Author	Thread: Changing your maiden name
Admin	Changing your maiden name Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 11:18 AM Ladies whe you get married will you take your husband`s name? Yes, no, reasons? Post Reply
View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 11:36 AM My Dad is an only child who has two daughters. I kept my maiden name and hyphenated my former husband's name (with his permission). It is long, but it makes Dad smile when he writes, reads or says it. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 12:37 PM Similar to what Ridley said, my family's name will stop with my father's generation. He has two brothers, but neither of them had children; my father only had girls. So, once we all get married, the name will stop for this particular branch of the family tree. However, I plan to take my husband's last name. To me, it's a sign of my submission to and respect for him. I'll probably keep my maiden last name as my new middle name, and change my last name to his. Post Reply
View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 02:11 PM To me, it's more important for a last name to be practical rather than traditional. My last name is not unique at all, yet unpronounceable at the same time (weird paradox, but it's from a different language). The original plan was to ditch it without a second thought, but now the plan is to get some publications in the scientific literature, so like my mother, I will probably be stuck with my maiden name to avoid confusion on resumes, etc. The other thing I thought of it hyphenating on official documents, using my original last name at work, and my husbands in everything outside work, although I'm not sure if that's potentially unwieldy for people who might know me in multiple settings. If a guy has a really long and unpronouceable last name and the girl's is simple and neat, then it might even be best for the man to take the woman's. It's what you have to use everyday, so it needs to be comfortable and not a hassle for others to say. I'm also a fan of hyphenating, as long as it doesn't get too long. My friends who were given hyphenated (father+mother's maiden) names seem to not like it, and if I were to hyphenate mine I would not request that my husband or any children we might have to follow suit. Post Reply
View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 8 Jun, 2011 07:31 PM Daddy has two daughters, but my uncle has a son. I hadn't ever considered keeping my maiden name. Not as disrespect for my father, but out of respect for my husband; similar to BC. I think it would be a constant reminder of disrespect for my husband..no matter the length of his last name. Plus, my father would not expect me to keep his name..no disrespect there. Post Reply
Sugar_and_Spice View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 9 Jun, 2011 02:07 AM Well here in the Philippines once a woman gets married, her husbands surname would also be her surname and her last name would then be her middle or maiden name. Post Reply
View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 07:31 AM I remember when I was in college,I wrote my mother when I put my whole name.I forgot to write my middle initial which is the family name of my mother.all my aunties scolded me because of that saying I already forgot where I belong.meaning my mother.:laugh: anyway,I agree with bcpianogal we should use the last name of our husband as sign of submission.so my name + last name of my father + last name of my husband.that way they won't slap my butt of any of them.I will use my husband last name whateve it is.even if it is Dominggo,Primero,brown,Black,White,Monday,Tuesday,....etc..... Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 02:24 PM I just remembered a conversation I had with a guy at church several weeks ago. He said that if he met a girl who didn't want to take his last name, he would consider that to be a huge red flag because he would feel that she wasn't fully committing herself to the marriage. He also said that he would wonder if she was keeping things simple in case she decided she wanted a divorce and wanted to return to her maiden name. He admitted that perhaps it was just silly and/or paranoid of him to think those things, but I can definitely see his point. Post Reply
View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 02:32 PM Ok the guy last name is "weiner." Would you like to be introduced as Mrs. Weiner? I guess it would be a good conversation starter. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 02:49 PM :ROFL: :ROFL: :ROFL: I probably wouldn't even DATE someone with a name like that! Not after all that's gone on in the media recently!!! I'd think, "Do I really want to be known as 'BC Weiner'? Nope." Post Reply
View Profile History	Changing your maiden name Posted : 10 Jun, 2011 03:26 PM h e double hockey stick to the YA I will take my husbands last name! :) Well first off, when I leave my daddies covering (meaning I have his last name as well) and I transition to my husbands covering obviously I will be taking his last name. Its not just a legal thing, but I find it a symbolic thing too! Not just the ring, but carrying his last name is a way I can show honor and respect to my husband plus other things! I can't wait to replace my maiden last name with my husbands! Yay! hahaha :) Post Reply

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