Bond�a Biological Bond�a CHEMICAL (chemistry) Bond. A Mother has (in fact) to WILL Herself Not To LOVE Her Child! Love is almost like One�s Soul Recognizing another�s Soul. One�s Heart feeling The Beats of someone else�s Heart. One�s Body finding itself Attracted and Drawn to Another�s. That is Love and Chemistry. Willing Oneself to do any of those is Simply Desire or Lust even. If you want something Badly Enough you will �WILL YOURSELF� to want it�to Love it! For me Love is Not of The Will. Love is something that is Sparked in My Heart (By Me and perhaps that is what is meant by �you have to Will yourself). Something �outside� of me Evokes�Inspires�Manifests � LOVE in My HEART! Yes�I Create That Love, but it is because of something OUTSIDE of me that Triggered it. And the More I am Around this Thing that Sparks this Love�the More Love I Create. As soon go kindle fire with snow, as seek to quench the fire of love with words. William Shakespeare Post Reply
View Profile History	The X Factor? Posted : 14 Aug, 2011 09:08 AM Perhaps you ought to have learned how to spoon since you cannot the fork :ROFL: Post Reply