Author	Thread: What is a True Man
Admin	What is a True Man Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 10:41 AM If you are struggling in the dating world there may be a chance that you are not in touch with your masculine side. Oftentimes people think to be a man, they have to act like jerks. This is the farthest thing from the truth. Being masculine and being a jerk are not synonymous. Being a jerk means not caring about the other person. Being a jerk means being selfish. Being a jerk means hurting and possibly abusing other people. Being a jerk means being oblivious to other people's wants, needs and desires. In contrast, being masculine means setting boundaries. Being masculine means knowing what you want and don't want. Being masculine means knowing what works for you and what doesn't work. For instance, being a jerk means not showing up or calling when you say you will. Being a man means not continuing to date a woman who doesn't show up or call when she says she will. See the difference? Being a man means not pouting, whining or even getting angry when a woman doesn't live up to your expectations. If the woman is not acting in a way consistent with your own needs and desires, calmly walk away with dignity and integrity. That is being a man. That is being masculine. That is being a pick up artist. A masculine man is not afraid to express his opinions, wants, desires. He makes decisions without hesitating. A masculine man is not wishy washy. A real man is not domineering. He knows that to be in control and have power does not mean using physical force or manipulation. He does not have to yell. He does not have to bully or coerce. He does not have to intimidate. A real man exudes confidence and as a nice side effect, this attracts everyone around him like magnets. He is charismatic because he knows and likes himself. He is real because he is in touch with his emotions. He's not afraid to show his emotions, but does exercise restraint when it comes to negative emotions such as jealousy and anger. He knows when to leave the room and compose himself rather than lose his temper or lose control. A real, masculine man takes the lead, but is also open to what others want to do. He doesn't walk around with the belief that it is his way or the highway. A real, masculine man is aware that everything he says and does has an impact on other people and the world. He doesn't walk through the world oblivious to its problems, but also doesn't carry the weight of the world on his shoulders. He does what he can and knows that it is enough to make small, meaningful changes in his life that may affect the world. A masculine man is not threatened by other men who may be richer, more handsome or more charming. He knows that he is a unique individual who has just as much to offer a woman or society. A real man knows himself and loves himself. As a result, everyone loves him. Post Reply
Ivory_Guitar View Profile History	What is a True Man Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 01:26 PM Thank you for this. It is very helpful. Post Reply
View Profile History	What is a True Man Posted : 23 Jun, 2011 02:11 PM Now that's something to rejoice in, inhissteps ... knowing that YOU indeed ARE a real, masculine man in Christ!!! :dancingp::dancingp::dancingp::yay::yay::yay::applause::applause::applause: And because of it, highly valued by God and attractive to the opposite sex!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts: Thanks for pointing out the differences, inhissteps. Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	What is a True Man Posted : 24 Jun, 2011 08:40 AM I totally agree with this. We must stop lumping all guys into the same bracket. There are good guys out there. the other aspect of tis I think is what tpe of people do we attract and who are we attracted to. I have heard and read that the "good" guys are frustrated too because they are gentlemen and love the Lord and do right as much as they can but they still get the shaft because we women sometimes prefer the "bad". not intentionally mind you but there is something deep within us whether it's from an emotional experience or otherwise that inhibits us from making the right choices. This is where we need to rely totally on our Heavenly Father. Ask Him to sift us and make us worthy of the other. Post Reply
View Profile History	What is a True Man Posted : 26 Jul, 2011 02:30 PM your welcome Post Reply