why is divorce so rampant and also a last resort to a failed marriage.
Posted : 13 Oct, 2013 10:57 AM
Cat,
I try not to lose patience in these forums, although my flesh sometimes overcomes what the Holy Spirit directs...when I choose my will over the Father's will.
My Sunday School teacher struck on Romans 12 again which is a reminder that it is not my responsibility to get even with anyone. Romans 12 is a great chapter that tells us how to get along and respect each other...which gets back to the OP...we should practice what it teaches in our everyday life in marriage, with our family, friends, coworkers, enemies.
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Romans 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
why is divorce so rampant and also a last resort to a failed marriage.
Posted : 13 Oct, 2013 11:03 AM
Cat,
I try not to lose patience in these forums, although my flesh sometimes overcomes what the Holy Spirit directs...when I choose my will over the Father's will.
My Sunday School teacher struck on Romans 12 again which is a reminder that it is not my responsibility to get even with anyone. Romans 12 is a great chapter that tells us how to get along and respect each other...which gets back to the OP...we should practice what it teaches in our everyday life in marriage, with our family, friends, coworkers, enemies.
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Romans 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
why is divorce so rampant and also a last resort to a failed marriage.
Posted : 13 Oct, 2013 10:12 PM
Teach,
Please do not misunderstand. I was never even talking to IWalk at all in this thread. He took it upon himself to interject into a convo I was having with Benexcel, insisting I follow his own personal doctrine, but I never replied to him.
I don't know why, but IWalk seems to think I had talked to him, even though I addressed Benexcel. Any "issue" he claims we might have exists entirely in his own head, and I have nothing to do with it. I was only coming in this thread to read the additional questions Benexcel said he had for me.
Then, last night he came into the 40s chat room while I was there and claimed that I had "attacked" him. Completely made up. So, I ignored him in the room.
IWalk and I have never even had a private conversation, as my contact restrictioins don't allow anyone younger than 45 to message me, and I have never been interested in contacting him.
He is making all of this up, and I can't figure out why. He is a complete stranger and has no reason to behave this way. But, yes I did pray for him the other night, for God to send someone into his life who could help him.
why is divorce so rampant and also a last resort to a failed marriage.
Posted : 13 Oct, 2013 11:25 PM
Well, thank you for your prayers Cat...... and thank you for "setting the record straight". I pray that God will send His Spirit of Truth to you both. :prayingm:
why is divorce so rampant and also a last resort to a failed marriage.
Posted : 14 Oct, 2013 01:08 PM
Hello again, brother Benexcel!
Being a Bible-believing Christian, my 'view' on sex before marriage comes staight out of the Bible; and there are dozens of Scriptures reminding us to 'flee from sexual immorality.'
Just one of them is 1 Corinthians 6:12-20, my favorite portion of which reads (18-20), "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, Who is in you, Whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price (Christ's). Therefore, honor God with your body."
Admittedly, in my past (sinful) life, before I surrendered eveything to Christ's leadership, I lived as one of the world. But living that way never produced good fruit; things always turned out badly, causing a lot of pain.
Both times in my past when I gave my heart (and my body) to a man I loved (I was engaged to the 1st, and married to the 2nd), I eventually learned that neither man ever loved me. They just wanted to have sex with me for a time, then move on to someone else.
After each of these men crushed my heart, it took a long time for me to recover. The first time, it took about 8 years. This time, it's been 19 years since I left my husband; 18.5 since the divorce became final. I am now, just since late Summer this year, ready to give my heart to someone new.
But this time, I am being very very careful to choose the right man, with God's help. One who is a committed, Bible-believing Christ-follower with the same values and similar interests. One willing to work on building trust between us, getting to know each other platonically, and then waiting until after our wedding to consumate our love. And, yes, I would have to be assured--by some other-worldly clues from God--that this man actually loves me for who I am inside, as a person, before I will agree to marry him.
Unfortunately, the odds that there is a man in my country who is a real Christian and truly capable of love--aka, does NOT see women as objects to be possessed and/or used and/or abused for his selfish pleasure--is incredibly low. I find that very sad.
In case that does not answer your question, I am completely against pre-marital sex. Thank you for your question, Benexcel; blessings to you, brother!
