Author	Thread: Why do Christians think Physical Attraction doesn't matter?
Admin	Why do Christians think Physical Attraction doesn't matter? Posted : 14 Sep, 2010 06:30 AM I wanted to just get some insight into the world of Christian dating about attraction and the physical elements that come along with it. I understand that this life is short and we shouldn't be concerned with the physical but when it comes to dating and marriage...that is something that we only get here on this Earth. I don't believe I get to heaven and my wife comes running to me saying "I'm so glad you're here, I've been lonely." Till death do us part means our relationship ends at death correct? So anyway, it seems like people expect Christians (Specifically men) to overlook physical beauty and look at the heart. I know men are very visual and God created us that way (Why? I'm not sure) but do you believe we should pursue or even entertain the thought of dating women we are not attracted to physically? I know women do that all the time, but I feel like they are wired differently. I guess I would just like to hear some well thought out responses to this, because I seem to get a lot of ridicule for having high standards and wanting certain physical attributes to be there when I consider dating and marriage. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Why do Christians think Physical Attraction doesn't matter? Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 07:10 PM just to clarify... the couple I talked about in my previous post... they did not date each other... She was totally taken aback when he just out of the blue proposed to her... my biggest point was to not overlook someone solely on not having that instantaneous "WOW they're HOT!" because there are times when you at first sight do not find someone physically attractive but as you get to know them they become more physically attractive to you. Anyways, even if no spark ever develops you always have a good true friend. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do Christians think Physical Attraction doesn't matter? Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 08:27 PM I agree about maybe finding them attractive later...but....I have an issue with having "Good friends" of the opposite sex. I tend to stay pretty surface with women unless I'm interested in developing a relationship with them. For example, If I have a friend who is girl and we become really close, what happens to that friendship when I meet my wife? Just seems like a bad idea to develop a serious friendship with a woman when I could just spend time with my guy friends and get the same thing without having to end it because I got into a relationship. Then on top of that, if you are not interested and the other person is that just creates a whole host of issues later on. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Why do Christians think Physical Attraction doesn't matter? Posted : 19 Sep, 2010 10:05 PM I think one of the big dangers here is that you can't ignore the rule just because there is an exception every once in a while. It's incredibly unlikely that a guy will suddenly find a girl attractive, skip dating, propose to her, have her accept, and live happily ever after. It's also a much better idea for men and women to only remain casual friends. Every once in a while two people can make it work, but it's very rare. Post Reply
matt101984 View Profile History	Why do Christians think Physical Attraction doesn't matter? Posted : 28 Feb, 2011 12:02 AM @ Smili I dont agree with you a 100%. Consider Song of songs, the young man go into depth how beautiful his love is, and how that makes him feel. For us physical attraction runs deep into our core, we cannot seperate ourselves from it, I have tried, and I believe God made us to be like that, otherwise there is no way I can be fruitful and multiply. Concerning age, men become emotioally attached. If you been around for a while, and have a man of one type or another, in your life you notice they wont get rid of certain things. Like I have some old Ford trucks, they dont run, they just sit there, usless. But I cant bring myself to get rid of them. We have history, and yes lol they even (still) appeal to me visually. I believe its the same as our wives age. We are not unaware that time and childbirth and whatever else takes its toll, but for some men we wont have anything else, even if its a newer model ;) @Rightwing, I aint sayin having paticular standards is a bad thing, but sometimes for women its how you say it, not what you say that will turn a woman off. You seem like a good guy, and I believe you mean well, but I dont think posting that on your profile is wise, but its yours, you'll do what you want :) :yay: Of course it is a part of what you look for but it should not be the main part. Like Simli said to many Christians use the medias shallow unGodly view of attraction which is based more on selfish desires for someones else s body then Gods desire for beauty. Post Reply

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