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stormcountry33 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 30 Aug, 2010 10:13 AM Why do some women who are in a bad relationship...continue to stay in the relationship hoping that their guy will change into the man they desire instead of trying to find the guy that is the man you desire. Why stay and try to change him when what you're really looking for is elsewhere? Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 12:03 AM thanks guys for your thoughts and prayers...I would let it go but I've grown very close to her daughter and her daughter has grown close to me and on top of that I've had these feelings and thoughts on some level for this girl for 9 years. so it will definitley be hard to just let it go. Spring rose is there a way I can email you? there have been other times i've long for your direct wisdom and insight. Pixy has helped too!! thanks again guys...still wondering either way where God is leading me. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 1 Sep, 2010 07:45 AM Ok youngins, I changed my age limit, but it will be temporary. If you would like to be able to contact me directly, send me a message even if all it says is "hi." We can continue to communicate after I change it back because you will be in my contact list. Later, Rose Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 07:04 PM Women have problems ending bad relationships; men have problems giving up on starting relationships. I'd also say that if the girl can't make up her mind (for whatever reason) you have two options: 1) continue to suffer emotionally or 2) respect yourself a bit more and find someone who actually cares about you. Nine years is way past the "pray about and see what happens" point. It's time to move on and start to heal. I know, I know, some women will say -- "No, you need to fight for her! Show her she's the one!" But if you want a different perspective, ask me. Your emotions matter as much as hers, and I'd call this emotionally abusive and manipulative at this point, even if those actions are done out of ignorance. Succinctly, if she doesn't know what she wants -- as hard as it is to take -- she doesn't want you. Post Reply
rhead81 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 08:41 PM I think there are different kinds of women. Those you are referring to are what we call "martyrs" and for me the culture has a big impact on it. I have seen many like these in our country and have known some. There are some common reasons on that: 1.) Some woman love their man so dearly that they always give second chances and so forth. They believe there is always a chance for a change. 2.) if they are married and has children already, they tend to keep the family whole for the image of a family picture in the eyes of the society. Being separated is a big thing. 3.) for security purposes especially if the guy is the bread winner of the family and the woman is just a plain housewife who takes care of the children. Some just rely on their partners thats why they have no one to go to and they just sacrifice. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 2 Sep, 2010 11:57 PM I've put some distance between us by simply living my life and not trying to plan things so we meet. This has helped me some but I still suffer with how I feel towards her daughter and how her daughter feels towards me. In the last two years her daughter and I have grown close. I know that may sound weird but when her daughter does things like sit on my lap for me to read to her or want to play with me with whatever toy she has...it makes me feel like I could easily be her father...or well her step dad. Anyway...I'm tyring to move on and see if she comes back to me...that old saying, but in doing so the hard part is going to be the seperation that comes with that between her daughter and I. She is the most amazing little girl. Alright so now that I'm a freak...I'll save more for later!~ Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 12:15 AM Aw, you're not a freak, Storm. I think it's sweet that you're so fond of her daughter. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 12:24 AM Giving up the mother doesn't mean you have to give up the daughter. My daughter really needed a healthy male role model while she was growing up. You can offer to babysit, take her to children's museums, go to the library storyhour... My daughter still stays in touch with a male AWANA leader that took her under his wing. I still thank God for the difference he's made in her life! Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 3 Sep, 2010 09:38 AM The hard part is that she is turning 3 this year...another year and a half and she'll be in school and I won't ever see her...ever. I know that she'll probably play soccer locally and if I am able to coach again, please Lord!!, then I know her mom would recommend me as a coach if she herself doesn't want to coach her...but just like today I stopped over at moms (the daycare) to visit before I leave state for a week and as soon as I see her, her eyes light up and she starts talking to me and won't stop. She just so adorable and with life taking place...well I just don't want to see this little girl leave me life...AAAHHH! Life can be cruel...I guess I could try to stay involved with the little girl but the mom may see that as an interest in her and while right now I'd welcome that...who knows down the road if I will. Life is also complicated!! God help me!! Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 4 Sep, 2010 10:22 PM For some ladies, they do not know anything different. They grew up in a single parent house and did not get to see how a man is supposed to treat a woman and the healthy relationship and interaction between two people in love. We currently have quite a few girls in school who do not understand that love does not equate to abuse. The boy tells them that this is what love looks and feels like. Without a comparison, they know no different. I am by no means casting stones at those who have divorced. There are many reasons for divorce and I am not here to judge. The old adage about throwing stones when one lives in a glass house is quite applicable to me. Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	Why do some women... Posted : 5 Sep, 2010 06:47 AM She grew up in home with a mom and father. He was her step-dad but I'm sure he treated her as his own. She didn't learn who her real father was until she was in highschool. So hopefully she can understand that she could find a good guy to raise her child in a loving home. Post Reply

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