Author	Thread: What's the deal?
TheLastLivingSoul View Profile History	What's the deal? Posted : 3 Jun, 2010 05:59 PM So...I haven't been on this site very long but in my general searches, I have noticed that a lot of young women (21-23) are looking for "a marriage partner." Really? Why? I mean...I'm not one to talk about age but don't you want to live your life a little more and experience stuff for yourself before you settle down? I mean, how many of you single ladies who are in between those ages and are looking for a marriage partner have been overseas? Or taken a cruise to get away from it all? I don't know...just seems a little weird to me. I mean if it's what the Lord has planned then great but it just strikes me as a little odd. Also, how many people have had success with using this or any other Christian Dating sites? I'm looking for friends or a potential relationship if it should work out but just wondering in general. Call me old fashion but meeting with a person face to face seems quicker and a lot more personable. I don't know...I'm not a doctor. Anyway, any feedback is cool Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the deal? Posted : 8 Jun, 2010 08:46 PM I'm actually on the same page as existlookingup...I JUST turned 22, I'm a dude, and I'm not necessarily looking for a marriage partner but if that's what comes of it-awesome. I've known my ultimate life goal is to just have kids and a wife, that to me is Heaven before I die. I've done a LOT of traveling, probably more than most people ever do in the entire lives, and I'm still (sorta) living at home, finishing up school. I'd like to go to Mainland Europe someday yeah, but I'd like to share that with someone! Only because I've gone to some thirty....seven(?) states, if memory serves me right, and I've been out of the country twice, to 4 foreign countries. Traveling with people is so much more fun than traveling alone-and I'd much rather do it with my girlfriend/fiancee/wife than a buddy of mine from a class or two. God made us to desire relationships, with Him and each other and it isn't really a surprise. But as Looney said earlier, people are actually getting on average, married much later in life-usually between 29-35 because America and other developed countries have us focused on building our careers solo before building our relationships. Our societies have usually too much focus on money, work, and a genuine lack of community. If someone young has experienced life and has the understanding and maturity to desire a Christ-honoring marriage relationship they should pursue that in my opinion. And I don't really think a whole lot really changes between 22-28 for a person, most of my friends I hang out with are singles in the 27-34 range and truthfully they do all the same stuff I see others my age doing usually. Just the lifestyle desires change. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the deal? Posted : 12 Jun, 2010 04:19 PM I think women may post that because they want guys to know that they'd take the relationship seriously. Ultimately, I am looking for a marriage partner, but that doesn't mean that the guy I date has to be the one I marry. I would just want a guy to know that I'd take the relationship seriously. I wouldn't want a guy to just have a fling with or "a one-night stand-with" type of thing. However, I didn't list that I'm looking for a marriage partner becasue I'm mostly just looking for a date and hopefully long term relationship right now. I'm only 24 so I'd like to travel and stuff like you mentioned before I settled down and got married. However, that's my take on why some women list that they're looking for a marriage partner. Maybe some are only looking to date a guy they could potentially see marrying very soon, but overall I think they might just list that so the guys know they're looking for a serious relationship. They're probably just looking for someone who's willing to commit to them if they click well. Someone who wouldn't play the field while dating them. Also, they might just want to let guys know that they want to get married, just in case a guy is wondering if marriage is in their life dreams or not. Hope this helps. All the best and God Bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	What's the deal? Posted : 12 Jun, 2010 04:30 PM I also agree with some of the other people who post. If you want to have kids, getting married younger versus older is best as you have more energy and health. Also, it can be great to live life with a spouse rather than alone, the longer the better. However, I think some people do tend to get married too soon, but I guess it all depends on the couple and God's plans. I've heard that marriages can be great even if the couple marries very young. I don't forsee myself getting married for a couple of more years unless God has another plan, but I'd like to before age 30. For women, our biological clocks start ticking after 25 I think. 28 is considered the prime age to have a healthy child. So after 28, the chances of having an unhealthy child are greatly increased. That may be why many young women seek marriage early. If there's a girl you're interested in but don't want to marry right way, you may just want to explain that up front. Maybe she'd still want to date you. She just might want to know whether you'd ever consider marriage or if you don't ever want to marry. For me, heaven on earth would be finding my husband and having children. I can't imagine a happier life. However, marriage and children aren't for everyone. Follow your heart and what you feel God is telling you to do in a relationship and you'll be fine :) Post Reply
sweettheart202011 View Profile History	What's the deal? Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 05:01 PM life to me is all about family and love i'm almost 21 and all i've ever dreamed of was being a loving mother and wife i feel that is the biggest acomplishment a woman can have no matter what age i am i know what i want in a relationship and my age don't make a diffrance and if you ask me marrage makes things more exciting and more injoyable and its something we all want in life so why does it matter when you want it and how old you when you get married your life begins as a couple and thats the best time to live your life right beside the one you love Post Reply
DanielleJoy1228 View Profile History	What's the deal? Posted : 29 Mar, 2011 02:21 PM A lot of these girls may have gone/are going to a christian college where there is a lot of pressure to get married with sayings like "ring by spring of junior year" and "are you here to get your Mrs. degree?" You feel like something is wrong with you because you haven't been chosen by someone to be in a relationship with, it gives the feeling that you aren't seen as someone valuable. I'm not excusing it, but I understand having been there. There are a lot of people it works for and some people that it doesn't. Post Reply

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