Author	Thread: Do nice guys generally finish last?
ArtisticInIowa View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 6 Feb, 2012 08:04 AM Okay ladies, this is probably a dumb question to begin with. I'm just curious, but why does it seem like the nice guys generally finish last? The only reason I ask is because that is what it feels like most days. Maybe it's because they don't believe I have a backbone, although it seems for the majority that they think there is a hitch.... You know...."Hey you're a really nice guy, but if I met you I'm afraid you'd be completely different." My recent question I was asked in regards to my divorce. I guess if I'm divorced it means that we both had issues, which negates the fact that I'm a nice guy due to the fact that I am divorced. My ex divorced me because she said she didn't love me anymore, didn't want to try to work it out and in the long run wasn't too happy with my quite controlling father. I didn't think it was to much to ask for a chance, but it's odd that I seem to get a "there's got to be a hitch somewhere" with the majority of women I speak to. Yes, I am real. Yes, I would give the coat off my back to someone who was cold, or the food off my plate if someone was hungry. I strive to be like Christ on a daily basis and am happy with the man I am. There is no hidden agenda, just a man who wants to find a woman who shares similar interests and wants to be happy and in love for the rest of their life. Thanks for any and all answers... Matt Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 02:59 AM Bcpianogal, your insight was really enlightening and refreshing, you're the only one here with enough wisdom to know not to bash the other gender and generalize blatently. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 03:54 AM Women these days give Simon Cowell and good run for his money and then wonder why we choose our xboxes over them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 04:18 AM Xbox eh? I can afford an Xbox and I really want one, but I don't need one. I have to save as much to sustain my shares and pay for being a university/college student. Can you guys tell me what happened to the American dream? The American dream went from self-determination to dreaming of winning the lottery... Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 05:01 AM lol no it didn't. How do you figure? Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 06:54 AM Ok rant over, obviously I couldn't just grin and bear it any more. Sorry for the generalities. If the boot doesn't fit, don't wear it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 09:36 AM The ratio of nice guys to bad guys is about 5% to 95%. Do nice guys finish last NO...they are just hard to find. :laugh::nahnah: Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 12:24 PM I understand where youre comming from IaoKim. I have no problem with women who are self-assured. But saying that nice guys are "doormats" is exceptionally rude and insulting. Im sure you have heard "Do unto others"? I returned the favor. If someone believes that a confident man will not "respond in kind" when insulted, and stereotyping all nice guys as doormats insults every nice guy out there, they are sadly mistaken. Any man with even a sliver of self-respect will respond to an attack, whether physical or verbal. I was brought up to have all the confidence in the world. I was also taught to treat a lady as a lady, but if she does not act like a lady, then... Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 01:01 PM I can understand what BC said about the guys who just seem to be waiting around. The one thing that I would point out is that it can be very difficult to be motivated to find a really great job when it�s just yourself. What is the point of working that hard when you don�t have anyone to enjoy it with? A great motivator for getting out and finding a good job is the responsibility of a family. I also think that you ladies are overlooking an important point. A big source of motivation and encouragement for men is a woman who loves and adores him. If you look back through history you will find great men who have done some amazing things simply to make their wife happy. All I am hearing from the women is that they want a guy who will go out on his own, work hard, and bring the money home to his wife so she can spend it. If we can be motivated to do all of that on our own, why would we want a wife? In the old days a woman would latch onto a man who had nothing, and they would work hard TOGETHER to build a great life. Women today want a man to go out on his own, work hard and get a bunch of money, and then women will marry him and reap the rewards of all his hard work. Not exactly what I would call fair. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 01:59 PM I think the ratio of nice to jerk guys is a subjective. It depends where you are and which group you talk about. For example: amongst college students, that ratio would even out. If you were in a rough place like a bar in Glenfield then that ratio would tip towards the jerks. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do nice guys generally finish last? Posted : 11 Feb, 2012 04:53 PM And there are plenty of us guys that don't mind a woman who is forward and pursue him. That is not ungodly. Post Reply

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