Unconditional LOVE and conditional NEEDS ...

Posted : 21 May, 2011 06:46 AM

I've been thinking about this situation lately ... we are called to love one another as Christ loves us: with unconditional love ... and this is not hard to do once we have the love of Christ in our hearts, filling them to overflowing with the feelings of love God feels for us toward Him and others ... yet, as individuals, we each have specific needs beyond unconditional love that need to be met by those who unconditionally love us, especially a husband and wife, needs that are unique to us and our husband or wife ... and we are blessed to have our husband or wife meet those needs.



So ... when we talk about loving someone unconditionally, that doesn't mean that we don't need them to uniquely meet specific needs we have, personally, in our relationship with them, it only means that we love them still, unconditionally, whether or not they meet those needs, for whatever reason, just like God still loves us unconditionally, whether or not we're always meeting the needs He has specifically created us to meet in relationship to Him; such as: loving Him before all other Gods, and all of the other Ten Commandments, and all the reasons He created us and saved us for!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts:



For myself, uniquely, I need my Barefoot Special Wife to meet THESE needs, I know and shouldn't ignore as I seek her:



First of all, I NEED her to know and love God like I do, as MUCH as I do, to make and keep Him, with me, at the CENTER of our relationship, in our hearts, minds, bodies and spirits!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts:



I NEED her to LOVE to go barefoot as much as I do; to LOVE me loving her "barefoot gal" feet, sexually and romantically, enjoying doing things barefoot with me, caressing my bare feet (and other areas of my body) with her bare feet, and just to ENJOY being MY Barefoot Special In My Romantic Heart "Barefoot Gal" Wife!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts:



I NEED her to have and speak the SAME "primary love language" that I have and do of Physical Touch, as learned from reading and taking The Five Love Languages test for guys in Dr. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages book!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts:



I NEED her to love doing artistic things like I do, to enjoy artistic things like I do, and to enjoy doing artistic things WITH me whenever we do them together, wherher it's viewing or listening or actally DOING artistic things together!!! :hearts::hearts::hearts:



And so on and so on ... these and other things are SPECIFIC NEEDS that I have needing to be met by my future wife, whoever she may be ... while OTHER needs I need to be met by relatives and friends, other people in my life.



What are your thoughts, your understanding of this situation I've been realizing anew and thinking about lately? And what are some of YOUR SPECIFIC NEEDS that YOU are aware of needing YOUR future husband or wife to meet?



Love, Steve

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