I do not like to make judgments on people there are some things you said that may be your opinion and I have to respect that but you should listen to yourself and even read somethings that you wrote. It just sounds a tad close minded. You have no idea what God has in store for you and neither am I saying that He won't give you something that appeals to you. But broaden your horizons. Concerning the green card statement (sigh).
I haven�t followed you on the forums so I most likely will not get everything right, but here are a few thoughts.
Have you looked at your lifestyle and viewpoints to see where someone might not want to be with you? You seem to have some political points of view that are not very popular (such as the government stay out of my living space). While most people do not want government intrusion, many people who say that the government is intruding into their living space today are in the minority point of view. Most people feel that the government is too big and needs to be cut back, but they don�t interfere with most people�s day to day life. I�m not saying you should give up your principles, I am just saying that those principles can limit the number of people who are interested in you.
�I do not take B.S. from others.
I do have an attitude about me,WHEN ANGRY I say LEAVE ME ALONE,DO NOT BOTHER ME.�
If you are not willing to be patient with others, even when they frustrate you, then other people will not be patient with you. I�m not saying that you should be spineless, but you may need to learn how to deal with frustration a little better.
�I work hard driving a tractortrailer�
If you are constantly on the road, then that can pose a real problem. People usually want a spouse that is there for them most of the time. If you are away from home for a long time, that can put a lot of stress in the relationship. I�m not saying that it is not possible, once again, you are simply limiting yourself. The first woman that I seriously pursued ended up marrying a guy in the Air Force who was gone for three months at a time on a regular basis. They have two children and seem to have a good relationship. It can work, you just have to look a little harder.
I find it kinda ironic that you are looking for an Asian woman, but you are frustrated at receiving messages from women overseas. I share your concern that some are simply looking for a way out of their country. But, I do think that many are serious about a permanent relationship, even if it takes them out of the country.
I say this in love...to women its not what you say its how you say it...words are meaningless, unless they can percieved as heartfelt. We as men are called to: In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. (1 Peter3:7) if you understand women now, you will have a leg up in marriage.
Perhps you would consider soome reading material on that wile your over the road or wherver, I know revelations of how women communicate certainly opened my eyes and I still have much to learn
I am for you brother, may our Daddy bless you with great indsight in this. :^)
Since you clearly state you are looking for a woman of Asian heritage you will eliminate a large number of women from considering you. And then in your post you talk about the only women contacting you are from outside the US. Thats's who you have asked for...
I�m not going to comment on your particular likes and dislikes, or the way you describe yourself in this thread. The title of this thread is what I want to comment on. �What is the problem with me?�
First of all, I think you are extremely honest with your readers, explain yourself pretty well. Also, I think that you are quite aware of yourself, and I know lots of people who don�t have too much self-awareness. So that�s really good that you do.
A couple things I learned from the school of life, or more specifically Gerard Egan (lol), is that you have to identify the current picture. And I believe you did that quite well. You seem to know your hidden resources and unused opportunities already, and different character strengths you do have. You know your strengths. That is super good and I congratulate you. Lots of people do not know their own strengths but rather focus on their weaknesses. I used to do that a lot before.
After finding out the current picture, which you have done, you may want to look at what a preferred picture would look like. What is it you most want? What would a preferred picture look like? You can brainstorm and really ask yourself what it is you want most from a relationship.
I�ve done this relating to my future. And it�s exciting. I found that I want to be a balanced individual who does not succeed or accomplish any one thing due to trying to please others, but does it because she wants to. Although I have not put landing gear on this, I have found out that this is my goal, what I want my preferred picture to look like. I found its important to be realistic and not play games with yourself�specifically the �Yes, but� game. �Yes, I want that, but��.
Next, equally exciting is formulating action-oriented plans to help you turn your current picture into your preferred picture.
One thing I want to mention, Bill, is that once you have imagined a goal or opportunity, sometimes it helps to hit it from a different angle. For some people, if the current picture is that they are unkind, the goal is to be kind. Hitting it from a different angle could mean starting to see themselves in a different way. Because, thinking negatively about ones self cognitively and behaviorally can have the effect of a �self-fulfilled prophecy�, in that you think you are unkind, thus you behave unkind, therefore you think others won�t like you, and do to the unkindness others shy away, which you interpret as others not liking you.
So, anyway, I hope you find out what it is your really want and the actions you�re willing to take to get there. I hope you�re blessed and find peace and happiness in your life. I hope this doesn�t sound like I�m assuming too much. I personally do not have relational interests in you, but I found your post very sincere, and wanted to tell you I know how it is to take a pulse of your life, and ask those difficult questions, and I admire you for doing so.
I would like to add some more paint to this picture.
@cobbler.
I threw some confetti into the air to see the direction it was going to fly.
You had assumed that i was an over the road trucker,
Actually i happen to drive locally,I have a set route which takes me from South Brunswick,NJ to South Plainfield,NJ.
Than to Bethlehem,PA. my last stop is Reading,PA.
This is around 250+ miles each day,which i start at MIDNIGHT,Monday and i finish Friday morning.
I happen to be home every day.
As far as the Asian women,
I would like to be with an Asian woman that is already here in the USA.
This is much easier then jumping through hoops with,
Immigration.
As far as my understanding of Goverment.
Rom 13:1 Let every soul be subject to higher authorities, for there is no authority except from God, but the existing authorities have been ordained by God.
Rom 13:2 So that the one resisting authority has opposed the ordinance of God, and the ones opposing will receive judgment to themselves.
Rom 13:3 For the rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the bad. And do you desire not to fear the authority? Do the good, and you will have praise from it;
This particularverse tells me that government is to be doing GOOD.
Yet the USA government has been doing evil for many years,and there is not stopping this unless ABBA steps in.
I am for GOOD GOVERNMENT,not BAD.
Rom 13:4 for it is a servant of God to you for the good.
But if you practice evil, be afraid; for it does not bear the sword in vain; for it is a servant of God, an avenger for wrath to the one practicing bad things.
Oh and yes i do have an attitude,yet you should have been there before Yeshua saved me,and began changing my life,heart and mind.
Howdy, neighbor! We are not too far from one another geographically.
This may seem silly, but why do you believe there is anything wrong with you? (giggle) I appreciate you asking for advice, but I winced when I read the topic title. Your personal list of "pros and cons" is just that; your list. You are very attractive no matter what you look like. Your heart is what matters most. I am assuming you don't live in your truck, so you must have a home. Your friends appreciate you or they wouldn't be your friends. You are blessed to have a steady job...in this economy that's TERRIFIC! Golly, George, I think you may just be experiencing a dating drought, that's all. If you are flexible, unrestrict the age limit, be open to non-Asian sisters, post a picture of yourself and smile a bit more! (giggle)
