Thread: Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
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Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 19 Aug, 2013 11:09 PM
So I asked a girl at work that I liked out for coffee, she said yeah and gave me her number but then she said later that we'd just be going as friends, then later she said it'd be cool if we got a whole group together from work. I wasn't comfortable with that so said "no thanks". Maybe that was her way of rejecting me maybe not but I think it was. Since then there's been no phoning or texting and when we see each other at work I keep the talk as mono syllable brief as I can. She acts friendly towards me and seemed flattered when I asked, but every time I see her I feel so stupid, embarrassed, flooded with self doubt and doubt about her and its all I can do to act pleasant and polite when I do happen to run into her or have to be around her. Otherwise I avoid her and not try to get to know her better and go out of my way to talk/flirt/banter with her like before. Seeing her used to be the highlight of my day but now it's the absolute worst. Even though she's nice, it still eats at me. My sister told me it's good that it wasn't instant or outright rejection and to not avoid her because women hate that. So my question to you ladies is why do women hate that and why should I care if THEY'RE THE ONES WHO REJECTED ME? In general what do you think I should I do with this situation? I'd really like to know why you women hate it when guys avoid you after you reject them though. It's not like you thought that much of them anyway.
Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 25 Aug, 2013 05:49 AM
Sissy,
Thankyou my sweet sister. God gets all the glory because I used to be the chief of sinners along with Paul.
My yielded life that enables me to walk the path God has laid out for me and the suffering that has come along and still comes, purifies my heart.
My strong will in rebellion against God to fulfill my own desires and flesh have been the very source of God to break through my stuburn heart.
Why does God do such things? Because of His great love for us. God allows great suffering to work out His purpose of bringing us into His presence through repenctence. Then redeeming our minds through His work and working out his will in our lives as we take on His yoke.
The yoke of Christ that is easy and Christs burden that is light.
When we learn how to divide out our selves to hear the voice of God in our lives then we can know His will. We complicate Gods will through our own emotions and experiences.
If and when we get our emotions resolved before God then we can ask Him Who, what and when?
These three questions and our listening with a yielded heart is our path of life through Christ as the Spirit of God leads our words and our steps.
Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 25 Aug, 2013 10:06 AM
"Is that an article I can find in any other book store,
Or its only found in christian book shops?"
It's just an online article. If you type in the name of the title and author in google it should come up. Also be aware he isn't a Christian and doesn't write from that perspective, but I still found the article helpful.
Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 25 Aug, 2013 02:01 PM
It matters not if he's not a christian,
However it would have been great if he was fore both parties me the reader & him the author
Would have related more cause he's idea of forgiving & accepting would have been influenced by God's word, whom is the only example of genuine forgiveness.
I'll googling he's article & read with an open mind.
Anything to do with forgiveness i'm interested,
I'm working on feeding my mind & heart lessons & ways of forgiving, untill I eventually beat forgiveness in my heart.
Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 27 Aug, 2013 03:48 AM
LTM
"....and the suffering that has come along & still comes, purifies my heart"
God's ways are really higher than our ways, and He's throughts are not our thoughts. How ironic is this...? That pain & suffering purifies ones heart.
Untill I was also betrayed by those I loved most, did I related with how Jesus must have felt when betrayed to death. That passage had a brand new meaning altogether after my own share of experience. It was as if I was in the same room with Him & He's fellows when He told them one of them was gonna betray him, the one that's even closer to Him. Could almost feel the volume of pressure & tension that was in the room as all of them asked Him worried if it was him & that other one asking also if it was him.
It trigured the memory of my father's expression when he betrayed me after I told him few days before betrayal, that I senced in my spirit that he was gonna betray me. He denied it & even bowed down on he's knees assuring me that he won't. That was unbarable seeing him down on he's knees, but I certainly knew he was up to something hectic this time around. I wanted to apologize but my spirit didn't let me (not pride dear one but something in my sences) I then humbly told him only time will prove he's innocence not verbal words. Not even a month went down before......
"We complicate God's will with our emotions & experiences"
Believe me I often wonder if all this has anything to do with God's will.
You keep qoating this verse dear on our private conversations, that Christ' yoke is easy. Why then do I struggle with sin so much, when i'm desperate to get rid off...?
Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 27 Aug, 2013 04:11 AM
Thats because you believe you can live a sinless life. We are sinless positionally but in practice we sin against God daily still. Some sins we know and some sins we can even see yet.
Do you think my life is sinless? Our lives according to our sin is about repentence. Repentence brings redemption and a changed life. This is a life time walk and experience.
More and more repentence and a changed life as we walk according to Christs yoke.
You see a yoke is what binds two animals together for a direction and a work. The larger more powerful animal (jesus) directs the path taken. When the smaller less powerful animal ( US ) fights against the larger more powerful animal ( Jesus) for the direction. Then that creates pain through soars. These soars are due to the yoke pressing upon the weaker animal and the weaker animal pressing back.
It isnt until the weaker animal learns how to walk in harmony with the more powerful animal that these soars heal and now unity is achieved.
So if we are sore about something then we can be certian that we are pressing against the yoke of Christ and need to repent. In repentence is a changed direction and then the release of pressure.
This is why Jesus yoke is easy and His burden is light.
Why do women hate it when guys avoid after getting rejected?
Posted : 27 Aug, 2013 03:57 PM
Renov
Just thought I should share this with you friend.
Two articles that have been very helpful in learning to forgive are: The only necessary thing living a prayerfull life, by Henri J.M. Nouwen
And Thoughts from the mount of blessing, by Ellen G. White.
I've had these copies for years now without paying much attention to them, until the appointed time which is now. Suppose God knew that i'll need them in the near future.
The one by Ellen G. White I only bought it cause I love him. It was the most appealing book in the market, but completely forgotten about it. Was more into woman empowerment books, pursuing ones' calling, living a purpose driven life etc
The other one was given by a friend. That one I enjoyed by Henri
I looked forth to my quiet times so I can connect with Henri. He was almost like a friend that was able to read my mind cause questions that were rising as reading, he answered them before the end of the chapter. Though I couldn't keep up with he's level of depth & maturity back then, cause I was still a new born in Christ, but was certainly fascinated by the feeling of connecting with a spirit filled auther , that somehow impacted my being in a positive way & led me to certain passages that I wouldn't have gone through without reading he's book.
This one was a second time going through it recently after a long time I haven't been reading it, believe me dear friend it was like a whole new book altogether. The passage about forgiveness went right through my spirit & caused me to argue with God until He was harder on me through a traumatic passage in Jeremiah 29 from 1-18. Had no choice (or I chose to forgive) so I can be forgiven too, since He considered me guilty too.
If interested dear please look out for those books, they both very interesting. Though they brought out the worst in me before forgiveness could take place. Anger was boiling to its clima....x, (if I should use the word)
Immediately after I was slowly but surely letting go of baggages from the past, and able to move forth.
Just thought you're worth me sharing that with you dear one.
