Author	Thread: WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?.
Manscottell View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 25 Dec, 2011 12:46 PM We men seems to think we know what women want, but we can't seem to meet their needs. Women what do you need to make any relationship succesful?. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 1 Jan, 2012 07:16 AM "I'm not yet ready to elevate women to the same position that it requires spiritual guidance to meet their needs! Take a look at yourself: do you consider God's holy Spirit dwells within you? If so, then why are you (presumably) still single and on a dating site? " OH SNAP So well played, valid point, etc etc Post Reply
Manscottell View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 2 Jan, 2012 01:18 PM Thanks to everybody who contributed to this thread. Godbless you all. Happy New Year. Scott. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 3 Jan, 2012 05:07 PM What do women need or what do they want? Most women don't know what they need, and they think they know what they want. Women want Prince Charming, but they need a God seeking, God serving, Christian man. Prince Charming: ...fights for the love of his life, even giving his own life if necessary. ...loves the princess and no one else. ...provides the princess with a castle and no cares. ...is charming. :) Godly Christian Man: ... prays for his love. ...is the spiritual leader in their relationship. (He leads by example, not forcefully.) ...he encourages his love and tells her she is beautiful. ...he loves her first above anyone else, except God. ...he reserves his body only for her, and that includes his eyes. If a man truly serves God and seeks to please Him, he will be everything she wants, including Prince Charming. And she will treat him like a king. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 06:11 AM ...no. I really don't think there's much validity to this whole concept of "women don't know what they want, and they don't know what they need." That may be true in some cases, but it's also true for men. More like PEOPLE don't know what they want, or need. Except that many people do know what they want, and need. Women are not just stupid, lesser human beings waiting for some wonderful, possibly "godly" man to come along and rescue them from their frivolous desires and lack of self-knowledge. If you are convinced you know what a woman wants/needs more than that woman... well, that's why you're on this site, to be honest. And that's why you're single. And why you should remain single for however long it takes for you to figure out that your attitude is extremely degrading and unhealthy. Christianity doesn't make a man Prince Charming. A man can be genuinely devoted to God and still have no social skills whatsoever. A man can profess to be a Christian and still treat women poorly. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 06:12 AM And now I see that you're a woman, which I think I find even more terrifying than if a man wrote that. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 10:13 AM Hello, Godsgirl. I think you totally misunderstood everything I had to say. But let me say just one thing to you: Give me your response to my post in 25 years. I bet you will have a totally different answer. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 02:29 PM I think perhaps we are all talking about two different kinds of "needs." One is a general need, and one is a more specific need. The general need is what every Christian man should be. Solomon, I think that's the need you were probably referring to. And maybe us young girls don't always differentiate clearly between Prince Charming and a Godly Christian Man...but I think we would all agree that the qualities of a Godly Christian Man fit what we are looking for in a man. What many of us on here are referring to when we talk about what women "need", though, is a little different. Like Godsgirl said, a man can be a wonderful Christian, but have no clue how to behave socially. He can say he's a Christian, but that doesn't mean that he automatically knows how to treat a woman well. Same goes for girls; we can be Christians, but we don't all come automatically equipped with the skill set needed to be the type of wife a Christian man needs. We all have a bit of a learning curve in that respect, some of us more than others. One example of what I "need" in a man is this: I need a man who will hold me when I need to cry, and who doesn't back away emotionally (or physically) or tell me to get over it. I don't cry often, so if I'm upset enough to cry, I'll really need his strength and comfort. While it would be wonderful if every Christian man could automatically be exactly what I need in that respect, I don't expect him to be. How will he know what I need if I don't tell him? Perhaps his own father was emotionally distant, or perhaps his mother didn't want anyone to comfort her when she cried, and he doesn't realize that I DO want his comfort. He may need me to tell him what I need in order for him to meet that need. Does all this make sense? Am I totally off-track here? Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 03:15 PM I completely agree with you, BC, I think you are right on track. We all need someone who is Godly and trustworthy and honest and kind, etc. etc. etc. But I think the real problem is when we need something more temporary, such as holding you when you cry. These are things that we either do not know how to do, or do not recognize that we need to do, and that all takes time to learn. The problem is that unless we communicate these needs to one another and take the time to help the other understand, the relationship will not work. I think too many of us simply expect the other to just know what we need, and get frustrated when someone has to ask. If they don�t know, then we just don�t have the time for them. I have seen too many people who would rather go without a date for several years than to �waste� a few weeks� time giving someone a chance. Post Reply
View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 4 Jan, 2012 05:30 PM Not off track at all. Solomon, no, I really doubt it. I could get really ad hominem here - and oh, the temptation is so strong - but I'll simply state the obvious, again. Being a Christian does not ensure a compatible or healthy relationship. If it did, how would one ever choose? BCPG is right. Similarly to her, I dated a Christian guy. We were good friends, both sincerely Christians, seeking "God's will" if such a specific thing exists (I realize you may want to jump on that to question my faith, but don't waste your time, because I'm referring more to whether God's will exists specifically as it relates to the exact people I date, not the redemption of the world). He was quiet. I was not. He was a homebody. I was not. He was an introvert, I am more extroverted. Had we stayed together, this would always, always have become a point of resentment. I would have resented his not wanting to go out and do things with friends. He would have resented my need to do so. Both Christians. Both Godly. With completely different needs. Post Reply
ambershereflowers View Profile History	WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?. Posted : 9 Jan, 2012 10:00 AM a strong man mentally..can handle being the head of the house..honesty and faithful are tied in importance to me..and will treat me properly.. Post Reply

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