Author	Thread: Looking for Love?
Admin	Looking for Love? Posted : 20 Jul, 2011 07:47 AM This is something I have been struggling with for a few months. I have read several books that all say you should just stop looking for that "special" relationship and just let God do the work. And then there are people (like most of my family) who say that I won't get what I want unless I go after it. And I know that people find their significant others both ways, whether they were looking for love or God just made everything happen. I have been half-heartedly looking, but not really seriously. And I have heard several times that being single is an awesome gift because we can use all the extra time we have (that we aren't using to take care of kids or a spouse) to completely serve the Lord. The questions I have been thinking about are: if I am looking for a boyfriend/husband, aren't I taking my focus off of what I could be doing for God? How can I fully serve Him if I am looking for the kind of relationship that I am supposed to let Jesus fill? Am I being impatient by looking for a boyfriend/husband? I would like to hear your thoughts! Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Looking for Love? Posted : 20 Jul, 2011 01:19 PM Sorry for chiming in the girls section, but I couldn't resist. To answer your question, I don't think anyone really knows otherwise we wouldn't be single. I feel like He deals with people on a case by case basis. I mean there are what about 10-15 percent of the people who call themselves Christian are actually boen again and living it. If you go looking with a particular idea man in mind than you further narrow your options significantly. Also there is your own flesh that God and you have to contend with. Really its impossible for us alone to find what we want...lol...even more difficult on an online dating site where you cant experience the person....but to answer your question I dont think anyone really knows, otherwise I dont think we would be here. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Looking for Love? Posted : 20 Jul, 2011 04:11 PM I don't really think you can err too far in the direction of serving God. That said, marriage isn't a sin. It's a good thing. We have to be careful not to turn good things into ultimate things, but with the proper prioritizing, it's good to look for a spouse. I say don't try to MAKE it happen, feel like a failure, or even feel like God failed you if you don't find one anytime soon. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for Love? Posted : 20 Jul, 2011 06:48 PM My wisdom from knowing God's heart, Katie, is: don't look for the kind of relationship that only Jesus can fulfill, whether you are a gal or guy, but, rather, look for the kind of a relationship that God created men and women to fulfill in each other, a relationship of helpmate love like Adam and Eve shared as a gift from God!!! :dancingp::dancingp::dancingp::bouncy::bouncy::bouncy::yay::yay::yay::applause::applause::applause::hearts::hearts::hearts: Love, Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking for Love? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 11:05 AM I agree with much that's been said here. There are two extremes for Christian woman, one is is to pursue men in the way a man should pursue a woman, or sit back and do nothing and just hope some guy comes and sweeps you off your feet. From what you said you have a desire to one day find a man and be married. I would suggest somewhere in the middle and by that I mean don't chase men but don't sit on the sidelines and hope someone picks you. I'd say it's fine for a woman to put herself in a position to be noticed (and I don't mean by dressing provocatively) but focus on being the kind of woman that a Godly man should want to pursue. Don't be afraid to be noticeable and out there enjoying life. For me a girl who is generally happy, upbeat, and has a genuine faith that shows, will be a girl I find attractive. Post Reply
sarahbeara View Profile History	Looking for Love? Posted : 21 Jul, 2011 04:48 PM God is selfish He wants all our focus on Him. No man (or woman) should come before Him. So stay focused on God and yourself and God will bring you your knight in shining armor. Im single and havnt dated for a few months. Im focusing on God and whats important, I know God is working on my soul mate. Its hard adjusting from actively looking for 'the one' to just being open and waiting but it will definitely be worth it and my relationship it God has gotten so strong. :peace: Post Reply