Author	Thread: Dating
Admin	Dating Posted : 13 May, 2010 09:14 PM So I was wondering why every girl I've met wants to date rather than court. Is it just modern cultural influences or what? Are there any women around who still believe in courting? Post Reply
aceets View Profile History	Dating Posted : 14 May, 2010 01:00 PM As far as the cultural aspect goes, courting is not practiced in my country. There is indeed a formal request on the man's part made during the ceremony of engagement. But this is utter formality. The parents play almost no role in the stages before marriage. Blessings Aceets Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Dating Posted : 14 May, 2010 01:25 PM Yes, Tulip, that's simpler. And my modified courtship sort of does that: has a few basic rules to follow that would work in most any setting. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 15 May, 2010 07:38 AM When I went to the Ukraine to meet my future wife we had a translator around. A lady that always was with us to help out. Like a chaperone. Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 15 May, 2010 08:32 AM northmanjack stick to your convictions. Hold out for the girl who believes as you do and dont be in a hurry. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 16 May, 2010 12:31 AM I suppose that I believe in something that is a blend of dating and courting. I think that we need to be careful w/ setting hard-and-fast rules that go beyond anything directed to us by Scripture... And I think we must use some common sense. Personally, I would be horrified if a man asked my father for permission to date me. I'd be so turned off by it that I'm not sure I'd even want to date him after that. If he could not respect my wishes on the matter, understand my viewpoint, compromise, and show a little flexibility, then he's just not someone I'd want to be with. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 16 May, 2010 06:22 PM Pixy, there was once a guy on here that wrote 4 post on asking your father about getting married.In advice on dating forum. I thought the ladies response was funny.I commented something also. However, I believe just in your case the guy must ask yur father.:ROFL: :nahnah: :laugh: Your brothr in christ,Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 16 May, 2010 07:40 PM Wow! I didn't even know yall was over here talkin bout this. Too many why comes! :laugh: I am amazed that courtship still goes on. As some have already mentioned, in our fast paced society it is not the most practical way of getting to know someone. I think it has the implication that people have no self-control and are not strong enough to stick to whatever they believe and are convicted to do or not do. I think here in America, it is a dated practice for a certain period of time in our history. I have watched a movie with dates and it didn't progress into anything unseemly. I am always aware that God sees me at all times. I am not degrading the practice though. If you can find someone that thinks and believes as you do, more power to you. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Dating Posted : 17 May, 2010 04:35 PM I am against courting. First of all the woman has not a chance to really get to know the man, as they are constant in company with others. This may sound very attractive as to her honor and reputation, but it also gives plenty of opportunity to keep up appearances for the man to constantly give the "correct" answer and behave so examplous. There is a very strong cheering going on during the courting where perfect candidates seem to be better friends with the father than the girl... Also, there is little or no room for arguments or differences in opinions, as there are constantly other people around. Either the woman keeps quiet or the man does not tell how he really feels (there is always this merry and cosy ambiance that both the girl and boy feel like they have to create) Also I find the courting too much fixed on the marriage. There should be, in my opinion, not be any stress or pushing towards marriage. People should have freedom to get to know eachother and also full freedom to say whether things are working out or not. Here also comes in the role of the mother who sometimes likes the candidate so much that she blames the daughter for not seeing the positive side of her boyfriend... Well this is just my opinion.... Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 17 May, 2010 06:07 PM SOS, girl you better preach!!! :peace: I hadn't even thought of any of that but those are definite possible outcomes. The Holy Spirit is there to keep us if we want to be kept. We always have a way of escape from temptation. But again, if you can find someone that feels the same as you, everyone should have the freedom to do it the way they want to. Post Reply
View Profile History	Dating Posted : 17 May, 2010 07:04 PM I know two young ladies who have done the courting thing. One is married and they just had their first child (he's too cute!). The other is still dating/courting until they both graduate college. I agree with ..... sorry I can't remember who said this..... who said courting is more for younger men and women then older men and women. And yes, it is heavily skewed towards marriage and I, myself,would rather date a person a couple of times before I decide (and have help from the Lord deciding) whether he would be right for me. After reading the postings and thinking about it more.... I would say that courting is not for everyone. Anyway -- if it is something you really want and feed led by God to do -- then go for it. Find a girl who also feels the same way and do your courting. Just be sure to post a wedding picture on your profile so we can all see it. Post Reply

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